oh one other thing, DS was asleep when everyone initially showed up. That was actually a good hting. Deffinitely don't wake them b/c it put him in a good mood for the 2nd half of the party and the first half was just people talking and eating anyway.
Also, he did eat cake, last thing. Then we gave him a bath in the sink while everyone was still there.
On beverages, we had milk, beer, wine and sodas odas (small cans of sprite, our normal amount of cans of coke & diet coke, and for fun we had bottles of rootbeer and diet rootbeer).
We only had a small amount of beer and wine and DS had to go on a beer run so that is a good point. Just think about who is there. At DS's party there were a few kids, but it was mostly adults and they are really all beer drinkers so we probably could have had less sodas and more beer and wine. milk was a must though.