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12-20-2012 at 8:19 AM
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House guests & Night wakings

I’ve had a hunch for a while now that house guests affect DS’s sleep.  He was never a good enough sleeper before to say for sure, but it seemed that he would start to decrease his night wakings from 4 to 2, then we’d have company and it would go back to 3 or 4.  For the last couple months, he has consistently been waking twice (about 1am and 4am) and then finally, for the past 8 nights or so, actually sleeping 9 to 10 hours, waking around 5:30 to nurse, then back to sleep until 7.  Hallelujah! Since he is almost 12 months, I thought this was a major breakthrough and the new “normal.” Then my mom arrived and last night, he woke at 1am and 3:45am, both times needing to be nursed to get back to sleep.  UGH.  We will have company here for the next 3 weeks straight, and since we live in Florida and have lots of friends/relatives in the northeast, we are a revolving door of guests from now until April. If it were just a week then I’d suck it up and get up with him each time.  But I think I need to let him cry himself back to sleep if he wakes up any time before 4am, even though he really cries and doesn’t go back down easily.  Anyone else have thoughts on this or deal with something similar? 

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12-20-2012 at 9:42 AM
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I'd start making people stay in a hotel. Seriously. It is nice of you to put people up, but your child and your sleep need to come first.
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12-20-2012 at 9:43 AM
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mabenner1:
I'd start making people stay in a hotel. Seriously. It is nice of you to put people up, but your child and your sleep need to come first.

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12-20-2012 at 10:15 AM
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Why would your LO wake-up because of houseguests?  Are they loud?  Can you use a noisemaker?  Is it that they keep your LO up later?  I'm just trying to figure out why a houseguest would interfere with your LO's sleep.  Maybe if you can figure out the correlation, you can fix the underlying problem.  As a general matter, having another person staying in your house, shouldn't really impact your LO's sleep unless something else about that houseguest is interfereing with your LO's sleep. 
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12-20-2012 at 10:44 AM
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mexicolombiana:

mabenner1:
I'd start making people stay in a hotel. Seriously. It is nice of you to put people up, but your child and your sleep need to come first.

Exactly this.  

I agree with this as well. It would be different if your child was older but people need to understand how hard it is with a young child and the baby comes first!
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12-20-2012 at 10:51 AM
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Sept07b2b:
Why would your LO wake-up because of houseguests?  Are they loud?  Can you use a noisemaker?  Is it that they keep your LO up later?  I'm just trying to figure out why a houseguest would interfere with your LO's sleep.  Maybe if you can figure out the correlation, you can fix the underlying problem.  As a general matter, having another person staying in your house, shouldn't really impact your LO's sleep unless something else about that houseguest is interfereing with your LO's sleep. 

If we have company, DS's sleep get so messed up. He's distracted by the new people, and fights sleep and gets overtired. Plus, if we have to do our sleep time routine somewhere else, it messes him up. And, yes, guests can be loud.
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12-20-2012 at 10:55 AM
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mabenner1:

Sept07b2b:
Why would your LO wake-up because of houseguests?  Are they loud?  Can you use a noisemaker?  Is it that they keep your LO up later?  I'm just trying to figure out why a houseguest would interfere with your LO's sleep.  Maybe if you can figure out the correlation, you can fix the underlying problem.  As a general matter, having another person staying in your house, shouldn't really impact your LO's sleep unless something else about that houseguest is interfereing with your LO's sleep. 

If we have company, DS's sleep get so messed up. He's distracted by the new people, and fights sleep and gets overtired. Plus, if we have to do our sleep time routine somewhere else, it messes him up. And, yes, guests can be loud.

If this is the case have you tried taking him into his room with it dim to relax a little and wind down before you do your usual nap/bedtime routine and be strict about the timing of naps and bedtime?  I have one set of neices/nephews where the parents are strict about sleep during travel and visits and one where the parents aren't.  You can totally tell - the ones who go to bed and nap on time are so much more fun for the rest of the family to be around!  I usually do this, but one time I was out of town with LO I didn't and the result was disastrous.

As for loud guests, try a box fan outside of DS's room as well as white noise inside to drown out noise from guests.

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12-20-2012 at 10:58 AM
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mabenner1:

Sept07b2b:
Why would your LO wake-up because of houseguests?  Are they loud?  Can you use a noisemaker?  Is it that they keep your LO up later?  I'm just trying to figure out why a houseguest would interfere with your LO's sleep.  Maybe if you can figure out the correlation, you can fix the underlying problem.  As a general matter, having another person staying in your house, shouldn't really impact your LO's sleep unless something else about that houseguest is interfereing with your LO's sleep. 

If we have company, DS's sleep get so messed up. He's distracted by the new people, and fights sleep and gets overtired. Plus, if we have to do our sleep time routine somewhere else, it messes him up. And, yes, guests can be loud.

If this is the case have you tried taking him into his room with it dim to relax a little and wind down before you do your usual nap/bedtime routine and be strict about the timing of naps and bedtime?  I have one set of neices/nephews where the parents are strict about sleep during travel and visits and one where the parents aren't.  You can totally tell - the ones who go to bed and nap on time are so much more fun for the rest of the family to be around!  I usually do this, but one time I was out of town with LO I didn't and the result was disastrous.

As for loud guests, try a box fan outside of DS's room as well as white noise inside to drown out noise from guests.

I have no issues with my son's sleep. He sleeps when he's tired, and wakes when he's hungry. He's been STTN since 6 months. We have a sleep routine that works for us, and I have no desire to change it. I was offering up a possible reason as to why the OP's LO is messed up by visitors, as it has happened to us in the past.
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12-20-2012 at 11:18 AM
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Sorry mabenner1.  I confused your post with a follow-on from the OP.  No harm intended!
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12-20-2012 at 12:19 PM
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I agree with PP's...I'd have guests get hotel rooms...at least until he is older.  Funny to read this - last night my DH and I decided we were going to repurpose the guest room...we don't want anyone staying over now that we have DD.  Good luck!
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12-20-2012 at 3:31 PM
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mabenner1:
I'd start making people stay in a hotel. Seriously. It is nice of you to put people up, but your child and your sleep need to come first.


I joked about this with my mom before her arrival. Now it's not so funny! We have our house set up specifically for guests, with an extra downstairs suite, so it's kinda unrealistic to tell them to stay somewhere else. ESP family. And ESP the in laws who helped pay for the suite...lol.
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12-20-2012 at 3:37 PM
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mabenner1:

Sept07b2b:
Why would your LO wake-up because of houseguests?&nbsp; Are they loud?&nbsp; Can you use a noisemaker?&nbsp; Is it that they keep your LO up later?&nbsp; I'm just trying to figure out why a houseguest would interfere with your LO's sleep.&nbsp; Maybe if you can figure out the correlation, you can fix the underlying problem.&nbsp; As a general matter, having another person staying in your house, shouldn't really impact your LO's sleep unless something else about that houseguest is interfereing with your LO's sleep.&nbsp;


If we have company, DS's sleep get so messed up. He's distracted by the new people, and fights sleep and gets overtired. Plus, if we have to do our sleep time routine somewhere else, it messes him up. And, yes, guests can be loud.



I think it's the distraction like you mentioned. My guests are too afraid of having to deal with me if they wake him up to make any noise. I think he just senses the change in the energy and there are new people to play with and so he doesn't want to sleep. We keep his naps, bed time and routine the same. I just have a social baby who Is afraid of missing out on the action. At 1am and 4am. Sigh.
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