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12-18-2012 at 8:05 AM
acaudill75
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Great!!!

Ever since DD2 was born, DH has gone out of town for work every month for about a week or so. And everytime he goes out of town, without fail, DD2 has gotten sick. I mean, four months old with RSV and nebulizer sick. I work full time, I have no family that can watch the girls (BTW, my mom was just diagnosed with Cancer and is undergoing chemo, and she was the only one who would watch them, once in a while). DH was gone for six days last week, and of course DD2 caught a nasty cold where she had to have the nebulizer, which anybody who has had to do this knows your kid won't sleep afterwards. I had to take two days off from work, and of course got sick myself from her snotting on me. DH got home Friday at 11 pm, and all weekend, while I felt like dog doo, I had to go about my normal routine as if I hadn't just done the whole thing myself for a week. Saturday, DH let me sleep until 7:30 (bless his heart) when the girls just got too loud for me to sleep anymore. Last night, he gets some sort of stomach virus, and is up all night puking. Now, I feel terrible for him because I know he is in agony and everything. But part of me is like REALLY!!!! Not only did he keep me up all night with the sounds of his death throes ... He woke the baby several times, so I had to deal with her. Then she woke up at 5:30 and I couldn't even take a shower because I didn't want him handling her and getting her sick. I had to iron my clothes holding her because she was so fussy. Now I am at work while he texts me how awful he feels. Really? I'm sure I will be feeling that way soon because you breathed your puke breath on me all night. And when I get sick, I will still be expected to do everything I am doing now. I'm so tired from the stress of my mom's illness, having to drive the girls around (he has a work vehicle and isn't allowed), never getting a break until I literally fall into bed at nine or ten at night, just to get back up and give DD2 her late night bottle, a full time job, etc. I know he works, and I'm sure he doesn't want to be sick, but its so frustrating because just when I think I've hit my breaking point, he throws something else at me. Oh, and if I say anything to my mom, she says at least he works and he does more than your father did. MIL, who never worked a day in her life, tells me he has a career and I just have a job. Eff you! Sorry, ladies, I know I sound bitter and irrational, I'm just tired and fed up. Rant over.


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12-18-2012 at 10:30 AM
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What I will say is if I was in your neighbourhood I'd come over and give you a biy hug and a listening ear.  Sounds like you could use both.  Also a hot bath (if you take em), a massage and just a bit of time off to re-group.  I also hope that your household rids of the nasty bug soon.    

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12-18-2012 at 11:08 AM
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Excited30:
What I will say is if I was in your neighbourhood I'd come over and give you a biy hug and a listening ear.  Sounds like you could use both.  Also a hot bath (if you take em), a massage and just a bit of time off to re-group.  I also hope that your household rids of the nasty bug soon.    

Thank you. After rereading my post I thought I was coming off as a cry baby (and possibly a bit btchy). I love DH, but I hate puke, and I'm just so tired ... At least I have my girls to cuddle up with and a husband who loves me, and I will try to focus on that. If I puke, then all bets are off!!! Everything you mentioned sounds divine!


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12-18-2012 at 11:12 AM
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acaudill75:

Excited30:
What I will say is if I was in your neighbourhood I'd come over and give you a biy hug and a listening ear.  Sounds like you could use both.  Also a hot bath (if you take em), a massage and just a bit of time off to re-group.  I also hope that your household rids of the nasty bug soon.    

Thank you. After rereading my post I thought I was coming off as a cry baby (and possibly a bit btchy). I love DH, but I hate puke, and I'm just so tired ... At least I have my girls to cuddle up with and a husband who loves me, and I will try to focus on that. If I puke, then all bets are off!!! Everything you mentioned sounds divine!

Nope, I didn't read any crybaby or bitchiness in your post..you just sounded like a woman who's pushed to the max and was/is at breaking point, needing some re-grouping.  We all get there at different times.  You are on to something with focusing on the positive.  But, if you're anything like me, you've been doing that all along and that's what keeps you going so long and hard to the breaking point.  You've gotta let it go sometimes and take a few moments for yourself, or you can't keep going...I hope you get a few moments today to have a pamper moment, pamper hour, or a few hours would probably be great!   


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12-18-2012 at 12:00 PM
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Hugs to you!

You must be exhausted. Are there any mom group's you're apart of where you guys could take turns helping each other out, so you could get some rest and/or things done? I know it seems like such a burden to ask friends too, but sometimes you'd be surprised that they would be happy to help.


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12-18-2012 at 12:00 PM
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Prayers for you mom!

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12-18-2012 at 12:30 PM
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Jazzyashes84:
Prayers for you mom!

Thanks. No, I never thought of asking friends. I guess I don't want to burden anyone with what I think I should be taking care of myself. DD2 was colicky and there were times when I didn't think either one of us was going to make it out. I never asked anyone because I just didn't think it was fair ask someone else to take care of my problems. Silly, I know, but that is my mentality. My dad used to always say, this too shall pass. So I take a deep breath and try to soldier on. But it was good to get it out of my system, so I appreciate the opportunity to vent.


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12-18-2012 at 6:57 PM
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I'm sorry you're having a rough time lately - you know, like the last 9 months. Ditto asking for help - sometimes we only need a couple hours. I was having one of these moments not too long ago, and my mom showed up at my house and made DH and I leave for 3 hours - seriously. She told us not to return before 10pm because she wouldn't let us back in. We sat at a restaurant for 20 minutes (and downed a glass of wine each) before we were able to start talking to each other, we were so fried. It wasn't until after I was able to start relaxing a bit that I realized how much I needed the break.

So - moral of the story: if you have someone who can take the kids for a few hours, jump at the opportunity. Go get a pedicure, sit in a coffee shop and sip a latte, read a book, whatever you need to unwind and come back refreshed and ready to hit it hard again. And good luck!


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12-19-2012 at 12:17 PM
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Thanks, Kristens14!! Good to know I'm not the only one who can't let go until someone forces us to!!!

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12-20-2012 at 4:59 AM
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acaudill75:
Thanks, Kristens14!! Good to know I'm not the only one who can't let go until someone forces us to!!!

I think it's because my mom and I are so similar in that way - we're both the type to just power through and get things done, so she was able to see I was about to break.


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