Hey ladies thought we could start off the new year right with some blended fam resolutions.
Mine is to ask myself "does it fulfill me spiritually or mentally" before I do or get upset about anything.
Specifically I am going to stop checking Bm's Facebook page. It doesn't fulfill me to know what shes doing and I can actually rest assured whatever she is doing would either annoy me or worry me so what's the point in knowing the details?
Whenever I get the urge to check her Facebook or dwell on a negative detail about her I am going to clean a part of the house instead. Negative energy turned to a positive outcome! Bonus is it reduces my stress so much when I have a cleaner home.
What are some other resolutions you guys have decided on?
Glad to know I'm not the only one who does this! If it helps, I ended up blocking her on Facebook, not because we ever really interact on there, but then her page will not show up to search or on friends pages if you have any mutual etc.. It took away the temptation to look because I would actually have to go to my settings and unblock her. That extra step made me stop and think how pointless, unfulfilling, and negative checking was in the first place.
BF resolution is to try to pick my battles. DH was such a huge push over when it came to BM due to a lot of guilt from their previous relationship that it infuriated me to watch her walk all over him because she knew she could. Now that a CO is in place and she has been put in her place, I've got to learn to let things go a lot more. When she tries to change things in her favor, my initial gut reaction is anger and it does no good for me, or dh, or the situation as a whole. I have to remind myself she has had to give up a lot in the past year and a little compromise is good for all of us.