Meegs10.13.06's TTC Story

Posted Wednesday, May 20, 2009 5:38 PM

"We know it will all be worthwhile when we finally get to hold a baby in our arms..."

How we met

Travis and I met my freshman (his junior) year at Lehigh University. A friend of mine dragged me to a party at his fraternity house, and one of the first people we met there was Travis. We spent the whole night talking and at the end of the night as I went to leave, he gave me a quick kiss and asked me to come back tomorrow. I did (Oct. 13, 2000), and we've been together ever since.

Engaged!

December 23rd, 2004... we had plans to head to my parents place for Christmas. Travis arrived home from work and I had already packed up the car to go but he asked if we could hang out for a bit before we left. I agreed, and we relaxed together, but Travis soon headed into the bedroom. I decided to make some dinner and preceded to cut myself on a can. As I go into the bedroom to get to the bathroom (to get a band-aid) I hear Christmas music playing on the radio, and see Travis looking at me expectantly. I blurt out that I cut my thumb, and he helped me clean it up. As I headed back to the kitchen, he mentioned that he was hoping to lure me to the bedroom with the music. I turned to him and he kissed me, then dropped to one knee. At that point he said all sorts of sweet things, and asked me to be his wife. After I said "Yes" he pulled out the champagne that he had opened for the occasion. Afterward, he explained that he wanted the proposal to be something simple and beautiful to fit us, which I think he did perfectly.

Our first home

We bought our first home in April of 2005, a three-bedroom twin in the suburbs of Philadelphia. It definitely needed some work, (every room except for the kitchen was a shade of pink!) but it was a great deal and in good shape. We immediately fixed up the master bedroom before moving in. I told Travis I needed a relaxing room to fall asleep in, not something that looked like cotton candy.

Getting married

Travis and I were married on October 13, 2006, our sixth anniversary, at an outdoor wedding ceremony in West Chester, PA. It was a perfect autumn day, everything we could have hoped for! We had a weather scare the night before when it was looking pretty dreary at the rehearsal and the wind was blowing hard, but the next morning we had a beautiful day! Bright sunny skies, and crisp, but not too cold, air. It was such an amazing day, surrounded by all of our family and friends.

Pre-TTC

I definitely had the baby yearn from our wedding on, but we both wanted to wait around 2 years before starting to try for kids. We wanted to do some work on our house, pay down some debts, and do some traveling. For our first anniversary, we took a trip to Ireland; and a few months later we traveled with some friends to Cabo San Lucas. We also fixed up our bathroom some, completely redid our guest bedroom, and paid off all debts except for our mortgage and my student loans.

Our first pregnancy

Early 2008 I was very ready for a baby and approached Travis about when he would like to start. At first he was not ready at all, but after a few months we made the decision to start trying in the fall. In August I got my IUD removed, and in September we started trying. We took the "see what happens approach" and didn't chart, only keeping track of my cycles and watching for other signs of ovulation. We were very excited and blessed to get our BFP on January 4th, and another darker one on January 5th (approx. 14 & 15 dpo, our third month of trying)... for a due date of September 13, 2009. I had my first appointment at 8 weeks on the 3rd of February.

On March 5 we were scheduled for our 12 week ultrasound, which would be our first look at the baby. Unfortunately, it was during that ultrasound that we discovered that we had lost our little one. The baby was measuring about a month behind and had no heartbeat. We were devastated. We saw the doctor the next day and scheduled a D&E for the following Wednesday (March 11). The procedure itself was easy, as I elected to be put under. The emotional aspect was much harder to deal with as we tried to adjust to the fact that we were no longer pregnant. I was so lucky to have Travis during that time. He grieved with me and yet was so strong for me at the same time.

Trying again

I went for my follow-up appointment 2 weeks later and was told that everything looked as it should, and we were clear to start trying again once I got one regular period. So that's where we are now, again TTC and hoping for a successful pregnancy next time. It's very surreal to be dealing with 2 ww and phantom symptoms when just a few months ago I was dealing with morning sickness, but we are just trying to enjoy the process. We know it will all be worthwhile when we finally get to hold a baby in our arms.

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