Q: Baby shower basics?

Posted Tuesday, October 16, 2007 7:44 PM

Q: What are important things to think about when planning a baby shower?

A: For you? Relaxing. You're in charge of keeping yourself and baby healthy, and enjoying the shower. Let whoever is planning the shower take care of the worrying.

Now, if you're asking because you are the host, these tips will help you deal with the basics. Don't stress too much, though -- the love, support and company of friends and family is far more important than any gift, theme or hors d’oeuvres

Time it Right
Best time for a baby shower? Somewhere in the last trimester. Allow a few weeks' cushion from the due date -- mom's water breaking during cake and coffee might make a great story, but not so much a great party. Having the shower too early, though (within the first half of pregnancy or so) could be -- quite literally -- counting eggs before they're hatched.

Plan Ahead
Get the invites out at least six weeks ahead of time. Don't forget to include directions and your phone number or e-mail.

Be Creative
Themes are great (think tea party, the nursery's decor, or baby brunch), but if the thought makes you squirm, try simply picking a color or style of food to plan the party around.

Great Gifts
This starts with the registry, of course -- the best gift is always one that's wanted. It's also fun to ask each guest to bring a smaller, themed present -- favorite childhood book, homemade frozen dinner, IOU for future babysitting or chore help, etc.

Make it Fun
Even if an elaborate themed party seems like too much work (or too corny), it's a good idea to plan some kind of activity. Try setting up a mini-spa with manis, pedis and massages. Or, if you're good with thread and a thimble, send each guest a quilt square along with their invitation, ask them to personalize it and bring to the party, and then sew them all together to make a keepsake quilt for the mom-to-be.

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re: Q: Baby Shower Basics?

i'm finding myself eager to have a shower already, but i'm only 21 weeks!  all my girlfriends have promised me a fun shower where we live with 6-4 weeks to go and a virtual shower for all my friends who won't be able to attend.  the most important thing for you to remember, just be ready to be pampered and the center of attention and have a camera on hand!  happy pampering!

Posted by aarons-wifey-to-be    Saturday, June 09, 2007 8:34 PM


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I am having my baby shower at 27 wekks because I am flying home to see my family in california. Then I am having the next one for family in WA the weekend after. I don't think that is too early.

Posted by Sydneys Mommy    Monday, June 18, 2007 4:22 PM


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Well, I will only be 19 weeks and 5 days when I have my first baby shower.  That's only because as one of many pregnant military wives on our base, we are trying to cram all the baby showers in this summer before friends move away.  My other baby shower will be when I am 29 weeks because I am also going home to CT to have it with my family.

Posted by MommyCBP    Tuesday, June 19, 2007 4:54 PM


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I will be 33 weeks but the date has already been set and the planning is much under way. That will be plenty of time to get things washed, put away, and set up before baby is due.

Posted by MrsPCallahan    Thursday, August 30, 2007 9:15 PM


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Mine's at 36 weeks, over Thanksgiving weekend, and I have to say I'm nervous about that. Definitely not too early to go into labor, and I'm worried about people not being able to show up. A number of my friends were kept away from my bridal shower by unforeseen circumstances (health problems, deaths, etc.). My mother insists it will be easier for some of our family to attend that weekend because of the holiday, but I don't know. I think it's going to end up being me, mom, my sisters, my pseudo SIL, and a couple of mom's friends from work. Not really the event I was dreaming of.

Posted by LoriFalce    Saturday, September 01, 2007 9:44 AM


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I will be 33 weeks for my shower but my mom is going completely overboard on the thing. Rented room, catered lunch, flower arangements, elaborate decorations, she even bought expensive paper to print the game answer sheets on.  This thing is going to cost over $700 for around 20 people and I am just woried that even that many won't end up showing up.  She is driving me crazy and stressing me out.

