Q: Budgeting for baby?

Posted Sunday, September 09, 2007 11:08 AM


$30K -- just for the first year of baby?! Maybe.

Will you actually spend that amount? Hopefully not. But the baby bucks can add up quickly, especially when you factor in things like lost wages and child care -- not to mention the optional luxuries, like a doula or night nurse. Of course, some of you living in large urban areas may wind up spending even more than this huge chunk of change, while others across the country may get away with spending much less. The out-of-pocket expense can vary dramatically based on the cost of living in your area, your health insurance plan, the amount of gear received as gifts, whether or not your MIL is up for babysitting, and so on.

Check out the figures below -- we worked with financial experts to get a handle on the basics. Let this be your inspiration to write down some numbers of your own and do a bit of math with your better half. Happy baby making!

SUPPLIES: $6,500

Nursing + Formula: $1,000-$2,500
For the first six months your baby will only drink milk. If you are using formula, the typical baby will drink an average of $35 worth of formula a week. That adds up to about $1,820 over one year. After you introduce food, around the six-month mark, you will need to add an average of $2-$3 per day to that, given that a jar of baby food costs about $.75 -- adding up to an additional $1,092.
Ways to save: Breastfeed as long as you can. Buy formula and baby food in bulk.

Nursery Setup: $2,000
There are several must-haves. For a crib with a mattress, you’ll spend anywhere between $160 and $750, depending on what style and brand you go with. You’ll also need the following:
Bedding set ($35-$270)
Crib blankets and sheets ($8-$20 each)
Mattress cover ($10-$20).
Beyond the crib, a changing table will cost somewhere between $70 and $600, then add $40 for a changing pad and cover. A dresser ranges between $90 and $650; and finally, you’ll spend $90-$500 on a rocking chair.
Ways to save: Do your nursery furniture research and prioritize. You may want to spend more on the rocking chair to use for future generations, and less on the crib and dresser.

Baby Gear: $1,500
Invest in a good stroller ($30-$300). Find a high-quality stroller if you do a lot of walking. Other items for outside the nursery:
Car seat ($35-$280)
Playpen or portable crib ($60-$180)
Baby carrier or sling ($20- $140)
For at home, you may want a swing ($45-$130); a play center ($50-$125); and a bouncer seat ($30-$90). And you’ll definitely need a monitor (about $80); a high chair ($45-$240); a diaper bag (about $35); and a baby gate ($35-$250).
Ways to save: Buy double-duty gear. Some strollers convert to high chairs for an easy switch at the restaurant; and many diaper bags can take you from newborn to toddler in function and style.

Diapers + Supplies: $1,000
Newborn babies use an average of 75 diapers per week and up to 320 diapers per month. At about $.25 per diaper, that adds up over the year. Tack on two boxes of wipes per month ($3 each), and baby soap, lotion, powder, oil, and diaper rash ointment (about $14 month) and you have an additional $240 per year. Cloth diapers will save you money, if you plan to do the laundering, however using a diaper service costs about the same as disposable diapers.
Ways to save: Buy diapers in bulk and online. You can save between 5% and 10% through large orders and online deals.

Clothes: $1,000

On top of maternity wear for those nine months, invest in staple items for baby. You’ll need:
Sleepers ($5 each)
Hats ($3 each)
Booties and socks ($2-3each)
Gowns ($6 each)
Outfits for warm and cold temps (about $15)
Coats ($25 each)
Shirts and pants ($7 each)
Considering you’ll go from 0-2 months to 3-6 months, 7-9 months, and so on, you’ll need several sets in every size.
Ways to save: Buy outfits in multiples. If you see something cute on sale, get it in two or three sizes to save money down the line.

OTHER (OPTIONAL) EXPENSES: $24,200

Maternity leave: $8,400
Depending on your salary and work policy, you’ll end up with lost wages after taking 12 weeks maternity leave. The typical policy will pay between 60% and 70% of your gross income for the first six weeks. With an average 50K salary and a policy that doles out 60% of wages for the first six weeks and no wages for the second 6 weeks, you’ll end up with $8,400 in lost wages after 12 weeks. Below is a quick breakdown of lost wages on a 50K salary.
First six weeks: $2,400
Second six weeks: $6,000
Total: $8,400
Tip: Whether or not you’ll receive salary while on leave, map out your expected income and expenses for during this time to make sure you can make ends meet.

Child care: $9,000
Childcare is a biggie, considering that costs range from $5,000-$24,000 per year, depending on the city and childcare center. Enrollment at a daycare center costs an average of $12,000 per year. For a full-time nanny in a city like New York, you’ll easily pay between $22-$32K.
Tip: Decide whether going back to work or staying at home is the best decision for you money-wise. Also consider whether your employer will allow you to work from home; or your parents will take care of the baby while you’re at work.

Family plan: $4,800
It costs an average of $400 per month to add a dependent onto the average health insurance plan. Before you commit to a plan, sit down and compare your health plans to find out which one is the most comprehensive and cost-effective.

Support Services: $500-$2,500
(Lactation consultant, doula, night nurse, birthing coach)
Decide whether you’ll need an extra hand for the first couple weeks. Coaching and a helping hand before and after baby arrives will allow for more relaxed parents and a happy baby.

