Honestly, I am not sure what she said that was so horrible. Some of it was kinda stupid, but nothing to be upset about. Just chalk it up to her being an idiot.
You will only be in the recovery room until you can wiggle your toes from the spinal (for me, with DD, that was about an hour). At that point, they should take you to your regular room. You can also request that the baby be brought to you while you are in the recovery room, especially if you are planning to BF.
If you are really sharing the recovery room with other people, then they probably won't let you have visitors for the other patients' sake, but in most big hospitals, the L&D surgical area will have its own recovery room, so if there is anyone else at all with you, it will be other new moms. For me, I was the only one in there, and my DH was able to come in.
You probably don't need to bring your pump to the recovery room, but you might want to bring it to the hospital for your use later. The pump is helpful for getting your flow going, etc., even if you have access to the baby. No big deal. Also, the hospital will probably have one you can borrow. Keep in mind too that you will probably not be allowed to be alone with your baby until you are able to get out of bed on your own (for the baby's own safety), which might be a day or two. So having the pump during that time could be useful.
Catheters do not generally hurt for women -- in fact, some women self-cath easily. However, just ask them to put it in after the spinal. That's what they did with DD, and that's what this doc (totally diff doc and hospital) are going to do for my RCS. No reason not to.
Bracelet -- who cares?