Thanks so much for responding! We've toured Be At Home and Kiddie Academy. The first felt comfortable, but I asked if there was a behavior issue or delay, would they work with us or point it out to us, etc. They said they would point out something if they noticed, but we'd likely have to elsewhere for corrective help. But I did like that I could set my own child's schedule and determine what s/he would eat. It felt like an extension of what I would do at home, but they definitely felt relaxed yet structured.
Kiddie Academy was 180 degrees in the opposite direction, to the point that it was overwhelming an IEP for every child there plus an on staff behavioral specialist! Granted, we toured there in the early morning, but it didn't seem like there was ever quiet it felt overly structured. The food menu was a major concern, too in one week, I saw hamburgers, corn dogs, chicken fingers all for lunch. That won't be a concern until my child is older, but I really didn't like that.
We're right off of the Warrendale exit, so thanks for the tip about Allie Alligator I'll be sure to check it out. Maybe I'm worrying too much, but the day cares offer so much today, I can't decide if it's all too much, or that yes, kids need this at this young an age now.