Life Insurance: $500
Run the numbers using one of many online worksheets to find out how much life insurance you really need to buy. You’ll have to estimate the number of years you want to support, and any other big-ticket items (mortgage, college) you want to cover. For a 30-year-old seeking a 20-year-term, $500,000 life insurance policy, you’ll pay about $30 a month. For a 40-year-old, the monthly premium falls between $31-$40 per month; and between $83 and $92 for a 50-year-old.

Legal Fees and Will Preparation: $1000-$4,000
Between updating your will -- to name a guardian for your child and outline financials in the case of your passing -- and updating your 401K or retirement account, you’ll incur some legal fees. A simple will costs about $400, and a more customized document can cost between $1,000 and $3,500.

GRAND TOTAL: $30,700


OTHER EXPENDITURES TO CONSIDER
Pre- and post-natal healthcare and hospital stay (if uninsured): $8,000
New car to accommodate baby gear: $10,000-$40,000
Renovations to set up baby space: $1,000-$5,000

Sources: Christine Zuchora-Walske, co-author, Getting Organized for Your Baby, American Pregnancy Association, SureBaby.com, National Association of Diaper Services, Finance.Yahoo.com


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That's a lot of money!

Posted by Knot Heather    Friday, August 10, 2007 10:52 AM


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Wow, if that were actually true, we'd be on the streets by now!  Good thing it's not.  :p

Posted by K.B. Squared    Friday, August 10, 2007 7:45 PM


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... or should I say... doesn't HAVE to be.

Posted by K.B. Squared    Friday, August 10, 2007 7:48 PM


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I know a lot of people who do it on a lot less than 30K a year!

Posted by Taracall10    Tuesday, August 14, 2007 10:58 AM


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I think that this baby budget is ridiculous! If my husband and I had to spend this on a baby we would be homeless, and so would many people I know. It would be helpful to have a baby budget that was a little more reality based. Counting in things like Once upon a child, other resale stores, coupons, places like kmart, ect!

Posted by xXEgerBunnyXx    Friday, August 17, 2007 9:38 AM


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That is absurd.  Buying things second hand (either from 2nd hand stores, or garage sales) and hand me downs from family members can cut down on costs considerably.  The vast majority of people do not need a doula, night nurse, birthing coach, or $4k legal consultation.  Those are luxuries to be purchased IF one has the money.  Many of my co-workers use family members for child care (although understandably, this is not an option for everyone).  Nice job with your "budget" that assumes a baby costs more than many people make in a year.

Posted by DR&RN04    Saturday, August 18, 2007 5:09 PM


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OMG this freaked me out at first since we're TTC.  Thanks to the previous posts I'm a little more at ease.  I mean goodnight...30k is a TON of money for a tiny person.  It is good to know how quickly things can add up like diapers and supplies.  Thanks for the previous posts...I was about to reconsider! LOL

Posted by ashleyua82    Tuesday, August 21, 2007 11:44 AM


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This is a little unrealistic... and a good way to scare people off from having children.  

Posted by Christina112    Tuesday, August 21, 2007 12:29 PM


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Reading about their budget made my want to give up right now. Thanks to every one for sharing and making me feel better!

Posted by Jessi&Jason    Wednesday, August 22, 2007 12:52 PM


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its very unrealistic. unless you're loaded, who's going to spend $500 on a rocking chair, $600 on a changing table and $650 on a dresser? for pete's sake! and $35 a week for formula is a little high, my niece whom i see every single day as i'm her babysitter goes through probably a can of formula a week and that costs $15. You KNOW they're going off these insane numbers and going by people by the best of the best of everything (i.e. the $600 BABY dresser. seriously.) as for lost wages, i doubt many of these people make $50k a year so $8000 in wages in a little much too. good think i babysit my nephews and niece for my job so i dont have to take maternity leave when Gabby comes in February! or pay for daycare :)

Posted by MrsAECook    Thursday, August 23, 2007 8:51 PM


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Thank God for the posts....I read this w/ some skepticism, but was still scared.  But I have to agree w/ the other posts....this is really unrealistic.  Both my sisters managed to do it for under this amt, and my husband & I should be able to do so too.

Posted by irishdem2    Saturday, August 25, 2007 9:40 PM


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I certainly didn't think we spent that much on our first child, but when I look at it, the numbers do add up! I was most shocked by the lost wages and the additional health insurance expense, I don't think most people calculate those factors into budgeting for baby. I was lucky that my mother in law took care of my daughter and my friend gave me hand me downs like strollers and a bassinet! I think the point is -- make sure you do budget -- whatever that budget is, chances are you are going to need to save so you don't go into debt that first year!

Posted by Knot Carley    Wednesday, August 29, 2007 11:38 AM


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This is outrageous, children can or cannot be so expensive. The parents make this choice by how well they handle their budgeting and finances. Children do incur costs and lots of them, but leave it to them to scare people off. This is so not true when you just want to raise a happy healthy family on a good budget with a decent income it is completely possible and let me tell you, you shouldn't need a swing, bouncer and floor pak to play on and if you do want all of them ask for them at the shower or hit the sale stores and garage sells.

Posted by jgriffin    Friday, September 14, 2007 2:05 PM


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Well we cover my stepdaughter already so there is noa dditional monthly health insurance OR deductibles even. In fact medically if we stay in network a baby wont cost us a penny more. Actually EVEN if she wasn't on our plan it would only cost 15 bucks more a mo to upgrade from spouse/employee to "family" and the deductible woudlnt' increase it's based on two, not three or four.

