Q: When should I have my shower?

Posted Thursday, August 16, 2007 2:08 PM

Q: When should I have my baby shower?

A: We put this one to our users, and it sounds like earlier is better... Here's what you had to say!

“My shower is planned when I will be 35 weeks along, and I would have preferred it much earlier for planning and shopping purposes. We had to pick the date we chose due to everyone going on vacation for Easter and Spring Break. Convenient for everyone but me!” -Hilarycee

“I had my shower at 32 wks. I personally didn't want to wait any longer because I was getting so uncomfortable. You want to be able to enjoy it as well as have the energy to deal with everything afterwards. You will need to wash the clothes, put everything away, and then go shopping for what you still need. Those things take time and energy which we are quickly running out of!” –sannice1979

“I am having my shower at 35 weeks. I think it is a good time, because I still have plenty of time afterwards to buy anything we still need. However this is the latest I would want it. Any later you are almost considered full term and could deliver any minute. I might not have enough time to buy anything I still need.” -alyadams

“I'm having a work shower at 35 weeks and a family shower at 37 weeks. It is later than most, but it's nice to have something to look forward to at this point. Of course we have to have the essentials (car seat, bassinet) on hand in case of early delivery.” -Sarah&JoeinSC

“I'm having my shower the next two weekends!! I'll be 31 and 32 wks. I think it's a good time for me bc I am still able to get around, so I can shop for what I still need and take back what I don't want.” -asned

“A work shower is planned for me tomorrow at nearly 38 weeks and I think this is WAY too late to be having it (I really did try to decline). I am uncomfortable in my own skin right now and I have NO energy come day's end to spend organizing. At this late point in the game, I feel like I could go into labor at any minute and that my thank-you notes will go out really late. I know people will understand, but it's not the way I like to do things!” -MrsFeisty

“My shower is planned for this weekend, when I am 36 (almost 37) weeks. Although it allowed me a good amount of time to add extra items to my registry, I do wish it was just a couple of weeks earlier. At this point I am too big and I tire too easily to prepare and set up all of these items. Although my husband will help, it is overwhelming at this stage. I wish everything was already here and ready for baby. Once all is set up, I still have to purchase, write, and mail thank you cards...all while being able to ‘go’ at anytime.” -tgifhim

“I had my first when i was 28 weeks b/c that was what worked best for my sisters. Honestly, I LOVED having my first -- bigger -- shower early because I've had a lot of time to go through what I got and set it up and get organized. Plus, that was at the beginning of my 3rd trimester when I still had lots of energy. I'm glad I got tons of big stuff at that shower b/c I can't imagine having to set up all the toys and such at 37 weeks. Plus, earlier showers give you more time to search out the good deals and order stuff online that you need but don't get off your registry.” -mamaerin

> What week did you have your baby shower? When would you do it next time? Leave a comment!

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re: Q: When to Have Shower?

My shower was at week 27.  I live in Europe and my friends and family are in the US, so it had to be planned around my trip to the US.  I am actually happy that it was so early.  It gave me plenty of time to get the things we need, that I didn't get at the shower.  

Posted by bridesrighthand    Wednesday, May 09, 2007 1:52 PM


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I had my first baby shower at 26 weeks---it was the only time we could do it. The next baby shower I will be 36 weeks. I am a bit worried it will be on the late side, but that's the only time that will work.

Posted by mrsgarza    Wednesday, May 30, 2007 11:40 AM


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My shower is July 14th; I will be 36 weeks.

Posted by ryanj    Friday, June 01, 2007 12:42 AM


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Nobody seemed to care about throwing a shower for me until the wife of my husband's co-worker stepped in. I will be 37 wks, and agree totally with the posts that mention how tired they are and how nice it would be to have time to plan out what you will need after the shower. Is anyone putting where they are registered on the invitations? I didn't because MIL thought it was tacky and DH agreed. Oh well, I'm just grateful that someone did care enough to throw this for me.

Posted by bride132    Wednesday, July 04, 2007 4:59 AM


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Any ideas on a Halloween Baby shower? Or is that too freaky? My family is planning a shower in October and I thought a themed shower would be fun. Please give me any ideas anyone might have!!

Posted by belinda21    Tuesday, September 04, 2007 6:31 PM


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How about a fall themed baby shower? You could decorate with colored leaves and fall colors, and eat pumkin pie and other harvest themed foods.

