I'm sorry your feelings were hurt Lex... I think that is a pretty typical guy response though. Our group of friends are a bunch of married couples and they want to throw a baby shower for the both of us instead of the wives just throwing me one. DH's response to this was "Cant the guys just go out drinking?" I admit that annoyed me and I told him to shut up, show up, and enjoy his baby shower
We also threw a baby shower for my male grad advisor earlier this week. He was so embarrassed and you could tell her DID NOT want to be there. Baby showers are generally associated to be a girly girl thing and some guys just are not up with the modern times.
Don't leave your husband and never come back! Just tell him to show up or sleep on the couch.