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12-23-2012 at 6:21 AM
gennyu
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What is your go-to response?

For well-meaning relatives who ask when you will be trying for #2?  I anticipate a lot of these questions over the next few days and want to have a response planned to ease my anxiety.  I don't want to say anything rude becuase I know their intentions are good.  DH thinks we should say "we're working on it", but I think that could lead to awkward follow-up questions down the road.

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12-23-2012 at 8:18 AM
by your si...
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When the time is right is my normal....unless I've had wine...then it's no holds bard snarkiness....

Right Oopherectomy w/tubal ligation 11.15.2007
BFP #1 03.30.2008, Born 12.08.2008
TTC #2 Since 11.2010
DX: IRPCOS with Fair Motility on SA
Cycle #22 - RE Round #1 - 100MG Clomid - BFN
Cycle #23 - RE Round #2 - 150MG Clomid/Pregnyl Trig - BFN
Cycle #24 - RE Round #3 - 150MG Clomid/Ovidrel Trig/IUI/Crinone - BFN
Cycle #25 - RE Round #4 - 2.5MG Letrozole/Ovidrel Trig/Crinone
 
12-23-2012 at 8:34 AM
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DD conceived Cycle #1 April 2008, born Jan 2009
TTC #2 since Jan 2011
After 2 miscarriages, fertility testing, pregnancy loss testing and unsuccessful fertility treatments we conceived on our own...
Baby BOY Due December 2nd, 2013, expected via RCS around Thanksgiving.
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12-23-2012 at 8:35 AM
KKDRAGONFL...
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I say we'd love another but it isn't up to us.

DD conceived Cycle #1 April 2008, born Jan 2009
TTC #2 since Jan 2011
After 2 miscarriages, fertility testing, pregnancy loss testing and unsuccessful fertility treatments we conceived on our own...
Baby BOY Due December 2nd, 2013, expected via RCS around Thanksgiving.
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12-23-2012 at 9:07 AM
mama_cito9...
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I usually try to ignore the ones who ask insistently like the ones who ask each time we see them. When DS was younger it was easier to get away with "we're enjoying DS right now" or "DS is too much to handle right now we aren't ready for another yet". As DS got older then it became, "whenever it happens".

But I like dragonfly's response about we'd love to have another but it's not up to us. Short and sweet and tactful.

2nd ectopic resulted in loss of tube. HSG revealed remaining tube is "severely torqued".
IVF #1: ER 03/29/10; ET 04/01/10: transferred 2 embies; Beta #1 (9dp3dt)- 45; Beta #2 (11dp3dt)- 91= BFP
FET#1: ET 04/18/12: transferred 4 embies; Beta #1: >2 = BFN
IVF #2: ER 06/20/12; ET 6/25/12: transferred 2 embies; Beta #1 on 7/5/12= BFN
8/16: hysteroscopy for polyp removal
11/11: hysteroscopy #2 for yet another polyp removal
FET#2: ET 12/15/12: transferred 3 embies; Beta #1 (9dp5dt): 12/24/12: 426; Beta #2 (11dp5dt): 845= BFP
u/s 1/9= triplets!; miscarried all three on 1/10/13

 

12-23-2012 at 9:27 AM
nawlinsgrl
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I agree with the last two PP.  If someone kept asking all the time, I would probably say something along the lines of "there's nothing new to report since the last time (or if it's really frequent, say the last ___number of times) you asked."

For really pushy folks, I might go so far as to say something like "I appreciate your interest and support, but your frequent inquiries have started making me uncomfortable, so I'd rather not discuss this topic any more.  I'll be sure to let you know when there's happy news to report."


10/10: Married DH; 5/11: Dx: Blocked Fallopian Tube; 7/11: D&C/Hysteroscopy to remove polyp
IVF #1: 9/11: ER: 12R, 11M, 10F, No Frosties; 5dt: 2 blasts, 1 morula; DD born 6/3/12
IVF #2: 11/12-12/12: ER: 20R, 20M, 16F, 4 Frosties; 5dt: 3 blasts, DS EDD: 8/23/13
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12-23-2012 at 10:01 AM
KKDRAGONFL...
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the thing that bugs me is when people say "relax and it will happen".

DD conceived Cycle #1 April 2008, born Jan 2009
TTC #2 since Jan 2011
After 2 miscarriages, fertility testing, pregnancy loss testing and unsuccessful fertility treatments we conceived on our own...
Baby BOY Due December 2nd, 2013, expected via RCS around Thanksgiving.
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12-23-2012 at 3:54 PM
SigmundsGi...
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KKDRAGONFLY:
the thing that bugs me is when people say "relax and it will happen".
Of all people my dad said that to me last month. This is after going through IF when TTC DS, and our m/c in August.

My response has become, " well after a year of trying we are still praying for another, but we are happy with our family as it is right now."

Dx: PCOS and short luteal phase
18 cycles (3 with our RE) - Metformin + Clomid + HCG booster did the trick!
BFP #1 6/22/09 EDD: 3/2/10 DS born: 3/8/10

TTC #2 since Dec 2011
BFP #2 7/8/12 EDD: 3/18/12 M/C @ 9w1d: 8/16/12

 
12-29-2012 at 9:22 PM
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I just say we are paying for the chance right now.

 
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