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12-20-2012 at 6:57 PM
bridein08
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Terrible night! Does your baby hate restaurants, too? RANT.

Today is MIL's bday and we were invited to go to dinner to celebrate at a local Mexican Restaurant. DH is a cop and works most nights, so he wasn't able to attend. Anyway, there were like 15 of us there total and I was trying to occupy DS. I have a HUGE thing against him crying in a restaurant, and I am probably a little hypersensitive sometimes, but I don't want to disturb other diners. 

I am a bit spoiled, because when we go out to eat with my family my parents are happy to  walk him around and occupy him so I can get a chance to eat while we're there. It's seriously nice- but here, NOBODY sat near us, except my SIL (she is 11), who was talking the whole time with her friend. I felt a bit jilted... 

So, DS is yelling "ball" and "bye" to anyone who will listen. He starts to get antsy (as I guess most 1 year olds would?) and wants to see all of his uncles/aunt. We FINALLY get our food and he will NOT let me put him in the highchair. He screams. So I try to feed him and myself, one handed with the wrong damn hand. UGH. I got maybe 2 bites, as did he before he just lost it with the fussing. My SIL  would not stop shushing him all night, even when he was just being sweet and pointing at ornaments, etc. I took him to the bathroom to let him calm down a little and brought him back. That lasted a whole two minutes- we gave his grandma the ornament we bought, asked the waitress for a box that we waited 5 minutes for and it NEVER came. I finally (after being there an hour and twenty  minutes) just high tailed it out of there. It was terrible.  And, my son apparently thinks it's hilarious when I cry. 

I will never be going out to eat without either hubby or my mom again. Anyway, does your LO freak out in restaurants, too? I find that I hate to even go out anymore, because we don't know if we will even get to eat before he starts fussing. He will NOT let me put him in a highchair or grocery cart 99% of the time- he hates it. UGH. I feel like a terrible mom for being upset with LO, and I'm embarrassed about the situation and that we had to leave waaaay before everyone else and sort of mad at DH's family that I wasn't really included... am I over reacting?


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12-20-2012 at 7:51 PM
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I feel your pain! I haaaate going out to dinner. It's so stressful and I never get to eat a hot meal. DS won't sit still in his seat, he screams, throws everything on the floor over and over again. DH ends up getting pissed, and says its because I put him in front of the TV at home to eat. It always ends in a fight and I'm always starving lol.

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12-20-2012 at 8:01 PM
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I'm sorry.  That sounds like a rough night :(  I'd be upset, too.

For us, things have gotten better at restaurants...but we didn't go out to eat for the first 8 months.  DS always wanted to be held and walked around the room.  We tried to go out once when he was 6 months old and I nearly had a panic attack trying to keep him happy.  (I was feeling stressed, he was picking up on it, we asked for our food to go).

Now that he's older, as long as I bring along some cheerios to keep him happy as we're waiting it goes a lot better...but then, DS loves to eat, so if there's food involved, he's happy.

I hope you can relax the rest of the night tonight.

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12-20-2012 at 10:56 PM
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Not over reacting, my son will not be going to a restaurant forms while!!! He is so naughty. Its exactly how you described!!! Its so hard!!!! I can't eat, he just wants to run around and yell ball at every single round ball like object he sees. Lol. Ya, you are not alone!!!!!!
12-20-2012 at 11:16 PM
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darrahmccall:
Not over reacting, my son will not be going to a restaurant forms while!!! He is so naughty. Its exactly how you described!!! Its so hard!!!! I can't eat, he just wants to run around and yell ball at every single round ball like object he sees. Lol. Ya, you are not alone!!!!!!
Haha thanks, ladies! Looks like we won't be going anywhere for a while... This last post esp. Made me laugh, DS is the same. Everything round is ball and he must scream it from the highest rooftops.

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12-21-2012 at 8:11 AM
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It totally depends for us. Many of the times we've went out there's been some nice older couple nearby missing their out-of-town grandkids so they make faces and play peek-a-boo with him and then combined with an enending supply of Cherrios, puffs or yogurt melts seems to keep him content in the highchair. We also will use the paci clip to attach a teeth or something to him so he can't keep throwing it on the ground and shouting, "Uhoh!".

 We've been taking him to restaurants pretty regularly throughout his life, though, so I think he'd just pretty used to it. 

Another tip is that he tends to behave better in his stroller if there's a restaurant you can take that in. 


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12-21-2012 at 8:22 AM
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Yeh, we have been taking him to plenty of restaurants since he's been born- but once he turned about 6 months, he wanted to be moving everywhere. He hates the stroller to- using the ergo or a wrap when he was younger has totally backfired, because now he doesn't want to be put down at all. No stroller, grocery cart or highchair most of the time. We do have rare times where he is good- I agree that it helps when people say hello to him or play peekaboo... He is so nosey and wants to know what everyone else in the restaurant is up to!

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12-21-2012 at 10:34 AM
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Our restaurant routine seems to work for us. It was what I used to do with nanny kids/toddlers too.

Order the toddler's meal as soon as you are seated.

Pass some time washing hands before eating.

A chows down on her food while we enjoy a drink/appy/visit. Our food arrives as she is losing interest in hers. She may or may not want to try some of our meal.

Once she is done eating I wipe her down and bring out the survival fear. Paper, crayons and stickers. She cannot peel the stickers by herself but she enjoys placing them.


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