i too, am a first timer at this.... so im not 100% sure plus i work for a company that doesnt have to comply with fmla. so considering that heres what i know..
i was told that the doctor fills out some of the paper work with you for all that. may want to ask them. (i will be asking mine when it comes time)
from what i heard, is if you take off work early and ask sdi to pay, it will cut into the time after the birth. i was told you get 6 weeks paid for vaginal birth and 8 weeks off for c-section, and thats it. so on that note i wont be taking my paid sdi untill the baby is actually here and plan on working up till birth. i want to spend as much time as possible with the baby vs. time at home bored waiting for him to show up.
hope this helps.