Posted by RedHeadRenee    Friday, September 14, 2007 1:10 PM


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I had my first shower at 23 weeks but that was because I was travelling to a different state where I used to live and my friends there wanted to get together with me.   I am not planning on returning again until after the baby is born so it was then or never (or ask them to travel across the country for a later shower where i live).  It was nice and was good to be in the "cute" stage of pregnancy.   I am having another local shower at week 31.  We will probably be all stocked up for baby after that.

Posted by orouram    Friday, September 21, 2007 8:33 AM


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I will be 32 weeks for mine.  We thought about having it around Thanksgiving weekend but I don't think we would have the attendance we want.  We did come up with a good idea though.  Have a notebook or scrapbook handy for the baby shower.  For anyone who shows up, have them right down their advice or newborn parenting tricks of the trade.  It will be a great personal keepsake and reference guide in stressed out times.  I hope it comes in handy!

Posted by JenDobs1019    Monday, September 24, 2007 3:51 PM


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I'm having my shower at 24 weeks.  I'm going home and my family wanted to throw a shower for me while I'm there.  Since I won't be able to travel much more after this and they can't all come cross country for a baby shower.

Posted by megachik@msn.com    Thursday, October 18, 2007 5:07 PM


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I'm having my shower when I am 29 weeks, which I thought was early, but I work in retail and so does the majority of my friends and of course co-workers, so that is why my friend wanted to have it before the holidays.

Posted by SunshineClarity    Tuesday, October 23, 2007 8:26 PM


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what if you don't really want a shower because you don't want to be around the majority of peple you KNOW the hostess is going to invite, no matter what your wishes are?

Posted by cajunangel1985    Saturday, December 15, 2007 11:52 PM


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I just had my shower. I'm at 33 weeks. We had about 50 people, guys and girls. What a great success! I planned everything! It cost close to $2000 for everything, but I don't consider that to be too much. HELPFUL HINT - No wrapping paper on the gifts! It saves time and is good for the environment! Also, if you have a Jack and Jill shower, provide something for the guys to do. I had Poker tables set up

Posted by HeatherAA    Monday, January 14, 2008 7:57 PM


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I am having a shower at 30 weeks.  I wanted to plan it myself but my mother was offended.  I am scared because she has never planned a party in her life.  But I figure I will be able to plan lots of parties for my baby after it is born so I have started planning the Christening Party already to keep me busy.  :-)

Posted by MrsW110406    Monday, May 12, 2008 7:25 PM


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My first shower will be at 31 weeks.  I am flying home to California to have it with friends and family out there then my second one will be at 35 weeks here in Indiana for my friends and husbands family who lives out here.  It is cutting it close but I still have exactly a month before my due date.

Posted by laughingwild    Sunday, June 15, 2008 8:03 AM


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I keep hearing people having 2 showers? Why? A bigger one and a smaller one?

Posted by nelliehamton    Monday, June 30, 2008 12:52 PM


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Probably one for each side of the family.  For example my family/friends are in NY and his are in TN so it would be hard to have everyone together at one.

Posted by immelbatoast    Friday, July 11, 2008 4:12 PM


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I am planning on having mine around 26 or 27 weeks because I wanted it to be before the holidays so that people would be in town. We are planning on having two showers because I have a large family with lots of family friends and lots of friends from high school/college. We are going to have a a family one and then a friend one. My husbands buddies are planning a "Beer and Diaper Shower" for him. It is really a cute idea because all the guys bring is a case of beer and a case of diapers. One of my parents friends did it and they didn't have to buy diapers for the first year. That is really helpfull!

Posted by brandibstuck    Tuesday, July 29, 2008 2:22 PM


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i am having one with work people and then family and friends.  I will be 31 and 32 weeks.  I feel bad for cajunangel1985 and her post!  I hope she ended up having a shower with only the people she wanted there and that care about her!

Posted by Mrs. Sawyer    Friday, August 08, 2008 8:39 AM


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Ours has been scheduled for 26 weeks.  Like others said, with the holidays and the crazy winter weather we wanted to be safe rather than sorry.  Plus, I wouldn't want to interrupt others time with their families during the holidays to come to a shower!