Most women have baby showers- esp those with high income friends'. Strollers and diaper genies etc. should at least partially be taken care of.

I am already a sahsm so we've adjusted to living on a single income and there wont be daycare expenses. And yes we may have to get a bigger car for travel to family, but it doesn't have to be BRAND NEW 10-40K Lmao. My small suv is about worth 5K now if I put 2K more into it I can get a bigger one.

And we just drew up a will, who ever spends 1000 to draw up a will better be damn rich and have a complex situation.

This is a crazy budget.

Posted by Praying4Twins    Saturday, September 15, 2007 10:42 AM


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Yeah well how about if you also add in the cost of INFERTILITY...GOOD LUCK WITH THAT.  We easy spent close to 25 grand before we made our decision to adopt.  The adoption is 30 grand alone.  The cost of our baby will be A LOT more than 30,000.  But if we didn't deal with IF and now adoption we could easily have spent less than 30,000 for the first year.  That’s a little bit steep but I think everyone needs to be aware that having a baby isn't cheap and if you think it is...think again.  

Posted by lrrb    Tuesday, September 18, 2007 10:10 AM


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I admit we did not create a budget at all before having our baby -- probably not the best idea, so I'm glad to see all of you are having the foresight to plan things out really well ahead of time!  I find that the hugest chunk of change we spend is on child care. We are not fortunate enough to have family nearby enough to do it, and we both work full time. It is very expensive! Next would be formula and diapers, for sure.  As your baby grows and goes into bigger size diapers, the packages get more and more expensive. I didn't know this! We try to buy in bulk at Target or online, which helps. I collect coupons as much as I can, too. I find that baby clothing and toiletry supplies are fairly inexpensive and you get a lot of that as gifts, anyway. Sharing things with friends is also key to saving some money, since you only use much of the gear for such a  short period of time.

Posted by Bump Lori    Monday, September 24, 2007 3:58 PM


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has anyone heard of thrift shops and hand me downs? how about homemade baby food?

Posted by LorieA    Monday, October 08, 2007 12:56 PM


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Hand me downs are great... also, keep anything you do get if you or any of your family are planning on another little one down the road- That in itself will save tons! Spending so much on the first child doesn't seem so ridiculous when you spread it out over two or three children.

Also, stock up on diapers, formula, etc.. whenever you see it on sale- Diapers especially never expire- and if your little one grows out of them before you use a box, they can be a great shower gift for a friend who's expecting! BUY BOXES, not bags! A box has essentially 2 "bags" inside of it, for about $20 bucks, when a large package costs 15... you save $10 a box- not to mention gas costs because you're not going to the store twice a week to buy diapers! And the coupons Huggies or Pampers send you- they are your friends- look for "double coupon" days at your local store and use to your advantage!

Formula- use powder- much cheaper, especially the larger cans at the wholesale stores, you don't have to worry about warming it up (just add warm water!), you can put it in the bottle, take it on the go, and add water when you get wherever- less weight (and you'll be grateful to carry less on you with a baby on your hip)

Baby food- invest in a food grinder (hand ones cost like, $4, but those things are sturdy- they'll last through all your kids!) Or, bust out that food processor that's been sitting under the counter gathering dust. Make up a bunch of whatever, freeze it in an ice cube tray, and put a couple of cubes in a ziplock baggie- voila, frozen dinners. Too, just grind up a bit of what you're having for dinner that night- it'll help baby get used to the idea that this is what we ALL eat for dinner, rather than baby always gets a special meal.  Do buy jars for going out to eat though- it really is just more convienient.

I was a single mom with my first baby and probably spent between 2 and 3 thousand- it is doable!

Posted by Tonya_G    Friday, December 07, 2007 10:21 PM


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I found this article really helpful. Even before reading the comments I realized they were talking about the high end value which I can see being the case if you buy everything new and live in a bigger city where things are more expensive.

What I found helpful was the breakdown of the different areas. I had not thought about the maternity pay being less than 100%, so I am now going to check with my employers policy on that. Also I would have overestimated on the diapers and supplies sections had I been doing this budget with no other information.

I'm just in the thinking about having a baby stage and was looking for some estimates on the doctors fee's involved (listed here as $8K if uninshured) so I found what I was looking for too!

Posted by donthugapalmtree    Wednesday, January 02, 2008 4:50 PM


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Personally,I think a lot of it is what part of the country you live in, and if you are one of those parents who thinks their child has to have "everything" for their child and their nursery.My sister-in-law and I had babies close together and she thinks she has to have EVERYTHING she sees and spends a lot of money on things she barely uses.A lot of it, she got rid of before her baby turned two months old so, she could get MORE stuff. Me, I bought a few new things but, most of what I got  was given to me, kept from my first two babies,or bought from resale shops and garage sales. My husband and I sat down and added expenses and it is cheaper for me to stay home with our three kids, [also breastfeeding the baby]rather than work  and pay a babysitter or daycare.so, I will try to get a job when the baby is a little older.Also, when my mother-in-law found out about my last pregnancy, she kept saying we can't afford another child and started sending newspapers from the west coast where she lives to "Prove" she was right.The news paper articles said  one parent supporting their child has to make at least one hundred thousand a year, per a child. I laughed  when I read that.She still thinks she's right.Ridiculous.

