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11-28-2012 at 5:32 PM

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What was your reason for wanting 2u2?

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11-28-2012 at 8:06 PM

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If I could ask a magic fairy to give me 2 kids at the exact time I wanted, I would not have 2u2. It is hard. I started TTC #2 when my first son was 5 months old because I thought IF it was going to happen, it had to be as soon as possible. I'm running out of eggs at age it should not be happening.

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11-28-2012 at 8:28 PM

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I didnt necessarily want 2u2 however, I was afraid it would take a while like it did with #1 so we started trying as soon as I got my first PP period.

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11-28-2012 at 8:30 PM

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DH and I are both in our 40's

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11-28-2012 at 8:55 PM

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Infertility history here too. I stopped nursing when DD was 6 months to get ready to start cycling again (I have DOR so time isn't on my side). Instead of getting a period I got pregnant with DS.

We are considering TTC #3 next year fully aware that it might never happen due to my dx. So I am very thankful we have 2 happy, healthy kids and that we had them when we did. A third would just be icing on the cake.

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11-28-2012 at 9:51 PM

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Several reasons:

1) DH is 1 of four and they are all 18 months apart, and he remembers how great it was because they were all close in age.

2) We wanted a big family and we didn't want to be 35-40 and still having kids.

3) Our childcare is an au pair, so our expenses are "fixed" no matter how many kids we have. It is beneficial to have them closer together, and when the last one is in preschool we will not need one anymore, and save on that as well.

4) Reusing clothes, if our kids were farther apart I don't know if I could convince myself to keep the stuff for 3-4 years (I already find it hard to hang onto the stuff from DS1 and DS2 for DS3 (there is a 4 year age gap between the second and third boy).

5) Diapers, if I was ever "done" with diapers I would never want to go back!

I could go on and on, but these are all personal reasons why it works for us, everyone is different, GL

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11-28-2012 at 9:53 PM

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I wanted to be out of the "little kids stage" sooner than later. I also want to be able to go back to work/school and looking at the timing, we'd either have to have our kids close together, or really far apart. If they're that far apart, I wouldn't be able to do either and have it make sense. Also, if we both decide to have a third, we have more time. I love being a mom, but I'm going to want to do something else at some point and daycare makes me uncomfortable. We are also a military family, and right now we're living really close to my family- i.e lots of help and free babysitting. If we waiting until we moved to have the next one, I would be alone A LOT.

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11-28-2012 at 10:13 PM

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We don't want them spaced too far apart because we want to knock out all the sleepless nights, diapers, bottles, etc., while we're still "in the trenches" so to speak. We are also considering being done at 2 and like that they are close enough in age that, in theory, they will enjoy similar activities at the same time - as in, we won't have to worry if family vacations and such are appropriate for too wide of an age group.

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11-28-2012 at 10:17 PM

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I didn't really want 2u2, but the timeline was the most logical for us.

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11-28-2012 at 10:33 PM

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memali26:
We don't want them spaced too far apart because we want to knock out all the sleepless nights, diapers, bottles, etc., while we're still "in the trenches" so to speak. We are also considering being done at 2 and like that they are close enough in age that, in theory, they will enjoy similar activities at the same time as in, we won't have to worry if family vacations and such are appropriate for too wide of an age group.nbsp;

All of this! We are done at 2. 2u2 was a definite choice for us. We planned it this way for the reasons stated a above. It's worked so well for us so far. Of course we had no idea they'd be this close, we were aiming for an 18m age gap but getting pregnant right away and then having a preemie made them 13.5m apart. We love it though!

DH & I married 10/2008. SAHM to DD born 8/2010 and DS born 9/2011, 5 weeks early.

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11-29-2012 at 8:43 AM

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We knew we wanted 2 or maybe 3 kids and I wanted to be done before 40 (had my first at 35). Also there is pretty much no day care under 2 so we have to have a nanny. The closer the kids are the less time we need our nanny which is more expensive than 2 in daycare. We're probably done at 2 and knowing what I know now I might have spaced them apart just a bit more. Overall it has been fine though and I feel like next summer will be a blast.

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11-29-2012 at 9:31 AM

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Another "Because I'm older" reason. I will be 35 when this LO is born, and I really don't want to worry about risks of Downs/other complications because of age. While we did initially plan them to be 2+ years apart, we were surprised to get pg as quickly as we did with #2, so 21 months apart it is!

We haven't completely counted out the idea of #3 since I'm in good health and medically my dr said I have the same pg health stats as a 26 yr old, but I'm not 26 so my age and general dislike of pregnancy are very strong factors in the "we are done" camp. If we went for it, we would certainly be 3u4, and that just sounds terrifying!

