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12-24-2012 at 12:26 PM
marilyn049
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meltdown- vent

Hi all.

Big vent here, i'm sorry but I just need to get it out. I'm a FTM and reality of me having a baby is really kicking in and i'm getting super nervous. I'm so tired, so exhausted, as I know that pretty much all of you are! My husband is still in school, he was supposed to be done a week ago, and have his business degree. Well that didn't happen...He had 2 classes one of them had a huge final project that he had to do with a group. Well basically he was the only one in his group that tried and his group ended up bailing on him because it was too much work, so he failed that class. Meaning he'd have to do it again next year...You could imagine the devastation we both had. We just found out this morning, that he failed his other class too, by 2%!!!...bring on the tears!
How could this happen? He worked so hard! he was so busy, he was gone in school till 11pm on days, during my pregnancy, that I needed him the most! Now he has 2 courses to take next year, 2 of the most hardest, most busiest courses of his degree. This wasn't supposed to happen! He was going to graduate with his degree right before christmas and then welcome our first baby a month later....more tears...
Now in 2 weeks, he's going to be going back to school, a school thats over an hour away from home. I'm just about 35 weeks, he'll start school when i'm 37...I'll be sitting at home, alone, just wanting him but I won't be able to have him! What if I go into labor and he's an hour away (I know, babies don't come that fast) but i'll still want him to be around when i'm having contractions and in pain.

I HATE THIS!!!!
my parents are gone to visit my sister (12hrs away) because she just had a baby. I need my mom, she's my best friend and always let me just cry when I need to get it out. I've got 4 different christmas dinners with my husbands family (who just DRIVE ME NUTS!) this week..I'm trying to hard to be strong for my husband, but now i've got no one to turn too..
I dno what to do...Merry christmas to me...ugh
thanks for listening to me whine..

 
12-24-2012 at 2:51 PM
marchesa28
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**hugs** I'm sorry you have to go through all this....your husband's school stuff has to be majorly disappointing, and it's hard to have emotional burdens on top of being pregnant. Hang in there.....hopefully there is a light at the end of the tunnel.:)

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12-24-2012 at 3:19 PM
Ellei03
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Aww that stinks! And 4 dinners seems like an awful lot! Can you just say you don't feel well and stay home from at least one of them? You don't need any more stress! Hang in there!

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12-24-2012 at 3:48 PM
ClaryPax
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Sorry about the stress.  I blame your H for failing 2 classes, but you don't need the stress of being mad at him, so forget I said that lol. 

Don't worry an hour away is nothing- really.  I had a H that was traveling 5 hours away by plane for a while.  You can totally do an hour.  I mean most doctors say not to even call for an hour, so you won't even know if you are really in labor/ going to the hospital for the first hour anyway.  Every labor is different, but it shouldn't start out all the painful at first. 

Can you be "sick" for one or 2 of the Christmas dinners and send your H by himself.  That's what I would do.  I did 5 Christmases one year without even being pregnant, and I about went nuts and said never again.  My holidays are so much better now!

 
12-24-2012 at 10:01 PM
OliveBecke...
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Sounds like way too much stress! First, sorry to hear DH had so much trouble this semester. You know what they say about best laid plans.... That being said definitely try to remove some of the stress you can control. As PP mentioned, you don't have to do all the holiday stuff you had planned. It is OK to have rough days. Who cares what family may say pick and choose what you can handle.
Take care of yourself! There are lots of years for holidays and your DH will be done eventually. Things will be so different by next year :. Better!!!
Sending lots of holiday cheer your way....

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12-27-2012 at 11:49 AM
marilyn049
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A little late, but thanks for all your replies!! Its always nice to hear some encouraging words!

 
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