Posted by charlene29    Saturday, June 14, 2008 12:31 AM


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First off, I think a $300 crib is outrageous and a $40 changing table pad...Has anyone heard of Wal-Mart or K-Mart? Who lives like that? A majority of the U.S. Population lives pay check to pay check, maybe we should write these articles instead of having someone say this is exactly what it will cost you. Besides, with a baby shower and a good support group and family a majority of my costs were slashed by 60 %.

Posted by amb97    Sunday, June 22, 2008 11:32 AM


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Now this budget is kind of high and I am wondering if there is one made up for us ladies who live in Canada?

Posted by Laura090807    Sunday, July 06, 2008 11:39 PM


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I'm so glad my husband is in the military. Most of the "optional" expenses will never be an issue since they pay for the baby's birth, health insurance, life insurance for all of us, plus our cost to draw up new wills. We'll alos defitnitely shop around at consignment shops and use the things our parents kept of ours (blankets, toys--like the puppy you pulled on the string, what child still doesn't love that?).

Posted by McCoffee    Saturday, July 19, 2008 2:22 PM


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Ok, does anyone know where I can find a more realistic budget?

Posted by charytidol    Tuesday, July 22, 2008 7:05 PM


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There is no way every couple has that to spend. A doula isnt a nessesity.  birthing coach- thats what a husband is for and hospitals usually have classes to teach you and your spouse. looking back on my mother- coupons are great, special offers, walmart, you can get all the same things at walmart- for better prices. hand me downs... awesome. I have a hand me down baby bjorn, crib, booster seat, swing, carseat, walker,exersaucer, books, and many more things. I think i have at least 3 or 4 grand worth of hand me down or used for one baby type items. it can really save you a lot.

Posted by xorusty05ox    Wednesday, July 23, 2008 2:35 PM


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oh- and tag sales... i bought a 250.00 video baby monitor from brookstone  for 10.00 at a childrens sale at a school.

Posted by xorusty05ox    Wednesday, July 23, 2008 2:41 PM


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Ridiculous! There are plenty of ways to save money, (diy, "hand-me-downs" or just skip alot of un-necesary junk). Although I'm a first time mom,  I've been a nanny and been in child care 12 years (for 0-12 year olds).  Most of the stuff that new moms told me their baby had to have the baby could care nothing about.  As long as your child has minimal basics there's no reason to go crazy.  xorusty05ox is SMART!!!  Take her advice and don't be afraid of having a children due to the "average cost."

Posted by stevandaud    Tuesday, August 05, 2008 7:11 PM


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Thanks to all the moms out there whose comments put it all into perspective for those of us who haven't been through it and have no idea what to expect!

Posted by simplesara    Monday, September 22, 2008 3:45 PM


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I am not sure about how much a baby will cost, due to this being my first child. But my husband sells Life Insurance for Primerica and their life insurance for children is 3 dollars a month per $5000 in coverage! So really a child only needs about $10,000 in coverage that does not equal $500 a year! CRAZY!

Posted by mama_t    Monday, September 22, 2008 4:07 PM


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I hate to say it, but I think this budget is very realistic.  I agree that there are many ways to cut corners to save and not everything necessarily applies to everone, but the numbers they are saying sound accurate to me.  I was able to get all my furniture second hand (so I spend $400 on the room, not $2,000).  I have seen gorgeous wood cribs go for $1,200 +.  It's really about how much you want to spend.  But day care is huge.  Diapers add up.  And formula isn't cheap.  And even WITH health insurance, I already owe $900 out of pocket (I am only 5 months along!).

Also - many women have baby showers for their first child, and reuse what they get on baby #2, etc.

Posted by scraver2003    Thursday, September 25, 2008 10:16 AM


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THIS SCARED ME A BIT SINCE WE ARE TTC. IM NOT SURE WHAT TO THINK NOW

Posted by APALEN84    Tuesday, September 30, 2008 2:26 PM


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I live in the SF Bay area, and this gear/clothes budget was actually under what I see many moms spend who push their $1000 strollers on the Avenue near my apartment.  We're thinking about babies, and most of my friends are parents.  Children definitely need not be expensive, but like everyone said its all in what one chooses is "necessary" whether that be a fabulous stroller, a chic wardrobe, or food and a debt-free lifestyle.  Yay for moms who can afford all the fab baby gear.  The pressure can be pretty serious in some areas...sad that children, following the dog craze, have become the latest in-vogue fashion statement.  If we do conceive while we still live here, heaven help me to escape unscathed from consumerism and indulgence, and turning a precious life into a status symbol.

Posted by slmeyers    Wednesday, October 01, 2008 8:25 PM


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I don't even cost that much per year! Thank God that is an insane budget. Don't worry ladies, we will all be fine. Just live within your means and do the best you can. No need to impress anyone with a nursery that cost $3,000.

Posted by mrsandrews07    Saturday, October 18, 2008 11:35 AM


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I know a lot of people say the figures are ridiculous but I think it is important to put them out there because I know people who would spend that much without even thinking on it - without even realizing that it adds up so quickly. I am blessed to have a sis-in-law 8 years ahead of me so i get everything handed down good as new, but we would be buying lots of what is on that list if we didn't have family ties.

Posted by acrlyhed    Thursday, November 13, 2008 3:34 PM


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If you have a baby shower your friends and family will buy plenty of things for you. At my baby shower I received plenty of clothes, some diapers, a car seat, and  high chair. Don't stress out about the money, just pay attention on what is important to you and let that guide your purchases.