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11-29-2012 at 9:57 AM

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In my family, when I was born there was a 12month, 2.5yo, and just turned 5 yo, and I loved it!! my DH only had a sister that was 6 years younger and they did not get along. So we decided we wanted them close in ageso they can play together as they growup.

also, I am staying home with them till they go off to school, so the closer they are together, the sooner I can go back to work and earn a paycheck.

mine will be 14 months apart, the 2nd one is not here yet, and I am sure it will be crazy for a while, but I am so excited about it.

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11-29-2012 at 11:01 AM

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GHBEA:
DH and I are both in our 40's

This! I turned 40 a couple weeks before DS1 was born and I'll be 42 about a month after DS2 arrives. DH is 18 months older than me, so if we'd waited to have a 2nd one, we'd be well into our 60s by the time all the kids were out of high school, which is also why our family will be complete with just 2 as well.

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11-29-2012 at 11:15 AM

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We didn't plan for it and I never in a million years thought I'd have 3 that are 3 years and under but it is what it is. The first 5 months with ds2 were rough but other then that time period I've loved it. Ds3's coming has been extremely easy. I think once you learn to juggle 3 that one doesn't really change much.

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11-29-2012 at 11:16 AM

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1. I'm old

2. I wanted to get the hard stuff all out of the way early

3. I really like having them close (learned this one after the fact)

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11-29-2012 at 11:38 AM

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A big selling point was financial. I wanted to be home with my kids while they were young and a larger gap would mean more years out of the workforce or I'd have the expense of my youngest kid in daycare.

I liked the idea of getting pregnancy/newborn phase over with instead of starting all over again. I'm more of a kid person vs an infant person. I'd rather do the infant phase again while it was fresh in my head instead of having an older, more independent child and starting all over again.

For DH and I we had good personal experiences with our friends/family members close in age. My DH had large spacing with his siblings and didn't really have relationships with them as children which carried over into adulthood. Of course spacing isn't going to guarantee a sibling relationship since it has to do more with personality--but I do think it makes it easier to nurture one when kids share common interests/are in a similar place in life. It does make things like traveling/activities easier as well with children. I think the first year is more challenging with 2u2 but I think it's easier long-term than having kids far apart.

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11-29-2012 at 12:47 PM

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I just really like babies, and I wanted another one.

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11-29-2012 at 12:49 PM

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sweetpea2003:
Infertility history here too. I stopped nursing when DD was 6 months to get ready to start cycling again (I have DOR so time isn't on my side). Instead of getting a period I got pregnant with DS.

We are considering TTC #3 next year fully aware that it might never happen due to my dx. So I am very thankful we have 2 happy, healthy kids and that we had them when we did. A third would just be icing on the cake.

Almost word for word this is our story. I didn't have DOR, but it runs in my family, and fear of having that with our other IF issues got us back on the TTC roller coaster a lot sooner than most people would have...we had the same success on the first pp cycle after weaning from BFing at 6 months.

We decided to TTC#3 after DD turned a year old - after having 2 so close in age, I didn't want the third to be left out by being that much younger (and I am also 35 years old so I didn't want to be much older than this having another baby). We also decided to only TTC for 1 year, and if we didn't succeed on our own, we were done. After all the trouble we had trying to have #1, we knew we were very lucky to have 2 happy, healthy kids. #3 took a while (about 10 months), but will be here soon!

TTC#1 = Success on Cycle#19 with Clomid/trigger/b2b IUIs; beta#1 (15dpiui) 200, #2 (18dpiui) 433, #3 (22dpiui) 2356; TTC#2 = Surprise BFP 9/2009; TTC#3 = m/c at 6 wks, 10/29/11; BFP#2 4/1/2012...

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11-29-2012 at 7:14 PM

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alli2672:

I just really like babies, and I wanted another one.

LOL. This was me the first time I had 2u2. This time, it's the getting older/IF reason. We gave ourselves a short window, starting when the baby was 9mos. It happened when he turned 1.

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11-29-2012 at 7:33 PM

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We wanted our kids close in age but we didn't aim for this. It was a welcomed oops.

However, its nice because we will get through the infant stages and be done with them sooner. We'll be able to go on vacation just the two of us sooner (I won't leave them when they are so young). We are closer to the kids being in school FT so I can go back to working more. We're excited for the close age range in hopes they will be great playmates and friends. Its nto that we're wishing away the 0-2ys stages, but it wil be nice to get through them and be done rather than "restart" with another newborn later.

