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12-23-2012 at 3:56 PM
sthomas122...
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Vent about family (very long)

So, my sister was the only one in my family I had told about having GD. I was talking to her about 2-3x per week. Well, when we had to double my glyburide dose at nighttime to 5mg and then we started doing a weekly NST she told me "You need to take better care of yourself.". I was flabbergasted... Then the next week she didn't show up for my college graduation. So, I haven't talked to her since these 2 things occurred, both were super hurtful in their own way but combined were just too much. Apparently she had had enough of my silent treatment and called me this morning to just lay into me about everything. I was essentially called a bad mom b/c I don't take care of myself, I take too much medication, and I sleep 8-10 hours/night (she said this like its a bad thing). And to just make things worse she didn't come to my graduation b/c "it's not like you're going to get a job anyways. You don't even care.". I graduated RN school back in August and thankfully my over 100 applications didn't get me a job b/c in addition to GD & NSTs I also have SPD (symphysis pubis dysfunction) which makes daily things like walking, stairs, etc... very painful at times and I've been going to PT and a chiro weekly for 2 months. And then DD caused a rib subluxation that had me in extreme pain for 2 weeks while the ligaments/tendons healed. Then 2 weeks ago I had a lot of discharge that seemed like I was losing my mucous plug. Thankfully I wasn't but I am 1cm dilated (though the doctors say it's not uncommon and no big deal). Oh, and immediately after becoming pregnant I went hypothyroid. So, it's been a lot of complications and I feel God knew what he was doing when I was one of the few RNs from my class who didn't find a job. But to hear my sister say all these horrible things and basically blame me for it is very frustrating. I'm sorry my pregnancy isn't perfect like hers was (and really it was, she didn't have a single complication, barely gained any weight, and even her fundal height was measuring perfectly).  I just don't know where this all came from. She said I pushed her away but up until she said I needed to take better care of myself I was talking to her all the time. All I could say to her this morning is she doesn't live with me. She doesn't see me fret over every little thing I eat and cry as my insulin resistance seems to get worse and worse every week. In less than 2 weeks we went from oral meds to 25u of NPH insulin and now we're at 42u and I just got my first fasting below 95 this morning. Hubby is super pissed, he's tired of my family making me cry and actually said this morning that she and her hubby (his best friend since kindergarten) are not to see DD without talking to him first. It's just been a long, difficult pregnancy and to have my one confidant go off and blame and essentially call me a bad mom is so hurtful and unexpected.
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12-24-2012 at 12:22 AM
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Hi! I'm sorry she is making you feel that way,I suggest explaining to her that as your body changes and prepares for labor your insulin resistance will increase. It is not a reflection of how well you take care of yourself. Try not to let it bother you, it's hard but I suffered from a thyroid condition also prior to getting pregnant and my Dr said this too affected how my body reacted to the glyburide and now insulin. Besides sometimes family say things thinking they have our best interest in mind, but come of sounding insensitive. You take care of yourself and your LO and if you can't Handel them then yeah let DH set some boundaries, you know he has your best interest in mind anyway.  Be strong and take care! 
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