Posted by missshey    Sunday, November 30, 2008 5:20 PM


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Thank goodness you gals say this isn't so... it wouldn't work for us otherwise!  Good thing all my friends have babies and I'm sure they'd be happy to share the goods!

Posted by MsU    Sunday, November 30, 2008 8:59 PM


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Seriously?! 30k. By the time you get all the gifts that people will give and all the diapers and clothes, and find a Costco or Walmart near you, you would spend way less than that. With my son, he was almost one before we actually bought anything out of our pockets.

THis must be the Brangelina budget.

Posted by eokorie    Thursday, December 04, 2008 8:17 PM


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Remember, folks, this budget does suggest a range. But I think the biggest thing for people to pay attention to is the cost after baby gets here. I have friends who chose to stay at home because childcare costs were outrageous; it was more cost-effective for them to quit working than to keep their jobs (admittedly, I live in SoCal -- everything's more expensive here).

For pre-baby spending, I figure I'll spend the majority of my money on getting:

-a crib that can convert. The kid's going to be sleeping on this thing for the next 18 years. Seems like a good investment.

-a great breast pump. I'll use it again and again, and I've heard horror stories from friends with crappy pumps.

Posted by lorimcox    Monday, December 08, 2008 2:26 PM


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WOW this list would make DH and I think again about TTC, but luckily you ladies are saying it can be much cheaper than this.

Posted by Hill's Wifey    Tuesday, December 09, 2008 9:38 AM


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This budget frightened me, especially since we're expecting twins!  My biggest concern is daycare.  It is so expensive.

Posted by linday121    Monday, December 29, 2008 7:10 PM


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I'm planning on using breast milk as long as humanly possible and cloth diapers. Hopefully we won't have to go the daycare route, but depending on what my husbands hours turn out to be and with me starting school this fall that will probably end up happening. We've already got a crib which converts into a toddler bed for just $150! I'm hoping for a lot of hand me down stuff.

Posted by margaret_howell    Saturday, January 03, 2009 1:48 PM


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oh yeah, and I've been looking online at recipes for making baby food, I'm hoping that will help with costs.

Posted by margaret_howell    Saturday, January 03, 2009 1:48 PM


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This posting was helpful because it showed all of the different types of expenses that we will come across.  It is a conservative view of what we will have to spend.  Obviously, it will not cost $30k, that is why a range of prices is listed for a majority of the expenses.  My husband and I created a budget long ago and we expect our totals to be less than half of this figure.  Thank goodness!

Posted by michelle marilyn    Monday, January 05, 2009 10:37 AM


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My DH and I don't even make $30K combined!!!  I hope it's not anywhere near that much.

Posted by ic2000    Sunday, January 11, 2009 9:41 PM


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We are expecting our second baby and the best advice I could give is to know what your employers maternity leave policy is before you conceive.  Personally, I have saved up enough sick and vacation time that I will take off 8 weeks and not lose any wages.  I was worried last time but it was easy to find things to cut from the budget- especially money we used to spend on movies, dining out etc.  

Posted by nvbride2b    Monday, January 12, 2009 2:54 PM


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This is in response to some of the comments about salaries... First, it really isn't unheard of for a mother to earn a $50k+ salary. While this budget does sound like it covers a lot of things that not every mommy-to-be may plan on purchasing, I think the point is that people need to have an idea of what their child COULD end up costing and of how to limit spending, if necessary. Just because people WANT a baby doesn't mean they SHOULD have one. Some people just plain do not have the money to afford a baby. It might be helpful to know this before trying. People want to make it work, and they need to sit down and see if it is possible. It isn't enough to simply have the desire, and some people get greedy by thinking they "deserve" a child, just like anyone else. As adults, and future parents, we need to be prepared to give our children proper care and to be alert to unexpected situations. As we all know, there are plenty of people out there who rely on the government (other people's tax money) to raise their babies. So no, you do not need to be rich to have a baby, and you do not need everything included in this budget. But please be responsible, and do consider the life you want to give your child. If you are already cutting corners to support yourself, do you really want to bring a baby into the world right now?

Posted by jokersfeet    Thursday, January 15, 2009 5:14 PM


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I'm commenting on an old post that was on here about buying a crib that converts because the child is going to sleep in it for the next 18 years. Really? you're going to make them sleep in the same bed for that long?

Posted by TBjornsson    Thursday, January 22, 2009 4:55 PM


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This budget seems really high! Even with a pram that was special ordered from Milan, top of the line everything and custom nursery bedding I still don't think I spent 30K.

Posted by alefranc    Saturday, January 31, 2009 8:07 PM


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I am not sure what my overall costs are so far.. but i'm not doing an elaborate nursery. I do tons of hand me downs and second hand store shopping. But I am also on WIC for food right now because there is no way we were able to keep up even with just the pregnancy (i got super sick) and medicare for the doctors. But I still don't see us spending this much. It'll be a lot because of where we live... there aren't any competitors but we can still budget better than what this accounts for i think; Luckily!

Posted by AllySchuetzler    Thursday, February 05, 2009 4:28 AM


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Having had a child early in life @ 17, I def know ALL the financial responsibility that comes with having a child. & you know what? We made it!