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11-30-2012 at 8:22 PM

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We wanted our children to be close in age, but, as other PP's have said, weren't quite expecting THIS close in age :) However, we're extremely excited! I've heard that having 2 has a lot of benefits -- similar age allows them to play well together, as they grow they may have similar circles of friends, etc.

Also, DH and I plan to have 4, if we're blessed with the opportunity, and we'd really like to be done by the time we're in our mid 30's. Well, I want to be done before I'm 32-33, which would put DH at 36.

Plus.. I loved being pregnant.. I really did, and it was just a shame that my previous pregnancy was so filled with worry and anxiety. I'm really hoping this time around I'll be able to stress less, and feel more confident in being able to enjoy the pregnancy :)

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11-30-2012 at 8:49 PM

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Fate!

i was ebfing on the mini pill and never had a period. Had no idea I was pg until I was almost 3 months.

Hindsight I am glad they are so close! It was really hard at first for me but DD and DS don't know any different and will always be best friends

if I had to do it over again I would plan for as close of a spacing as possible.

Mini pill, ebfing, and no AF ever.......16 months apart!

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11-30-2012 at 8:58 PM

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DD1 has special needs and very delayed. She will be dependent on us for life and I wanted her to have a sibling close in age so she had someone close to her in case DH and I passed. Someone to watch over her in school. Someone to play with and learn from ( shes been doing very well in daycare watching other kids ). And because I never had siblings and want her to have that relationship. We get a lot of judgements since dd1 does require a lot of attention but I like to think I can equally love two kids and give them both what they need

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12-01-2012 at 12:12 AM

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I was on the pill for both pregnancies. Neither of them was planned out ahead of time.

When I took the pregnancy test, and knew there was a baby growing inside me, I knew I wanted 2u2

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12-01-2012 at 5:43 PM

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it wasn't by choice...some of us are hors.

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12-02-2012 at 8:02 AM

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I wanted to get all of the hard stuff out of the way, rather than going back to it later, i didnt want to be in a groove with an older child and then have to start over. I wanted to get back in shape and stay that way while I am still young. And I knew i wanted my son to have a sibling and have a "built in best friend", so we said why not? Now i can just relax and watch my 2 boys grow since we are 2 and done.

My two boys are 16 months apart, and I'm loving every minute!

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12-02-2012 at 3:24 PM

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My sisters are 4 and 14 years younger than me. Essentially I only grew up with one sister and we were not into the same things at the same time at all. DH's siblings are 7, 10, and 15 years younger so they had the same problem. We knew we wanted less than two years apart because of this. Add to the fact that we'll be homeschooling I wanted their subject matter to be close enough they could enjoy some of the same items.

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12-03-2012 at 1:49 PM

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I didn't have much of a choice in the planning given mine and DH's IF dx. We wouldn't have it any other way though and I can only hope we will have a third someday!

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12-05-2012 at 1:12 PM

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MammaBear81:
Several reasons:
1) DH is 1 of four and they are all 18 months apart, and he remembers how great it was because they were all close in age.
2) We wanted a big family and we didn't want to be 35-40 and still having kids.
3) Our childcare is an au pair, so our expenses are "fixed" no matter how many kids we have. It is beneficial to have them closer together, and when the last one is in preschool we will not need one anymore, and save on that as well.
4) Reusing clothes, if our kids were farther apart I don't know if I could convince myself to keep the stuff for 3-4 years (I already find it hard to hang onto the stuff from DS1 and DS2 for DS3 (there is a 4 year age gap between the second and third boy).
5) Diapers, if I was ever "done" with diapers I would never want to go back!
I could go on and on, but these are all personal reasons why it works for us, everyone is different, GL

We are going to be close to having 3u3- DS turns 3 right before my due date. I agree w/ all the above except I am a SAHM so child care costs aren't even a factor for us. Another big benefit in our perspective was that our kids will all be interested in similar things at the same time- our kids like the same kind of toys, shows, activities, etc. Personally I think it would be trickier to plan activities out if I had to appeal to the interests of a 6 year old and a 2 year old or something, kwim? Also a small point but we want to be done with baby stuff kind of all at once- once we are done having kids we wont have to go back to baby mode again, we could take family vacations that are fun for ALL the kids vs. just fun for the younger or older kids, etc. We plan on having probably 4-6 kids (possibly more if we decide to foster/adopt once we are done having bio kids which we have always said we want to). I do think we will have a slightly larger gap between 3 & 4 though (1& 2 are 20 mo apart, 2&3 will be 15 mo apart).

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