vanverth:I also think that I have more in common with the ladies here and am more willing to accept help and advice from them than a 21 year old because I am old enough to have graduated college with a BA, work a year and still be her mother
I felt the same way. While I don't discount advice from younger women, I find it easier to commiserate and seek advice from women who aren't young enough to be my child--had I given birth after high school instead of at age 39.
And I think while in metro areas, having children after 35 is more common, it's still not the norm. And we also have challenges with older parents (ie. I'm 42 and my parents are 70) and being called "Grandma" by busybodies.
That all being said, THIS board was created because a group of us who started on TTC after 35 and Pregnant after 35 felt we had no place to go on The Bump after we'd given birth. Thankfully this board was created and we are growing (though we are a slow board) and thriving.