Posted by Jessis62781    Thursday, August 14, 2008 3:17 PM


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We're actually having four showers - sounds crazy, but that's the way it's worked out.  One hosted by my husband's fire department at 36 weeks (co-ed, always fun), one hosted by a good friend and her husband at 35 weeks (family and local friends, probably 25-30 people, also co-ed), a SMALL one hosted by my college friends/sorority sisters at 25 weeks (before Thanksgiving) and another one hosted by a former client at 35 weeks.  My husband and I were both raised within 20 miles of where we live now and I didn't want any one person to be burdened with a large shower, so when people started offering we decided to split it into several small ones.

Posted by cronbach    Sunday, September 21, 2008 6:09 PM


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Is it considered rude to expect a shower from a certain group of people outside of family?  A friend of mine is a pastor's wife, like me, and the church that she was serving threw her one.  I'm only at 20 weeks, but I've not heard of anyone planning anything.  I know that my Mom and MIL will both throw one, but it'd be nice to have the support from my faith family.

Posted by froeschleiniowa    Tuesday, October 14, 2008 10:36 AM


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why not have a post-delivery "baby show-off" versus "baby shower" for those who don't have a nursery set up or don't know the gender of the baby?  then friends and family still come together for food and drinks (and cake : ) )but get to actually see the baby instead of play traditional games?  then the new mom& dad don't end up with a bunch of stuff they don't need/want.  they can actually get stuff that is essential, not just cutsie.  seems more practical to me anyway . . .has anyone ever done this?

Posted by ams3377    Tuesday, October 28, 2008 1:49 PM


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My mom has already started planning our shower, and I'm only 5 weeks!! We're going to have one with her side of the family AFTER the baby's born, that's usually what that side likes to do so that everyone can see the baby. My grandma is also planning one with my aunts and cousins on my dad's side, and that will be before the baby's here...probably around 25 weeks.

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I relocated to Atlanta a year ago and so I will be having two showers one for my friends and family in DC when I am 28 weeks, and one in Atlanta when I am 32 weeks.  The one in DC will be a more tradtional shower with some games and baby decorations.  My baby shower hostess in Atlanta wants to do a theme party. However most that we have found are really expensive.  I would prefer (and I am she does too :-))that she not go bankrupt trying to throw a lavish theme party.  Does anyone have any ideas for a fun but totaly not expensive theme party?

Posted by biggirl4ever    Monday, February 02, 2009 12:39 PM


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Hi biggirl4ever. I am having my baby shower next week 2/28, I will be 36 weeks. Although I am not totally throwing the shower myself, it did start off that way. I hosted my friends shower last year and it turned out to wonderful. And I did it on a real budget. I went to the 99 cent store and picked up some things here and there, then the arts and craft store, got some glue and created the most cutest keepsakes. each one cost me about $1.25 each. For the winners of the games, I got a little basket and filled it with decorative soaps, candles  and goodies, wrapped it in clear plastic and put a big bow on it (about $5.00 each, I made 4).... everyone was going crazy trying to win those baskets. It was so much fun.

Just remember, Presentation is everything gurl! I plan on doing the same thing with my shower. Just be creative and original, that beats anything expensive any day!

Posted by shatinabrn1    Wednesday, February 18, 2009 11:37 AM


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I already have three showers being planned for me and I'm only 11 weeks! One is set in WI where I was born when I'll be about 33 weeks, and the other two will probably be before then where I live in AR. (I know, an 11 hr drive to WI is going to be torture when I'm that close to my due date!!) My aunt is planning the one in WI, and my mom and best friend are planning the two down here.

Posted by dizzy_chik99    Thursday, March 12, 2009 1:27 PM


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froeschleiniowa ... with church showers, if your church has a ladies group/mission thing then I would mention that you'd like to have a shower or party before baby comes, and say how much you depend on and need to learn from your faith family.  It's entirely reasonable.  

