MrsStephM: Our TTC Story

Posted Friday, March 06, 2009 5:10 PM

"John and I both have great relationships with our parents and and I'mreally excited to create such strong bonds with our own children..."

How we met

John and I have been married for a year and a half and have been together for almost five years. We met through friends the summer after I graduated from law school. I was studying for the bar exam and one of my good friends invited me out to relax. I didn't really want to go, as I didn't really know anyone else that was going, but decided why not? I'm very glad I did, because it was the night I met John. We talked all night and then ran into each other again a few weeks later (the day after my birthday!) and started seeing each other after that. The rest is history!

What's funny is that the friend that introduced me to John will be marrying John's brother in the fall! After John and I had been dating for a few months, my friend told me that she had always been interested in John's brother, whom she went to college with, and asked me to invite John's brother to her birthday party. I did and they started dating very shortly after that! So I'll soon be related to one of my best friends. Who says you can't pick your family? :)

Going for it

John and I had originally planned to start TTC in January of 2009, but on our way home from our anniversary trip in October 2008 (we spent a night at the hotel we got married at!), John said he thought we should start now and needless to say, he didn't have to try very hard to convince me! We are now on our sixth cycle of trying to conceive.

As we've been trying for 6 months to get pregnant at this point, I have to say the worst part of TTC is the waiting! And also, the worry that goes along with it -- wondering each month if there is something wrong with one or both of us. I have some Type A tendencies so it's been really hard for me to feel like there isn't anything I can do (besides the obvious of course!) to speed up the process. It's super hard too to see other people getting pregnant right away. I have to admit I feel really jealous a lot of the time.

Learning to be patient

The fact that it's taken us a little longer to get pregnant (although I know we're well within the normal time-frame), has also been really great in some ways. It's brought John and I closer and I know we're both going to be so excited when our time finally comes. Plus, it's taught me some much-needed patience -- good things come to those who wait!

I'm really looking forward to raising children with John. We have two little dogs that I had before John and I got married and seeing how great he is with them (even when they're naughty, which is all-too-often) makes me know that he'll be an incredible dad.

Although I've been pretty focused up to this point on my education and career, I can't wait to be a mother. John and I both have great relationships with our parents and and I'm really excited to create such strong bonds with our own children.

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