With help from friends, family members, second shops & garage sales. I'm happy to say my daughter is a happy, healthy, & vibrant eight year old looking forward to the new addition to our family. Was it easy?? Hell No! Am I concerned the second time around? Of course! You obviously don't NEED all these things to raise a well adjusted human to join the race BUT I will say it helps to give yourself a guideline & a budget to work with & these tips I've written down & discuss with my husband because in this day & age we All need all the help we can get!

Posted by Dairel78    Friday, February 06, 2009 9:25 PM


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I found out from my sister that you can actually freeze your breastmilk and it's good for up to 6 months.  I didn't know you can actually do this but apparently it works because her best friend's sister did it.  It would save a lot of money on formula.  However, you would have to have a good flow of milk.  

Posted by zbautista    Wednesday, February 18, 2009 1:16 PM


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Thank you for the posts, my hubby is big on budgeting and is totally freaking I'm going to send this to him and hopefully he also reads the posts.

Posted by livinthedream4life    Thursday, February 19, 2009 5:06 PM


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OMG, I don't think kids are that expensive especially if you have a lot of stuff already.  I know daipers and that kind of stuff are a lot but as far as dresser Ikea for way cheap not to mention my husband and I already have one that we can use for the baby.  It is a small one for small clothes.  Wow, I'm really glad that a lot of other people think this budget is bogus.

Posted by amanda.addie    Thursday, February 26, 2009 7:29 PM


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This is ridiculous!  At first I wanted to be surprised, but then I remembered all the "must-have" wedding items from theknot!  

Posted by taratru    Sunday, March 08, 2009 10:36 PM


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Diaper laundering service?? Seriously?  It's as though they aren't even trying to give people a REALISTIC budget or trying to help them save money.

Posted by ainjals    Monday, March 30, 2009 9:12 AM


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We live in Silicon Valley, where licensed infant care is $1,400-1,800 per month (or more)... so that's an average of $1,600 x 12 months = $19,200 PER YEAR in daycare costs alone.  For our baby we'll still have lost wages, medical insurance premiums ($300 x 12 = $3,600/year), nursery furniture costs, diapering, food, clothing, stroller, car seat and all the other needs... even with Walmart prices we will be over $40,000.

So although many people believe this is "unrealistic", $30,000 in expenses for your first born is LESS THAN REALISTIC IN THE SF BAY AREA, especially when daycare cost are so high here.

Posted by mimijoseph    Tuesday, April 14, 2009 12:33 AM


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This IS unrealistic! However my husband and I do have friends that probably spent more due to poor planning! Things like cloth diapers, breast feeding, and second hand stores are a MUST to make it affordable. Crigs list of furnishings! And staying at home rather than paying for child care takes costs way down to next to nothing once these things are bought. I'm all for giving your children the best but realistically its not like they are going to remember that their dresser was not the same exact finish as their crib, or that it didn't come from a store! They are just going to color on it one day anyways! The biggest cost we have encountered is getting a larger vehicle, my husband and I are a bit tall to get a baby into the back seat of our cars without smacking our heads allot!!

My sister did all these things and found that after the original purchase of things her monthly expenses went down once the baby was born because they were not going out to dinner or movies.

Just plan well!!

Posted by dilspoonbear    Wednesday, May 20, 2009 1:49 PM


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My husband and I haven't planned a budget yet; it's kind of hard to plan ANYTHING when you're in the military. It's a pain in the a** trying to make decisions via phone.

I was sooooo glad to read all your comments! Seeing that amount almost scared the baby right out of me! Haha I thought it looked a bit extreme, but I've never had a baby before so I didn't know for sure. I'm confident my husband and I will be able to make our baby comfortable for much, much less.

Posted by francescaraul    Wednesday, May 27, 2009 1:38 PM


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After taking Financial Peace University, my husband and I have been on a budget for 2 years now, we've paid off our debt, and are now saving for Baby. That's my solution to this matter. Dave Ramsey has some great tips on getting a buget started. It's never too late to take hold of your financial situation. Find an FPU class near you and get started!

Posted by LovingJoe    Sunday, June 07, 2009 8:37 AM


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I really like these lists, even if they do seem unrealistic.  It still gives  me an idea of what I need to be thinking about.  I just wish they were available in a different format or at least more printer-friendly.  I printed this one out and the print is so TINY I can barely read it with my 20/20 vision.  PDF anyone?

Posted by DueinFeb10    Friday, July 03, 2009 5:47 PM


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No need to stress over the "30K" in the title. If you look at the individual items, they show that each item has a range for how much it costs. Some people will get the $750 crib and some people will pay a ton for daycare, and some people will have a doula. I think they're trying to show us a "worst case scenario" - how much it could cost if you live in an expensive place and insist on having the best of the best for your kids. Instead of taking this budget and deciding it's going to cost you 30K a year to have a kid, take the list and find your own numbers. They are offering a nice list with most of the major baby costs - go to your local stores and do the math on how much everything will cost you and I'm sure you'll probably find it's less. Breastfeed, make your own baby food, find a daycare alternative - if you do the work, you'll find that you won't be anywhere near the high end of the budget.

