But it is their CHOICE to use a wet nurse.
yes, obviously. My point was just to reiterate that the act of a child receiving breast milk from another woman is not unheard of and that the risk of disease transmission is very low. I totally agree that this is a huge mistake on their part. Personally, I think that pulling the child out of the daycare and reporting the incident to the state would be a better course of action than "lawyering up". A daycare needs to maintain it's license in order to stay open. Reporting the incident directly to the state seems much more effective strategy to get the daycare to fix its mistakes and prevent this, or something worse, from happening in the future. Also, and perhaps this is just ignorance on my part, but if the other mother is tested and is free of HIV, TB, and human T-cell lymphotropic virus type I or type II, why does the child need repeated testing every month for a year? Even in the VERY RARE case that the other mother has just recently contracted HIV and does not yet test positive, I don't see why repeated monthly testing would ever be necessary.
I agree with reporting to the state, but since many diseases will not show up on initial testing, they will do repeated testing on her LO. If she lets DC off the hook, she will end up paying for testing/ treatment. I'd would still get a lawyer.