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12-03-2012 at 6:50 PM
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diaper party?!?!?

I just found out one of my friends will be throwing us a diaper party. Our DD is almost 7 years old and we have been saving everything like clothes, big baby items crib, swing, stroller etc. I really don't think it is necessary to have a diaper party and kind of feel weird about it. I think it is supposed to be a suprise. What would you ladies do?
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12-03-2012 at 7:09 PM
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I think that's awesome! This is my second and I'm getting nothing. I'm jealous over here :)
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12-03-2012 at 7:18 PM
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Sounds like fun!! My hubby's step mom is throwing us one after baby is here and I'm super excited! 
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12-03-2012 at 7:20 PM
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I don't really think there is anything wrong with it. It's not like they're throwing you a party to gift you with all of the items that you already have. Also, it's been several years since you've had a child so perhaps your friend(s) would like to be able to give you some "newer" items. Did you know this friend when you had your DD? If not, perhaps she wants to throw this party because she wasn't able to do something like this with your first child. I would accept the gesture in a graceful manner. If people do not want to attend it because they think it's gift-grabby, then they won't. And if it's supposed to be a surprise, you can't be blamed for the party taking place.
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12-03-2012 at 7:24 PM
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A "diaper party" sounds tacky to me. With the substantial age gap in your kids, I think you should just have a regular shower. Just include diapers on your registry, along with other small things you need or don't have.

Also, using a 7 year old crib sounds very scary. Laws have changed so much that even cribs made in 2011 are not up to current safety standards. I think you should really get a new crib for this LO. IKEA and Graco have highly rated solid wood cribs for 150 bucks and less.
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12-03-2012 at 7:39 PM
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I find myself pretty strict when it comes to shower rules, but I don't really think this is that big of a deal.. except I don't know if I would necessary tell guests just to bring diapers (I think it starts getting tacky there).  I kind of think if you are having a shower, it just needs to be a shower.

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12-03-2012 at 7:42 PM
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That is great. Diapers are not cheap, and they go through a pack about every 3 to 4 days. I am very lucky that I coupon, so I get them for pennies, but if I didn't, I would want someone to have me a diaper party. 
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12-03-2012 at 7:44 PM
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Also, using a 7 year old crib sounds very scary. Laws have changed so much that even cribs made in 2011 are not up to current safety standards. I think you should really get a new crib for this LO. IKEA and Graco have highly rated solid wood cribs for 150 bucks and less.

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12-03-2012 at 7:46 PM
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lkm2006:

I find myself pretty strict when it comes to shower rules, but I don't really think this is that big of a deal.. except I don't know if I would necessary tell guests just to bring diapers (I think it starts getting tacky there).  I kind of think if you are having a shower, it just needs to be a shower.

This, sort of.  I don't know of anyone who's had a second shower, it's a FTM thing only in my circle. I don't think dictating what gifts your guests bring is ever appropriate though, so definitely not a fan of the "diaper party" thing.  

Ditto the PP on the 7 year old crib thing.  You can get a new one pretty inexpensive. 
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12-03-2012 at 7:51 PM
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Not a fan of showers for second kids and REALLY not a fan of dictating what a guest is required to bring. Sorry.
 
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12-03-2012 at 8:11 PM
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I think it's fine!  I went to a shower earlier this year for a friend who was having twins.  She has two other children who are around 6 and 4, so it hasn't been too long. They asked instead of gifts to bring diapers or a frozen meal.  It was fun!

 
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12-03-2012 at 8:13 PM
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This is my third child and my other two are 8.5 and 7. Our church will have a "diaper shower" for us as well. They do this for every child after the first. Sometimes people will give other things, but it is assumed this is the best way to help the family. The only thing tacky would be to decline the standing tradition.

However, if you feel uncomfortable with the idea then you should consider declining.

You have to remember acceptable norms on these type things vary by region, community, family, and even personal preference. In my community, showers and celebrations are very common and important to those who spend time planning them. Declining any offer of a gift would be the ultimate offensive gesture; unless of course accepting the gift would be more offensive to your sensabilties than the scorn of your community / family.
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12-03-2012 at 8:15 PM
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Sarai28:

I think it's fine!  I went to a shower earlier this year for a friend who was having twins.  She has two other children who are around 6 and 4, so it hasn't been too long. They asked instead of gifts to bring diapers or a frozen meal.  It was fun!

 

 

If I weren't such a picky eater, that'd be awesome. In theory, this is a GREAT idea.

My baby shower is a baby shower/diaper party. I know a lot of women on the Baby Shower board loathe diaper parties. There is a door prize for anyone who brings a pack of diapers, and it is listed as optional. I'm the first in my circle to have a baby, so I guess I sorta get to set the standards. 
 
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12-03-2012 at 8:22 PM
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I would accept graciously. I mean, at this point, your only other option is to essentially call your friend tacky when you explain why you feel weird about it, and probably hurt her feelings if you decline her offer. Even if some invitee's find it tacky (which, btw I don't - I think a diaper shower is a great way to celebrate a new baby) it will in no way reflect on you. I always give a baby gift for all my friends, even if its their 5th kid ;)

 
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12-03-2012 at 9:31 PM
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I think it's fine. It will be a fun time together with your friends, right?
 
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12-03-2012 at 10:48 PM
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I agree with the pp that said I don't think you *can* decline if you're not supposed to know about it.  I'd just smile and be grateful.  Your guests will all know it's a surprise, so it's not like it reflects poorly on you, for those who might find it tacky.

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12-04-2012 at 8:51 AM
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I think it is sweet so you should go along with it.  My DH's friends are having a diaper party for him at Hooters. lol  Yeah I know but that stuff doesn't bother me at all. Each guy is supposed to bring a thing of diapers and they get discounts on food anf beer, etc.  Plus Im really glad it s a special thing for DH and his buddies that he can feel involved in.
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12-04-2012 at 8:57 PM
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Thanks for everyone's input! I decided to get a new crib, it was not really about the money, I am just trying not to be wasteful, but when it comes to my LO's safety that comes first.
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