I'm not christian, but I do belong to a church through my mother and have attended many similar showers, along with a couple in the monthly meeting in my own faith. The gifts are smaller, but the advice and social time is invaluable.  

Posted by spiffy    Wednesday, April 22, 2009 9:53 AM


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Actually, I'm having 3 showers. My MIL and DH's cousins want to give us a surprise one since they live in Baltimore and he has a huge family with alot of people from out of town, my best friend is planning one for us for just our other family  members and friends, and then my work shower. I'm not sure when these showers are going to be but I'm sure they'll be before I get too far along since I'm due in September and that's a busy time where I work.

I agree, I've been to church showers and they are very initmate and you receive the greatest advice and time to really reflect about everything.

Posted by meka06    Tuesday, April 28, 2009 6:59 AM


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Is it just me, or did etiquette go out the door? I've never heard of a Mom to be planning their own shower. To me that seems like begging for gifts.

Posted by LanorigbRN    Tuesday, May 05, 2009 1:27 AM


re: LanorigbRN

I agree.  Not to mention that I found out recently that it's rude to have baby showers for any babies other than your first.

Posted by ladyaylena    Thursday, May 07, 2009 1:12 PM


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As for moms planning their own shower, that should never happen. As far as having a shower for babies after the first, my understanding is that it's not out of line if the next baby is a different sex or if it has been several years since your last child.

My shower is going to be at week 34.

Posted by heather0413    Monday, May 18, 2009 2:41 PM


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Sometimes, etiquette goes out the window. It's supposedly "not done" to have family throw showers. But most of the friends we socialize with are my DH's friends (and many of them have girlfriends, not wives). Plus, my family all lives back East, and the vast majority of my girlfriends live in other parts of the country. So my DH's family is hosting our two showers -- thank God for them! His aunt is hosting the family shower, and my MIL and SIL are hosting the friends shower (with help from my BF). We're having them around 31 and 33 weeks, respectively.

Posted by lorimcox    Tuesday, May 19, 2009 11:27 AM


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i dont think it's faux pas to throw your own shower, especially if the original giver has flaked out. because of a slight falling out with my aunt, i'm not sure if i'm getting one for her, but luckily i have back up in the way that my future MIL would like to give one, but since i know most of my friends who wish to attend travel mainly by public transport, i dont see the harm in throwing one myself, with the help of my mom. it's not begging for gifts, especially if no one has the time to do it for you...in my opinion at least.

Posted by spazz_mama    Friday, May 22, 2009 6:08 PM


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My sister is supposed to be throwing me a shower, but I am getting kinda nervous because all that she has said about it is, "well I guess I'm gonna throw you a shower, huh."  She just graduated from college and is preoccupied, with well her own life.  She hasn't had to ever throw a party and I am worried that nothing will get done.  What should I do?

Posted by Jenn-n-Joe010508    Tuesday, June 02, 2009 3:23 PM


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My sister is throwing my shower (26w) with the help of some close friends of mine. I am searching for any suggestions on what to give as hostess presents. Any ideas???

Posted by KimberlyAS    Thursday, June 04, 2009 4:30 PM


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I am having 3 baby showers. One at work, one in Central Florida where my husband's family lives and one in South Florida with my friends and family.  It's bad enough the one in South Florida will have close 40 people.  I really hate being the center of attention.

Posted by jaz465    Thursday, June 11, 2009 8:13 AM


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Im having 2 showers, im due in Mid October, but I asked my Mom, who's hosting 1 and my bff who's hosting the 2nd, to do them in August when im between 27-31 weeks. My pregnancy is high risk and I have a slight chance that i can go in labor by September. I want to be ready!, Hope for the Best! prepare for the worst. Now I cut them a month of planning, they are both perfectionist and love detail! and "shower, shower, shower" is all I hear around here!

Posted by lizarragaalex    Thursday, June 25, 2009 3:39 PM


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