Posted by loveatfirstsightlover    Wednesday, July 08, 2009 9:57 AM


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Found a budget that estimates $10,000 for the first year. We can all have triplets compared to this budget!!  

http://www.babycenter.com/0_the-real-cost-of-raising-a-baby_1744454.bc

Posted by hockeybride113    Monday, April 05, 2010 1:14 AM


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No way does it take 30K.  That's a personal decision parents make.  Plenty of people make less than that a year and manage to have a family, and I'm not just talking those on welfare!

Posted by holly_whitacre    Sunday, October 10, 2010 9:38 PM


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I found that Craigslist and the newspaper classifieds are awesome! You can find anything from cribs and breastpumps to diapers that babies have grow out of for way cheaper than the stores. We will be using newspapers if it really costs $30 K! Geeze!

Posted by stacyh12    Monday, October 18, 2010 6:23 AM


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I found that Craigslist and the newspaper classifieds are awesome! You can find anything from cribs and breastpumps to diapers that babies have grow out of for way cheaper than the stores. We will be using newspapers if it really costs $30 K! Geeze!

Posted by stacyh12    Monday, October 18, 2010 6:24 AM


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this site: http://www.teenageparent.org/english/costofbaby2B.html doesnt include the lost wages or some other incedentals, and the prices of some things are high, but it can give you and idea.

i know our baby wont cost so much. i will breastfeed if at all humanly possible, i will be a sahm for a while and even when i do go to work, my husband works from home so daycare cost would be a sitter when we want to go out and his parents cant take our daughter. we are getting tons of hand me downs, changing table, crib, stroller, high chair, car seat, clothes etc. dresser will come second hand or IKEA. being a sahm i feel obligated to do cloth diapers most of the time, and hang dry them, to help ofset our carbon footprint. Watching sales and planning ahead can save a lot of money.

dont freak out.

many families qualify for wic for pregnancy and baby nutrition, they provide lactation specialists for free if you qualify.

Posted by HisCB    Thursday, October 21, 2010 12:41 AM


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I so far have not done a budget plan for my baby!! When i first found out i was pregnant i was single and only making 500 a month! I was able to get a crib with a built in dresser and changing table for $75. I mean come on second hand is not a bad deal if it's in good shape. It was only used 3 times by one child and the cost i could not pass up. I am in a relationship now and he helps out a great deal. But we still shop second hand we have pretty much most of the things we need and have not spent over $500. Also since we have pretty much everything we need were not going to have a normal baby shower were going to have a diaper shower that will also help us cut down on the cost!! No way does a baby need to cost that much!!!  I think it's all in how much you can afford what you want new an what you can get used in good shape. The only thing we have got so far that has been new is our car seat!!! I think second hand and hand me downs are a great way to go!!!

Posted by speakshermind87    Friday, November 05, 2010 1:38 PM


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To be fair, it does say "First Year" and "Maybe".  The reality is we're all savvy girls in our own ways, and all of us have other ways that may assist us with the budget, plus there are always coupons, hand-me downs, and family that can assist.   A baby shower can help you with the nursery, and I don't really find a doula and the legal assistance a must.  I believe we all can adjust this based on our lifestyles and capabilities.  This, I believe, can be used as a guideline.  I think it helps to trigger ideas and things to think about now, rather than be surprised with the little one arrives.  JMHO.

Posted by GaGaBean    Saturday, November 06, 2010 3:55 PM


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YIKES!  This is our first child and I really hope our thrifty ways help us out. I am all about Craigslist and Freetrade in our city. We expect to save quite a bit on clothes and SOME furniture via hand-me-downs (family and friends are truly a blessing).  I HOPE to breastfeed as long as possible, like my mom did; I had two sisters who didn't and the tab for formula was PRICEY!  Here's hopin'! :-)

Posted by aishabryant    Tuesday, December 07, 2010 9:28 AM


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These budget articles are the stupidest thing this group of websites comes up with.  Not everyone gets to hire a nanny.  And not everyone is going to run out to the baby boutique and buy all the expensive cute little outfits.  I'll be at the thrift stores and target sales, thank you.  The Knot tried to tell me I'd be spending 20k on my wedding, and that it was average!  On what planet?

Babies are expensive, yes.  But this is ridiculous.

Posted by cwyland    Thursday, December 09, 2010 1:18 AM


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Besides a car seat, you really don't need to buy anything new.  Craigslist is FULL of people trying to get rid of baby furniture, bedding, clothing, and toys.  Onesies at Goodwill & Salvation army are about 50 cents each.  If a childcare center is too pricey, there are family childcare/in-home daycares whose rates are half the cost of most infant daycare centers.  

The only useful item on this list is remembering how much it may cost to add a dependent to one's health insurance plan.  That is a cost most people don't factor in pre-pregnancy, but one that will most definitely add up over the years!  However, most workplaces and insurance plans consider the birth of a child to be a "qualifying life event" where you can add members to insurance or switch to a different plan, so take that opportunity to shop for the lowest rate.

Posted by gy86    Wednesday, December 22, 2010 1:10 PM


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Besides a car seat, you really don't need to buy anything new.  Craigslist is FULL of people trying to get rid of baby furniture, bedding, clothing, and toys.  Onesies at Goodwill & Salvation army are about 50 cents each.  If a childcare center is too pricey, there are family childcare/in-home daycares whose rates are half the cost of most infant daycare centers.  

The only useful item on this list is remembering how much it may cost to add a dependent to one's health insurance plan.  That is a cost most people don't factor in pre-pregnancy, but one that will most definitely add up over the years!  However, most workplaces and insurance plans consider the birth of a child to be a "qualifying life event" where you can add members to insurance or switch to a different plan, so take that opportunity to shop for the lowest rate.