Posted by angie16    Thursday, September 06, 2007 8:19 PM


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I had one at 28 weeks, which was nice since it was on the earlier side.  For this shower, I registered for most of my nursery decor and linens so I could get the room ready.  My bigger shower will be at 35 weeks which feels a little late, but it is the only time everyone could do it.  I am nervous that I will be too tired and uncomfortable to really enjoy, and have lots of errands, washing, and organizing to do right after.  Hopefully, my mom and DH can help me.  Still it is fun to have something to look forward to (aside from the obvious!)

Posted by aleithea    Tuesday, September 11, 2007 6:36 PM


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I'm having a shower at 36 weeks, course I had my wedding showers less than 3 months ago as well.. hehe oh well :)

Posted by chocoholicmama23    Wednesday, September 12, 2007 8:45 AM


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I prefer earlier, but my friend who knows all there is to know about etiquite says no sooner than 2 months from your due date. I'm not sure why though.

Posted by babyroberts    Wednesday, September 19, 2007 4:07 PM


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I had my first at 20 weeks because that's when my sister was visiting from out-of-state.  The only problem with doing it that early was everyone seemed disappointed that I wasn't showing yet.  I had another at 30 weeks and that was fun too.  I wouldn't want to do one much past now (32 weeks) because of how tired I get.

Posted by Hijinks    Monday, November 12, 2007 4:14 PM


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I'm having mine next weekend... I'll be 30 weeks... My mom tinks that it's too early. I think (very strongly) that my mom is crazy! I keep telling her that will be perfect, especially since everyone is predicting the baby will be 2 weeks early! Plus, I get tired enough as it is already, I couldn't imagine doing a shower too much after next weekend. Also, I need time to go shopping after I see what all is bought from the registry...

I'm going to e-mail this to my mom...

Posted by cajunangel1985    Thursday, January 24, 2008 6:59 PM


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I just had my shower Feb. 23rd and I am 37 weeks pregnant. I was happy because all the pictures I have really show how pregnant I am! My husband and I went shopping yesterday so we have everything we need. It was also a day to see friends and family before I deliver. i enjoyed it, but do what ever makes you feel comfortable.

Posted by hillarysdogzoe    Monday, February 25, 2008 9:12 AM


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I'm having one at 22 weeeks and the other at 30 weeks. I think the earlier the better because then I will know what I still need and have plenty of time to buy.

Posted by cruzanne    Thursday, June 05, 2008 4:35 PM


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Thankfully, my MIL and my best friend are each throwing me showers and totally thinks the early the better. So  one will be at 30 weeks and the other at 32 weeks. My FIL and my husband are actually looking forward to spending time together putting together all the baby stuff. This way I will have plenty of time to get things done before we go away to the lake at 35 weeks and can just relax since I told my husband I don't care what he has to do everything for the baby's room, stuff bought, etc will be done before we go the lake for the week. So exciting I can't wait!!! It is coming up so quick! (I am 27 weeks now)

Posted by BriBri916    Friday, June 06, 2008 7:58 AM


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having a shower at about 28 weeks seems like a good time to me. it gives time to set up, wash everything, make returns, buy the things you didnt get and be able to come home and still have the engery to make dinner, or anything else you may want or have to do when you get home. my cousin was 36 weeks at hers, and halfway through, she needed a nap. When I have mine I hope my mother and mother in law get the hint I dont want to wait till the end.

Posted by xorusty05ox    Wednesday, July 23, 2008 2:24 PM


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I won't find out what I'm having until my 28 or 29 week. I'm hoping to have the baby shower by at least the 32 week.

Posted by tora879    Monday, August 11, 2008 11:34 AM


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I have had a lot of people ask who's throwing the baby shower, but no one has offered to throw it  I am a little disappointed with my "friends" as I am just about 5 weeks from my due date and nothing has been started.  I guess I dont care either way at this point.

Posted by thoper2010    Saturday, August 30, 2008 6:16 AM


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THOPER2010

I have had a lot of people ask who's throwing the baby shower, but no one has offered to throw it  I am a little disappointed with my "friends" as I am just about 5 weeks from my due date and nothing has been started.  I guess I dont care either way at this point.

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I share in your sentiments.  Friends have been asking me the same question and I have been feeling a little disappointed as well.  Now people are starting to say things like we shouldn't wait too long, but they haven't officially said I would like to throw it.

Posted by mrsotob    Saturday, September 20, 2008 11:46 AM


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Is there anyone here who has had a shower after the baby is born??? My mother-in-law wants to give me a shower after the baby is born because her mother (my husbands grandma) isn't going to be in town until after the baby is born.... I'm not quite sure how I feel about this.. I know will be having at least 1 other shower before the baby is born, but I kind of want all my showers to be over and done with. Are there any thoughts on this?

