LGLDVM's TTC Story
Friday, April 23, 2010 3:28 PM
"Suddenly, I went from someone who would be OK with not being a mom to someone who desperately wanted a child..."
Making a Connection
My husband, Tim and I have been married for a little more than a year and a half. We actually met on Match.com in 2005, and we hit it off right away. We had been dating for a year when Tim started talking about marriage. A couple of months before we got engaged, Tim flew from Ohio, where we live, to Florida to ask my dad for my hand – it’s a trip that I’m sure he will never forget! My dad gave his blessing as well as a ring, my mom’s diamond ring, which she wore until she died in 1998. We got engaged on Paradise Island just before Christmas of 2006 and were married on the beach in northern Ohio in June 2008.
Tim and I had talked about the possibility of having children, but we hadn’t made any definite plans before we got married. As a commercial airline pilot, Tim is out of town a lot, which had me really nervous about how we would make it work with a baby. I’m a veterinarian and I knew that I couldn’t do it all on my own. Also, having been diagnosed with PCOS in my late teens, I suspected that getting pregnant wouldn’t be easy, and my biggest fear was wanting something that I may never be able to have. Tim and I had talked about it before we got engaged, and he knew that children may not be in the cards for us. We both figured it would be alright either way.
Bitten by the Baby Bug
Two months after we were married, in August 2008, I turned 30. Something happened on that birthday. It was like a switch flipped inside of me. Suddenly, I went from someone who would be OK with not being a mom to someone who desperately wanted a child. Tim and I talked about it and it became clear pretty quickly that the baby bug had bitten us both – we decided to start trying in December 2008.
We started like most couples do when trying to conceive. I stopped my birth control and we started planning for our little bundle of joy. We would talk about names we liked and our parenting philosophies, but, as the months passed, it became pretty clear that my fears of having difficulty had become a reality. My cycles were all over the place and I knew that we needed help.
The next steps
Asking for help with anything has always been difficult for me and TTC was no different. I felt compelled to wait until we had been trying a year, even though I had been diagnosed with something that commonly causes fertility problems. Finally, in December 2009, I met with my doctor and asked for guidance. She ran tests and discussed our options. I opted to try Femara because it seemed to have a decent track record for inducing ovulation in women with PCOS. Tim got an SA, which came back normal, and I had an HSG, which was all clear. I am now in my third month on Femara (2.5mg CD3-7) – at least I’m ovulating now, since I wasn’t before I started the medication.
Having lost my mom to cancer when I was 20, the first year of our TTC journey felt very lonely. I didn’t feel like there was anyone that I could talk to about my issues. I joined The Bump once I finally admitted that I needed help with TTC. I have learned so much by being on the message boards, particularly the “Trying To Get Pregnant” and “Trouble TTC” boards. I feel connected to so many of these women and I really hope that we all get to be moms, or moms again, very soon.