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11-30-2012 at 3:10 PM
JK0412
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How to know when you are ready?

Hi Ladies,

I hope you don't mind if I join you. Here is my back story... read... or skim... or skip all together :) 

I have a wonderful 11 month old right now thanks to fertility treatments - 1.5 years of fertility treatments thanks to a diagnosis of unexplained infertility for both of us. I know that I am lucky that I had success once - it only took 12 IUIs... the last of which I was on my first round of IVF but didn't respond to the meds as expected so they encouraged me towards a shot in the dark IUI which ended up working. My husband and I live in a constant state of wanting another or even two more but then always trying to prepare ourselves to being a family of three. I would love to have another. I would love to start trying again... but just thinking about it stresses me out. After finally feeling like life is normal with one healthy wonderful child and a relationship that only got stronger after all of my treatments, it scares me to go back to the roller coaster of trying again. What do you do when all you want is another child but even thinking about the process immobilizes you? Any suggestions? I am so scared but (besides this exact feeling the first time around) could never want anything more.

 Thanks  for listening, Ellen
Charlie was born 12/15!!! 
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11-30-2012 at 3:43 PM
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Welcome.  I haven't started TTC #2 yet.  But my opinion would be that if you know you want this more than anything, you just suck it up and do it.  Maybe give yourself some reasonable timelines.  How long are you willing to try on your own, how long are you willing to pursue fertility treatments, at what point can you accept being a family of three.  Then just take it day by day and remember to breathe.  That's all you really can do.  GL, hopefully things work out for you.
TTC with PCOS since November 2009
IUI#1 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 3-7) = BFP, m/c
IUI#2 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 5-9) = BFN
IUI#3 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 3-7) = BFP!
beta #1 11/23 = 270, P4 = 75
beta #2 11/28 = 2055
Our daughter E was born 7/29/2012!





 
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11-30-2012 at 5:16 PM
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I agree with pp about the timelines that way you dont feel so overwhelmed. Either way the roller coaster is no fun. GL with what you decide.
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11-30-2012 at 6:47 PM
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Hi and welcome. :) When we were TTC #1 we always said that all the sh!t we went through was worth it if it got us DS in the end. So we always had a plan to start TTC again when DS turned one. We kind of jumped in with two feet. I knew it would be hard, but I wasn't really prepared for the roller coaster we had hopped aboard. We were lucky to have frozen embryos left over, but our FET cycle was cancelled and delayed more times than I can count. It got to the point where we thought my body just wasn't going to make it to transfer. But then one day my nurse called and said my lining was ready to go. And just like that we did a transfer and I was pregnant. So I guess this is my long winded way of saying that as long as you keep your eye on the prize, you can get through the battle. I know it is scary, but just knowing that it might be hard helps prepare you in some weird way. For me, I never wanted to get to the point where I would regret not trying again. Good luck hon.

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After two Clomid cycles, three injectable IUI cycles, two IVFs, two miscarriages, and one lap surgery, IVF #2 has brought us our little boy!

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After months of being postponed or cancelled, FET #1.3 (Natural FET) - BFP! Beta #1 (15dp3dt) - 1663 Beta #2 (17dp3dt) - 3500 - First u/s at 6 weeks showed twins! U/S at 19 weeks shows it's two girls!!!
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12-03-2012 at 8:55 AM
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I kind of feel the same. We really wanted two kids, but after going through our (relatively short 1.5-year) IF journey, we went back and forth if we wanted to try again. But, I'm 34 and time isn't on our side so we thought about how we'd feel in 5 years if we hadn't at least tried. 

Basically we decided that we want to at least try to give DD a sibling. The journey to get there will be worth it, once again, if we succeed. If not, we will be crushed but know that we are super lucky to have DD. 

We will stop at IUIs; how many, we haven't decided yet. We have a vague timeline, so I definitely think that's a good idea. 

Good luck! 

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12-03-2012 at 4:38 PM
JK0412
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Thank you all for your stories and encouragement. My husband and I decided it is time to start trying again... we are both optimistic and ready to fight the battle. Our first journey was very easy because we had 100% insurance coverage - totally unheard of and we know how lucky we were. We now have 0% coverage - I think that is the part that scares me. Before it was just an emotional and time tole - now it is also going to be financial. Over the weekend we decided that we are going to start saving (between $500 and 1,000 a month) and try for 18 months before moving forward. That way once we start we can push through until the money runs out :) We decided if we get pregnant in the meantime we will divide all of the funds saved to that point into college funds and call ourselves very lucky.

 

Thanks again, I will be back on here lurking and coming out of hiding more :) Have a great Modnay - good luck to everyone who shares my nervousness!
Charlie was born 12/15!!! 
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