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12-24-2012 at 10:49 AM
Shmogan09
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Wish me luck!

I am so nervous for tomorrow after the "seating arrangement problem" from Thanksgiving.  Those of you who didn't read it my MIL put Kellen at the opposite end of the table from me, between her and SFIL.  He was so far away I couldn't even get a glimpse no matter how far back or forward I leaned.  DH and I talked after, I cried, and he is on the same page for tomorrow... BUT... I think he should have said something before.  He is choosing the typical male passive aggressive route and is going to say something in the moment.  It is making me so nervous that there is going to be a big fight on Christmas.  I just don't understand why she would ever think that DH or I would be okay not sitting next to our children at Christmas dinner.  I know she is going to set the table the same way because DH never said anything after Thanksgiving, so why wouldn't she.  

Oh gosh, my family gets along so well that I am not used to the fighting that goes on at DH's house on the holidays.  I will be doing my best to shield my boys from it because I don't want them thinking Christmas is when people fight like DH did when he was a kid.  He still sometimes will pick a fight with me on Christmas and I have to remind him that WE do not fight on Christmas.  

 


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12-24-2012 at 10:53 AM
Starbuck12...
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Good luck!

What would happen if you didn't say anything and just moved the high chair closer to you?
12-24-2012 at 10:57 AM
Shmogan09
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That is what DH wants to do, I told him to go in there and do it before everyone sits down when he can be hopefully alone with MIL.  She is confrontational so she will say something because it sticks out and she will feel like it is blocking the entrance to the room a little bit, which it will be, but she and SFIL won't change which end they sit on so that is the only option.  They are very odd about everyone being in "their" seat (SFIL and DH are always at each end) so that is why I especially need this to be established now.  Already after Thanksgiving she is going to think Kellens "place" is between them (which is also kind of mean to Logan).

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12-24-2012 at 11:20 AM
Jen0204
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I agree with you that he should have said something before, but my H would do the same thing - wait and say something in the moment.  I don't get why they would rather cause a confrontation in front of other people rather then deal with it ahead of time.

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