Q: When to worry?

Posted Saturday, August 25, 2007 10:53 PM

Q: How long should I wait before getting worried?

A:
It’s pretty common to start obsessing after just a month or two of TTC. You’ve spent so many years terrified of getting pregnant -- of course you'd assume it would happen within seconds of throwing out that last pill package. As you come to find out that's not quite the case, it's only natural to start jumping to conclusions. But, although it is harder to get knocked up than those high school sex ed classes would have you believe, you probably don't have much to worry about.

Most doctors say you shouldn't worry until after an entire year of TTC with no success. But, if it’s been nine months or so and you’re worried something’s wrong, ask your OB to refer you to a reproductive endocrinologist for some tests. If there’s a physiological reason you’re not conceiving you can start exploring your options, and if the tests come back normal you can relax and keep at it. The one exception: If you’re over 35, you might want to visit a specialist after just six months of TTC. Fertility starts to decline at this point, and by discovering any problems early you can avoid wasting time.

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re: Q: When to Worry?

I've begun to worry...LONG before now.  It seems so EASY for others while we (TTCers) try month after month and year after year.  Im so depressed right now it's unreal.  HSers are having kids like they are free and those of us that work everyday (married or not...but very grown-up) can't seem to even be that lucky and if we do suceed...we m/c...LIFE?!?!?!?

Posted by mrs.stephenp.    Monday, April 16, 2007 5:38 PM


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I agree.  DH and I decided to TTC one year after being married.  So many friends have gotten pregnant soon after TTC so we figured it would happen, no problem.  Well, not so much.  I haven't gotten my period on a regular basis (only 1x in the last 7 months) and it's so frustrating) and needless to say, we're still not pregnant.  

Posted by SeattleMegan    Monday, April 23, 2007 12:29 AM


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I agree with everything that was said. DH and I have been TTC since last Aug. but I have only had about 3 cycles and they weren't back to back. I went to the OB and he told me I am fine. I was on two different BC's and the  patch for eight years so I know that my system is messed up. I just can't wait to get regular.

Posted by Tyler79    Wednesday, May 16, 2007 4:28 PM


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You might also want to try an ovulation test kit before you go to the OB/GYN. If you haven't conceived after 6-9 months, break one out and see if perhaps that might be the problem. That way when you go to the OB doctor you can say that you've used one (or two!) and he/she will have something to go on as well. Plus-if the ovulation test kit shows that you aren't ovulating then you'll know and won't have to waste however many more months being worried!

Posted by mcrussell    Friday, July 13, 2007 10:37 AM


re: Q: When to Worry?

I went 6 months without having a period and I've never used birth control. Why is that some of us go that long? I didn't think it was normal, that's what's causing me to worry because we've been trying since March.

Posted by earthtoashley    Sunday, November 25, 2007 4:06 AM


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earthashley you probably have PCOS if you've gone that long and havent been on birth control

Posted by Manny&Steph777    Friday, November 30, 2007 12:30 PM


re: Q: When to Worry?

Stressing about TTC can stop your period as well.   I had a cycle so regular that you could set your watch by  until I started TTC.  After 6 months of trying, I began averaging 75 days between cycles!   DH and I have stopped actively trying, and my cycle is starting to regulate again (still fluctuating but between 28-40 days).   They always say it happens easiest when you aren't trying.  I've been off the pill since Aug of 05, but I'm remaining optimistic. DH is back in school for a career change, and I'm positive the lord will bless us when the time is right.  We're going to wait until DH's graduation (2 years) before seeking alternative methods.

Just try to stay positive.  My aunt tried for 13 years, and the second she was approved for adoption, she was pregnant.  It will happen in due time. and you'll cherish it that much more ;o)

Posted by BabyCake!    Tuesday, January 08, 2008 3:09 PM


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What happens if your cycle is almost 12 days. I have my period and then 12 flippin days later I have it again. Just as my body is getting ready to ovulate...I get another period. And it's weird, at the beginning, it's more like a black tar substance that turns into blood.

Posted by stacytasty    Friday, January 11, 2008 10:34 PM


re: Q: When to Worry?

We have been trying for almost a year and 1/2 and I'm still not pregnant. I have a four year old little boy and still with my husband. I went to see my doctor and he couldn't find any reason why we haven't conceived yet. I can't watch anything on tv that has to do with children without crying, I'm to the point where I don't know what to do, and it's starting to get to me.

Posted by Wantingababy    Tuesday, February 05, 2008 2:13 PM


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Wantingababy- Was the Dr you wet to a Reproductive Endochrinologist?  If not there really is no other Dr. to see in this situation, see if your OB/GYN could refer one to you.  Wishing you the best!

Posted by WeePony    Tuesday, February 12, 2008 1:33 PM


re: Q: When to worry?

DH and I have been officially TTC for 4 months (off of bc for 7 months) which isn't nearly as long as some but the tears and disappointment every month when AF comes are just as real.  I've always worried that I'd have problems because it took my parents 12 years to have me and only one MC in those years.  My OB says not to worry of course-we are young, she seems to think I am ovulating because I have cycles within normal range (27-41 days) and I have regular symptoms that AF is coming each time.  But it is so hard to get that worry to stop because I am a worrier-always have been and then I have all these friends who conceive after once month of TTC and it seems like half the women I know are pg right now or recently gave birth.  I can't imagine having to go through this for 8+ more months.

Posted by MrsKueffer    Tuesday, September 23, 2008 12:00 PM


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I was thinking the opposite of some of the earlier posters: it seems like all of my friends and co-workers are having a hard time TTC lately.  I makes me nervous...we just started trying, but I think I am paranoid too soon.  It is so hard not to obsess!

Posted by FutureMrs.C    Tuesday, October 14, 2008 8:40 PM


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I haven't used BC since March 2008 - I'm STILL not pregnant. Found out I have a elevated prolactin level caused by a small growth on my pituatary gland which is the problem. It can be treated with meds so I'm praying for the best. Ladies make sure your endocrinologist does a complete scan of your bloodwork.

Posted by LOVIE2    Thursday, February 05, 2009 8:11 PM


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over the past 2 years, all three of my sister-in-laws were all getting knocked up one after another... my hubby and i talked and decited that we'll try too..  as we wecome four beautiful neices into this world, nothing has happened for us.!! we have tried many times. the postion, the time, the temp, his type of undies, what im eating, my stress, ect.. i fear we done eveything we can do on our own. what should our next step be for help? we have not been useing birth controll for over 5 years.. never have gotten prego!

Posted by jarryd&steff    Friday, March 13, 2009 1:49 AM


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