Posted by MommySteph09!    Friday, October 17, 2008 11:47 AM


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MommySteph09!:  I definitely agree with you on that one, hopefully by the time the baby comes you already have everything you need. Also keep in mind that once your baby comes you will probably be sleep deprived, and you will not want to deal with organizing/returning the new things you get. On the other hand a "Welcome" party for the baby would be nice so everyone gets a chance to meet the baby.

Posted by valenciacr    Tuesday, October 21, 2008 6:03 PM


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I am going to visit family in California in December, so an hoping they will throw a small shower then, by then I will be 27 weeks. I am hopeing my big shower here at home will be sometime in January (after the holidays) when I am about 30-32 weeks. I am kind of lucky because my cousin is very excited about throwing my shower (although she has not mentioned it in awhile)... Good luck!

Posted by valenciacr    Tuesday, October 21, 2008 6:09 PM


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As someone who knows a LOT of women who have suffered 2nd trimester pregnancy losses, I think it is a bad idea to start planning a shower before you get to 24 weeks (at which point you generally have a viable baby). Can you imagine how terrible it would be to spend weeks 19-21 planning for a shower at which you'd be 27 weeks, and then lose your baby? I don't think anyone should plan for a shower until they're at week 24, and if you assume the shower happens 6 weeks or so after the planning starts, then that would be about week 30.

Posted by crawtater    Friday, October 24, 2008 3:22 PM


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To bride 132, Of course you should have put the place where you are registered on the invitations.  What is the point of registering if you do not let people know where you are registered?

Posted by bbaarr99    Friday, October 31, 2008 11:52 AM


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I'm having an out of town shower at 31 weeks and an in town shower at 34 weeks.  The ladies at work are having a luncheon for me around 34 weeks too.  I'm comfortable with these times, and am glad I will have something to keep me busy (organizing, etc) other than worrying about going into labor!

Posted by Sarahland    Thursday, January 08, 2009 10:36 AM


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I'm having my shower at 32 weeks and then my boss is throwing me a work shower at 36 weeks. I think two months prior to your due date is a good time to have a shower as it gives you enough time to purchase what you didn't get for your nursery. Most importantly, you still have the time and sanity to write thank you cards.

Posted by krisfl9207    Sunday, January 18, 2009 11:42 PM


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I am out of the country with DH and I really hope I go back home in time to have a baby shower.  I am currently 29 weeks, and am hoping to have it by 33 or 34 weeks.   But that all depends on if I'm back!

Posted by radwae    Tuesday, February 10, 2009 6:32 AM


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we are having 3 with it being our first child and so many ppl in our family and also friends - -  at 25, 28 and 31wks =) I wanted to do them earlier so I could truly enjoy them!

Posted by BAUMBACH    Thursday, February 19, 2009 11:08 PM


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Interesting...I seem to be the only one who would not want a shower before I have my baby. Im waiting until afterwards. You really dont need that much stuff for the first month, so if you wait, you can actually see what you really need.  If you can afford to buy the essentials yourself before he/she is born, I think its great to wait until after. In particular for me because we wont know the sex of the baby until he/she is born.  I guess im traditional that way.

Posted by khrysler    Tuesday, March 24, 2009 11:57 AM


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Mine is scheduled for when I am 31 weeks, which I'm totally happy about.  I will still have time to shop for the things I don't receive and do a little nesting in case by chance I go early.

Posted by GreenSugar    Wednesday, April 01, 2009 10:58 AM


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We are having three showers, as well--one for my dad's side (at 33 weeks), one for my DH's side (at 34 weeks) and one for my mom's sdie (at 35 weeks). As much running as that will be, as my mom live 3 hours away and my dad lives 3 1/2 horus away, it's way less stressful than having all the families together. And the one I'm least stressed out about and expect to enjoy the most is the first one, so that will be nice. I do appreciate, however, that everyone is doing this for us. The one with DH's family will be co-ed.

Posted by alberta3499    Sunday, April 05, 2009 2:17 PM


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I'm having 3.  One is at 23 weeks which I think is a tad early but I had to plan it around my mom coming to visit.  The others will be much later.  I like the earliness though because then I get all the essentials right away and I can set up the nursery and have that done.

