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12-24-2012 at 8:13 AM
BPaws
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Let the Holiday Drama Begin!

Anyone else?!

Today we were doing Christmas with my IL's. In November, MIL called me and arranged our dinner time. We were to be at their house at 3. DF took the day off of work and we planned around 3pm.

Fast forward to yesterday. MIL calls at 9am to ask when we want to do lunch. It's the first any of us had heard of lunch, but we went with it and rearranged the day to be there for lunch at 1130. 9PM she calls to say lunch is cancelled and they're doing lunch on Christmas Day instead. Dinner has been moved to 6. We can come over "whenever".

DF and his mother have a strained relationship at best. The day has been rearranged, and to me it's NBD, we live 5 minutes away. EXCEPT the reason it's been screwed up is to accommodate BIL. BIL doesn't want to wake up before noon to come for lunch, so its cacelled. MIL is ordering Chinese food on the 24th because she doesn't want to make a turkey if BIL may not make it. He isn't sure if he can make it for dinner on the 24th, for no reason other than being an azz. Seriously, he's on vacation, his only reasoning behind not coming for dinner on the 24th is "meh, I might go to White Spot instead". He's literally just being an azz.

MIL is guilting DF to come to Christmas at their house on the 24th AND 25th. We split up the parents equally, Christmas Eve with IL's, Christmas Day with my parents. We have invites everyone to the dinner and my parents house to try to include them, but MIL said no. Now she keeps talking like we are going to be there for Christmas as well as today, even though we explained to her why things were divided up the way they were.

Run down, BIL being an azz. MIL trying to accommodate azz BIL. DF feeling 2nd place to BIL again, angry at MIL, even though its not really her fault.

Wish me luck today! I'm fairly certain there will be some yelling at Christmas dinner!

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12-24-2012 at 8:21 AM
mmdailey
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Do your time, then high-tail it out of there before they start coming to blows!

 
12-24-2012 at 8:26 AM
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Yikes!  Hopefully everyone can keep it together for a little while, then I agree with pp, run for the hills!

DH's family has decided that my family get togethers do not matter.  They have completely monopolized the holiday.  All I want to do is go to my mom and dads to open gifts tomorrow morning. 1 stop.  They were angry that they had to push their lunch back to 12 from 11.  We have to be there so we can take the large clusterfuuuck family picture.  They can suck it. 

Seriously we have 3 different things for his family, I only ask that I can go see my parents.   


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12-24-2012 at 8:45 AM
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Tis the season!

I'm happy that our families can get together this year. I'm always thankful for family, no matter how crazy they are. And if all else fails there is always wine!!!

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12-24-2012 at 8:48 AM
Saltylove
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That is so annoying. Good luck today, and definitely partake in some wine drinking to lighten your spirits!

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12-24-2012 at 9:05 AM
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I'm sorry you have to deal with that. Christmas shouldn't be about schedules, but when you add multiple families and an infant you need one. I have today and tomorrow planned to the minute, and if my future MIL messes it up I will be so pissed.Good luvk! I hope it works out for you. Enjoy Henry's first Christmas!

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12-24-2012 at 9:09 AM
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I agree that you should spend your time with them and when it gets hairy you get out! Isn't it a pain when you try and make the holidays easy and fair by putting a plan in place and it gets all jacked up?  I will be spending my day traveling to 4 different homes.. 2 by us and 2 an hour and a half away.  We were supposed to split it up between Christmas Eve and Christmas Day but it didn't end up happening.  So no I will be spending Christmas Day driving all over the freaking place with a 4 month old to make everyone else happly. 

Aslo your BIL sounds like a douche.


 
12-24-2012 at 9:33 AM
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I'm sorry you're dealing with family drama. You're BIL does sound like a total douche. I'm angry with him just from reading what you wrote. Good luck today!

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12-24-2012 at 9:38 AM
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I had a glass of wine at my IL's Christmas yesterday. I highly suggest it! Makes things better!

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12-24-2012 at 11:34 AM
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I think your MIL has selective hearing.

Poke her in the eyeball. It may help.

Don't accommodate her if shes mean to your DF.


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12-24-2012 at 11:58 AM
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Well, I woke up this morning to SO's little brother knocking on our bedroom door, unannounced. His parents are on their way to Texas and just decided to stop by. They have a key...but, come on! Who does that? Just "stops by" someone's house at 8am? I didn't even have their card written out, I had to run downstairs and do it. 

The drama in our family usually revolves around my 26 year old cousin, who is gay and moved to Florida with his drug addict boyfriend. They moved down there without anywhere to live, so they live at some BNB for gay couples and work for their rent. There's always some catastrophe going on in his life and he likes to piss off his really Catholic parents by posting controversial things on his FB. 


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