i am in upstate ny and most doctors up here are against vbac plus this was unplanned and very close to my last
I am in upstate NY too and I second this. :/
I would just do the C-section if that's what they recommend. What was the reason for your E-C-S? The doctor could probably actually have a valid reason for not wanting to attempt it. PM me if you need to talk.
I had a C-section last year after a failed induction (My daughter is almost 2 now.) and I'm having another CS Friday. I'm slightly nervous but my other CS went smoothly. It's nervewracking to think about how you'll be awake but it goes by super fast. Why won't they let your husband in the room with you?
Where upstate are you two? I'm upstate, too, and my OB is very VBAC friendly, even though I will probably opt for a RCS. I'm not sure I would attempt a VBAC so soon after a c-section; you have to give your body enough time to heal and recover from the surgery.
Also, I had an emergency c-section for my last one, and I was awake the whole time. It's not that big a deal, you can't feel anything anyway, and they use the big blue curtain so you can't see it either (unless you ask, of course, they offered me a mirror and I said NO WAY).