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12-24-2012 at 11:54 AM
Amberrrr
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help me with my sister?

Well my sister texted me earlier this morning asking if she could come to the in laws for Christmas. I find this extremely weird, seeing as how she's never met them. The answer is no, but I'm not sure how to say it.
A. Tell her we've already done Christmas there she can come over to our house this weekend
B. Be honest and just say no, it'd be awkward and she'd be out of place. She can come over this weekend.

My sister really drives me crazy, I'd like to just avoid her all together but she wants to see her nephew!

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12-24-2012 at 11:58 AM
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Why can't she be there? Personally, unless there was a major issue, I would ask my inlaws if it was ok and let her come. If she doesn't go to your inlaws will that mean she is alone on Christmas? 

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12-24-2012 at 12:03 PM
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LoveBeingMama:
Why can't she be there? Personally, unless there was a major issue, I would ask my inlaws if it was ok and let her come. If she doesn't go to your inlaws will that mean she is alone on Christmas?nbsp;

No she'll be with my mom.
We planned that she would come to our house to celebrate Christmas this weekend.
She's a hot mess. She's not my most favorite person In the world. And I limit my time with her.

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12-24-2012 at 12:23 PM
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I agree with you and as long as my sister wasn't going to be alone I wouldn't want her to come to my ILs either.  Everyone wants to see the babies and I wouldn't want to worry about my sister monopolizing their time or have to worry about entertaining her since she doesn't know my ILs well.  Besides, both my ILs and my sister are weird and I just wouldn't want to mix them.  It would be one thing if it was a big get together at your house with both families but just bringing your sister by could be awkward.

Can you blame it on space?  Say something like "oh, their house is really small and will be cramped already, but you're welcome to come over on X day".  Or say that everyone is really excited for your LOs first Christmas and you think it would be best to keep the celebrations separate.  Just make something up if you think she's too immature to handle the truth (and that's said in a snarky way, my sister is very emotional and immature and I make stuff up with her all of the time).


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12-24-2012 at 1:10 PM
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Well, there really isnt enough room. There's 5dining chairs... And we've already exceeded 5 people. I'll add that to the rest of my excuse. Thanks!

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12-24-2012 at 1:13 PM
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I think I'd avoid giving any excuse and just say you'll see her on the weekend.

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12-24-2012 at 1:39 PM
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sunnyday016:
I think I'd avoid giving any excuse and just say you'll see her on the weekend.

I told her the truth actually. I said we won't be there long, and there's not enough chairs.

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12-24-2012 at 6:19 PM
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TBH, I would consider it rude if my guests brought someone over last minute. If I only planned enough food for 6 people and a seventh person came I would be in a bind. Even if they didn't have anywhere else to go, that was bad planning on their part.

 
12-24-2012 at 6:36 PM
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pinkshades05:
TBH, I would consider it rude if my guests brought someone over last minute. If I only planned enough food for 6 people and a seventh person came I would be in a bind. Even if they didn't have anywhere else to go, that was bad planning on their part.
Agreed She isn't the most considerate I must admit. She's the type to invite herself to stay the night. It's awful.

ETA: Oh, for the love of God.Now she's telling me her boyfriend thing might come too. . . . .

HOORAY.....

Isn't this rude to just invite people over? Or am I just weird?? 


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12-24-2012 at 7:29 PM
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It's very rude, especially when it's formal enough that food and number of chairs are planned. I have family members who think any invitation means them plus anyone else they can convience to come with them. No advanced notice. The more, the merrier, right? They don't get invited to things anymore.
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