My Life as a SAHM
Wednesday, October 17, 2007 1:05 PM
When Wyatt was about nine months old, I decided it was time for me to stop working a full-time job, and to start my life as a full-time mom. It was a difficult decision for me: my mom taught me to go to the top school, get the top job, fight for the promotions in a career I loved, get the salary I deserved. But she never told me what to do with all that success when I had kids. I had gone back to work without blinking...but as the days went on and Wyatt grew older, I grew sadder that I wasn't there to be with him every day. I woke up one morning and resigned from my job. There went the salary, the dreams of buying a house in the near future....but I knew it was what I had to do.
The first few weeks were incredibly daunting. How could I jump into the local neighborhood SAHM social scene? What would I do all day long to keep myself sane? How was I going to make life interesting? Well, life with Wyatt has been anything but uninteresting: the joy I get from my relationship with him, the friends I've made in the playground and local hangouts, the time I get to deal with a different kind of stress (I'll take a tantrum over a project-gone-awry anyday) -- well, life as a SAHM is so much more rewarding than I ever could have imagined.
Don't get me wrong: it's not all fun and games. I have many days where I want to pull my hair out and where I cannot listen to one more Dora song. So, I thank heavens that I have been able to work out a part-time gig with my old job and some freelance projects in between to keep my brain going. My advice: If you can stay home, do it. You'll never regret the time you have to spend with your child. Just keep a part of your old life going....so you always have an escape. It's good for your self esteem, your marriage - not to mention your monthly budget.
What's your thoughts on being a SAHM vs. WM?