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12-21-2012 at 6:13 PM
laken256
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DH vent... feel free to join in!

Dh got called to work last night and didn't get home until this morning. He said he was tired and wanted to take a short nap when he got home. Completely understandable. So he goes to bed at 9 a.m. The boys refuse to nap, they have fought and whined all day, unwrapped Christmas gifts, gotten into everything, etc...and I've had to make several things for Christmas brunch at my uncle's tomorrow. I've almost went batty today! It's been one of THOSE days.
Anyway, I wake him up at 5:30 this evening and tell him supper is ready, and he whines that he has barely slept, although every single time I've been near the bedroom he is sound asleep.
Anyway, he gets up, gets his dinner, and sits down. I get the kids situated to eat and feed LO and my toddler. My dinner is now cold. Dh puts on a movie, which is quite graphic and I ask him to turn it off until the kids are in bed bc our 2 yr old is very much watching it and I don't want to be up all night bc he is scared. Dh gets all mad, takes the movie out, leaves his plate on the table, which LO knocks off and proceeds to cut into the smores cake that I made for tomorrow. I'm still feeding the kids and haven't even touched my food. I ask if he can take LO so I can eat and he says yes, then gets up and goes to take a shower. I finished my dinner standing at the bar with my LO wrapped around my legs and ds1 screaming for him not to touch me. Dh is currently in the bedroom watching his movie, while I get stuff ready for bed time. He is usually such a huge help, but tonight I just wanna cry. He hasn't lifted a finger today and then acts like I'm the bad guy bc I wanna eat! I'm sorry, I know this is pointless, and I'm usually the only one home with them, so I'm used to it. But when he gets home from work any other day, he pretty much takes over and I can get my things done around the house. It's just been a crappy day, I guess.
If anyone else needs a husband vent, have at it!

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12-21-2012 at 6:46 PM
Carrie3102
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My dh is a pain I spend every waking moment working from 3:30 am until 9 pm.

I work outside the house but dh still thinks it is solely my job to cook, clean, do laundry, and wash dishes. Lets not forget feed the baby, change her diapers, give her a bath, get her ready for bed,put her down and deal with any overnight crap.

We had a HUGE fight a couple weekends ago and he helped for exactly two days and now we're back to the same ***.

He wonders why I am frustrated or angry with him so much. I mean seriously in 7 months I feel like I will be a single mom with three kids.

I do realize I made the decision to have another baby but up until recently he was doing alright.

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12-21-2012 at 8:44 PM
MesmrEwe
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Hugs OP!!!!!  I can completely empathize with the "but I just wanna eat at some point today" moments!!

I'm not sure if it's DH or the bank I need to be peeved with...  But our bank made it so that anyone who transfers money into an account gets flagged after X number of times...  We didn't know this and DH did over that number...  They told him come into the bank branch and he'd be able to make as many transfers in a month no problem and I'd have access to funds right away...  Fast forward to today when I'm out finishing up the Christmas shopping...  Card gets declined...  Turns out they not only aren't making the money available, but they're putting a hold on his check until HE verifies it online even though HE took it into the bank personally!!  In other words, no money, and the next business day I believe is Wednesday!! 

My main vent with DH though is that I need help with the kids.  I need time to do things without the kids.  While I understand that things are crazy with work, at some point I need help with the kids so that I can get the other work done.  Had he been helping with DS this AM I just MIGHT have gotten out the door early enough that we wouldn't have had to reschedule DS's one-year baby visit...  Thing is, I don't know if we'll be able to keep our Ped with the insurance change at the start of the year...


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12-22-2012 at 5:56 AM
indiana101
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DH celebrated his youngest brothers 21st bday last night. He did not get home until well after 4am. He woke the baby who was incredibly difficult to get back to sleep. He didn't get up until midday despite having a huge list of things he promised he would do in order for us to host DDs first bday tomorrow. He refused to leave the house to do nothing somewhere else and instead sat on the couch watching cricket.

Nothing is done and I am so mad at him still. I am seriously considering a separation after the holidays if he doesn't agree to immediate counselling. I hate being with someone who knows how stressed I am and only makes this worse. I want him to be reliable and to grow the heck up.

OP you are not alone!

12-24-2012 at 12:05 PM
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Let them for 30 min. Second time leaving them at home. Arrived back to him screaming her name, her ugly crying and with ears full of tears. Furious.

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12-26-2012 at 8:01 PM
Ricola
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Carrie and Indiana, I am so sorry! It sounds like you guys are under a lot of stress and these are more than just regular vents. I really hope that things get better for both of you very soon and that your husbands realize what's going wrong. Huge hugs to you! 

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12-27-2012 at 1:44 AM
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Ricola I miss you!!!! Anytime you want to pop your head over in FB you are more than welcome! It is all puppies and rainbows I promise!

And thankyou for your level headedness. I'm feeling much better now her party and xmas has been and gone. Still pissed at DH but I think I can actually talk to him now without wanting to throttle him...improvement right?

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