I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter Zoe. I know how hard this is. And I am sorry you and your husband are have a difficult time together. Please know that men and women grieve differently. I would really encourage both of you to attend a support group, when you are ready. It has helped us so much to meet and talk with other families who understand exactly what we are going through. It also helped my husband understand that my grief is normal.
I hope you can find some comfort and support here on this board, it has helped me so much.