Posted by wissaab    Monday, April 20, 2009 2:13 PM


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My first shower was hosted by my coworkers and I was 30 weeks. This was actually a great time as it has given me ample time to wash and organize all the baby clothes and blankets we received. Also to realize 90% of people buy only baby clothes and not things off the baby registry. I am having my second shower with friends and family at 36 weeks. Having the shower so late is really stressing me out because there have been two people I work with that have delivered at 35 weeks. I think that 28-32 weeks is probably the ideal time to have a baby shower because then you still have enough time to search out online deals for all the essentials you may not have received during a shower.

Posted by polarbecca    Wednesday, April 22, 2009 9:29 PM


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I am having my shower the last weekend in May, I'll be 28 weeks along at that time.  I am due in August.  Everyone has summer vacation plans, so the end of May seemed to work best.  I also cannot imagine having the shower any later than that!  I already feel enormous and find myself exhausted most days.  This will give us enough time to figure out what we still need to buy, as well as return items.  I have not even started on the nursery yet!  It's really hard being pregnant and working, even with the help of my partner.  There is just so much to do!

Posted by newbie2009    Wednesday, May 13, 2009 1:01 PM


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My family shower will be at 34 weeks..and I'm not sure when the one at work will be.

Posted by MsErica72    Wednesday, May 27, 2009 8:13 PM


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I am expecting twins. We are having our shower at 24 weeks. We wanted to have it sooner than later, in case bedrest enters the picture. I also want to be able to wash and organize as much as possible before they get here.

Posted by 74bigred    Sunday, May 31, 2009 12:28 PM


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Is throwing your own shower a no- no?  My MIL has offered her house as a location, and keeps asking me when I want it.  I feel like she's expecting me to arrange everything...

Posted by teazr3    Sunday, June 07, 2009 12:21 PM


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My MIL and sisters are throwing my baby shower, I will be 33 wks.  One of my sisters is also pregnant - due 2 wks after me, and the other is planning her wedding.  (Yes, my parents are nearly due for heart attacks about now.)  Because of everything going on, I am helping with many of the arrangements for my own shower.  They are asking me what type of decorations, food, games, etc I want and we go shopping together.  It is at my MIL's house and she is paying for most things.  I am writing out the invitations.  It works well for us and I am happy to be involved!

teazr3 - My MIL was very much the same way when we started planning, but now that she has a better idea what I want (and my sisters' help), things are coming along nicely!!  Maybe you could help your MIL by getting a friend or another relative involved.

Posted by karydwin    Thursday, June 11, 2009 8:45 AM


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My mother has refused to throw me a baby shower!  She says that we aren't beggers or charity and it will not happen on my side.  I don't know about my mother in law yet, but my friends from college are planning something.  The only problem is, they want to do it two weeks before I am due and they want to do it on Holloween.  I don't think I will want to leave town that close to my due date and I don't like the holloween thing.  I guess I am just out of luck.  I feel like giving up and I am only 19 weeks and one day along.  Am I being crazy?  Or is my mom totally out of line calling me a beggar and a thief?  I am not offended if she doesn't want to do it, but her reasons do offend me.  I don't think baby showers are highway robbery.  This isn't the only thing she has said recently that has hurt me, but it is all adding up.  I love her, but I am at a loss.  She is the one person that I thought would understand and have my back.   It's not like I have had one before, this is my first child.  The first in the family.

Posted by Sheila.Scully    Thursday, June 18, 2009 11:49 PM


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No body cared to throw me a shower. I am currently 38 weeks. Everyone wants to wait and see what I am going to have. I was glad to have an aunt who gave me all of her baby stuff. I was also able to do a little garage sale shopping to get ready. My husband and I registered for neutral colored items and I don't understand how that isn't good enough if that is what we want. My mother flat out told me that no one was having a shower for me until baby was born. I feel that a shower really isn't a shower without a pregnant mother. But who am I to say. It's only my baby. I got upset the other day so my mother went and bought half the items on our registry so we were ready. Now what is everyone else to buy? This is the first grandchild for 3 of the 4 grandparents so I feel kinda smothered yet like no one wants to do anything either.

Posted by 4everurs    Saturday, June 20, 2009 2:58 PM


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My family shower will be when I am 30 weeks and my friends shower will be at 33 weeks. These are the dates that worked out for the hostesses, and I'm really happy that they are still early enough for me to have time to wash everything and put it away in the nursery.

Posted by TeamV    Wednesday, June 24, 2009 11:14 AM


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I will be having my first shower at 27 weeks and my second at 29 weeks.  Those are both out of state.  In this case, earlier is better for me so that I can travel.  There are 3 other showers in the making for different local groups of people, but those dates aren't set yet.  I'm hoping that we can get them in the early 30s.

Posted by CarlySara    Monday, June 29, 2009 12:32 PM


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