Posted by gy86    Wednesday, December 22, 2010 1:14 PM


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i like this site much better because you can put in your own answers and it calculates for you...

http://www.babycenter.com/baby-cost-calculator

Posted by corkin21    Tuesday, January 04, 2011 7:53 AM


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omg thank you previous posters! i was so scared but I added up all of these things that i could find at garage sales (as far as baby furniture, clothes and etc)  and i came up with  $4,500 for the first year!! Thats a LITTLE more realistic than 30K for sure!!

Posted by michellexhim    Wednesday, January 12, 2011 1:36 PM


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My hubby and I came up with around $10,000 for the first year buying all new goods (it's our first and no offensive to anyone I just don't do second hand unless I know who it's from).   I'm sure we will receive gifts but I am not considering that in our budget.  I will more than likely be a sah once baby comes so luckily we won't have childcare costs however for us it would have been $20,000 for a nanny so it just makes more sense for me to stay at home not to mention I WANT to! Just wanted to let others see a more in between number it doesn't have to be one extreme or the other!

Posted by sarahschieldevents    Sunday, January 23, 2011 12:03 AM


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My hubby and I came up with around $10,000 for the first year buying all new goods (it's our first and no offensive to anyone I just don't do second hand unless I know who it's from).   I'm sure we will receive gifts but I am not considering that in our budget.  I will more than likely be a sah once baby comes so luckily we won't have childcare costs however for us it would have been $20,000 for a nanny so it just makes more sense for me to stay at home not to mention I WANT to! Just wanted to let others see a more in between number it doesn't have to be one extreme or the other!

Posted by sarahschieldevents    Sunday, January 23, 2011 12:03 AM


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My hubby and I came up with around $10,000 for the first year buying all new goods (it's our first and no offensive to anyone I just don't do second hand unless I know who it's from).   I'm sure we will receive gifts but I am not considering that in our budget.  I will more than likely be a sah once baby comes so luckily we won't have childcare costs however for us it would have been $20,000 for a nanny so it just makes more sense for me to stay at home not to mention I WANT to! Just wanted to let others see a more in between number it doesn't have to be one extreme or the other!

Posted by sarahschieldevents    Sunday, January 23, 2011 12:03 AM


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didn't mean for it to post multiple times! Was having technical difficulties!

Posted by sarahschieldevents    Sunday, January 23, 2011 12:05 AM


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i think its important to mention WIC (Women, Infants, & Children) here. google it if you don't know about it. for low income families like mine its literally a life saver. they help provide food when youre pregnant, & formula and food for after baby is born.

Posted by BeeziesBaby    Thursday, February 10, 2011 11:22 PM


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I hate to say it, but this is not that unrealistic.  True that there are ways to save, but raising children is certainly not cheap.  I know I cannot afford the top of the line stroller I would like, but even a pretty good one is going to cost me close to $500.  Diapers and wipes are quite expensive, and I know they go fast.  I don't need a swing or excercaucer, etc, but I would never buy a car seat or stroller second hand, and I'm not so sure about a crib either.  I will lose some of my income on my maternity leave, and at  $10-15K/year in my town, will never be able to afford day care.  This doesn't even take into account all of the unnecessary items we will all undoubtedly buy for our little bundles of joy (bumbos, nursing clothes, baby Einstein, etc.).  It all adds up.

Posted by kclarke5    Tuesday, March 22, 2011 12:34 PM


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Wow that's absurd! Get things from second hand stores or Garage sales or from family members. Jeez this is crazy. That's a lot of money and I know a lot of people who don't spend that much on their baby.

Posted by QueenB92    Sunday, April 03, 2011 9:27 PM


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QueenB92, I completely agree with you!  This would scare some people away from having a family!  Good things it's not true.

Posted by theaterkarma    Monday, April 11, 2011 7:45 AM


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This doesn't even factor in things like college savings, which can add more to the budget, especially if you are paying for child care at the same time.

Posted by msmerymac    Wednesday, May 18, 2011 11:57 AM


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You shouldn't forget that most families like to throw baby showers to help a couple with their first child!!! The $30K might be what the upper middle class suburban couple might spend, if they're getting the top-of-the-line products. But...for us poor folks, we know how to bargain shop! Besides why spend some much money on things the baby will out grow quickly. I'm heading to IKEA for the baby furniture.

Posted by Princess_Astrid    Wednesday, May 18, 2011 7:08 PM


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this budget is silly!

Posted by Jixter    Thursday, May 19, 2011 7:33 AM


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at the same time i know this budget is no where near the right range, i consider myself lucky. i have a complete nursery and dont have to worry about my daughters clothes until shes 3 or older thanks to friends and family and those oh so brilliant hand me downs! and with the baby shower i may not need to purchase diapers, wipes, bottles, and bathing supplies for the first 3 months or more, breast feeding also will be money savy. i'm super excited for my bundle of joy and im a super budget managing mom i would be amazed if in the first year it would cost even 5k. there are just so many recources now, generous people, websites, bargain stores, goodwill and DAV. my baby is going to be spoiled and its not going to put a hole in our pockets or even cause us to stress.

Posted by paranoidangel    Wednesday, May 25, 2011 10:31 PM


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