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I was raised Catholic. 1st communion is a big deal in the catholic church and for the children who now get to participate in the sacrament. Because they are usually around 2nd grade when this happens they are too young too really understand the significance of the event (hence your nieces excitment over her party and impending gifts) Usually it is celebrated among family members and some people offer a small religious or monetary gift but I wouldn't say its expected.
I'm hoping that your SIL just came off wrong when speaking to you about it and that she is really teaching her DD the importance of it. Telling your now about an April event is quite far in advance IMO but perhaps she really wanted you all there and typically churches line these things up far in advance. Some of my family was lutheran and presbyterian but still came and watched me participate in my 1st communion.
Yeah -- your SIL is being crass and a money-grubber. That's really foul.
However, it is still an important moment, and you don't want to punish your niece for her mom's rudeness.
I'd buy her a savings bond instead of giving cash.
neverblushed:Yeah -- your SIL is being crass and a money-grubber. That's really foul.However, it is still an important moment, and you don't want to punish your niece for her mom's rudeness.I'd buy her a savings bond instead of giving cash.
Ditto the above advice. I'm Catholic and First Communion is a big event. I personally would always purchase a gift for my niece and nephew, but instead of a toy I would make it a gift that has the potential for a long lifespan. (ie an initital pendant from a quality jewelry store) But if I didn't go with a tangible gift, I would absolutely go with a savings bond over cash. As an adult, I'm so grateful for the bonds I received (and saved) from family members growing up vs cash I would have spent at the time.
MesmrEwe:I'm pretty late to the post, but I agree with the PP too! (and yes, I'm also Catholic) It's the SIL in question that's the issue not the niece... IMO, that'd be a tip off that niece is NOT going to get cash for her First Communion!!! I'd instead opt for a nice piece of jewelry (First Communion is really a transition such that it's the first of the ages of being able to give them "real" jewelry instead of the kiddie or cheapie jewelry) or stock...
excuse me for lurking. I still have and wear the gold cross and chain that my aunt got me 20 years ago for my first communion.
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