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12-24-2012 at 4:26 PM
Smash2009
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I was hoping it was one of those times...

Preg mentioned, not mine

....the times we always talk about here on ttcal, where the actual SEEING the pregnant friend isn't as bed as the expectation. But it's not one of those times. Seeing my preg SIL is a huge gut punch. I hung out with her for a few minutes, small talk and giggling. But it hurts. Much more than I really thought it would. 2 more days. And my MIL informed us of which room we would sleep in....because you know, the pregnant woman should probably get the bigger bed. Her words.

I know this is a downer post on Christmas Eve. Bottom line, we are so blessed in so many ways, but I needed to get this off my chest to people who would understand. Poor Ashleen has already had an inbox full on FB. Thanks for listening, girls.

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12-24-2012 at 4:59 PM
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Huge ((((HUGS)))) Smash.  This is exactly why we're doing hermit-style Christmas this year.  I knew it would be too much.

I'm sorry :(  And your MIL deserves a TP for saying that about the bed in front of you.  I hope the next two days go by quickly for you.

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12-24-2012 at 5:41 PM
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I am sorry. ((((hugs))))
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12-24-2012 at 5:56 PM
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12-24-2012 at 5:56 PM
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oooh, big TP to your MIL. sorry you're having to deal with this at Christmas. hope it gets better
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12-24-2012 at 5:58 PM
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I'm sorry. [HUGS]
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12-24-2012 at 6:19 PM
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You should've told your mil that you were hoping to GET pregnant this Christmas and need the bigger bed for some "wrestling".

I logged in mobile just for you! Huge hugs.

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12-24-2012 at 6:57 PM
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Thank you guys so much. And thanks for confirming that MIL's comment was ridiculous. I am in a bit of a poor me mode, and I need to snap out of it. I truly thought it would be a bit easier.
DCW, you're awesome! Definitely wish I had the gonads to say that. Haha
I hope everyone is warm and eating lots of holiday treats this eve.
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12-24-2012 at 7:14 PM
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DCWJes:
You should've told your mil that you were hoping to GET pregnant this Christmas and need the bigger bed for some "wrestling". I logged in mobile just for you! Huge hugs.

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12-24-2012 at 7:15 PM
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Smash2009:
Thank you guys so much. And thanks for confirming that MIL's comment was ridiculous. I am in a bit of a poor me mode, and I need to snap out of it. I truly thought it would be a bit easier.
DCW, you're awesome! Definitely wish I had the gonads to say that. Haha
I hope everyone is warm and eating lots of holiday treats this eve.
Thank you again

I have had to rein in my inner btch tonight and behave. Big bummer. Plus, I don't drink so my sleepiness is causing a looser tongue than is allowed. Oops!

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12-24-2012 at 8:17 PM
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No worries boo! Fill up my inbox anytime! Love ya! Extra ::hugs::

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12-24-2012 at 9:24 PM
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(((((((((((hugs)))))))))))) I'm sorry your MIL had to point out the reason for the sleeping arrangements, too.

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12-24-2012 at 9:57 PM
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Oh Smash that sucks. I'm so sorry hunny. Huge big squishy hugs to you.
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12-24-2012 at 10:33 PM
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Seriously, thank you all. Damn, I turned into a weeping mess tonight. I did NOT expect that. I really am not trying to be dramatic, and I've surprised myself with how emotional my reaction has been.
Why can't you all be with me IRL right now? I'd make you breakfast casserole in the morning and give you all homemade peppermint sugar scrub. Love you guys...sleep tight.

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12-24-2012 at 11:55 PM
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Smash2009:
Seriously, thank you all. Damn, I turned into a weeping mess tonight. I did NOT expect that. I really am not trying to be dramatic, and I've surprised myself with how emotional my reaction has been. Why can't you all be with me IRL right now? I'd make you breakfast casserole in the morning and give you all homemade peppermint sugar scrub. Love you guys...sleep tight.

I'll still take the sugar scrub! Wink


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12-25-2012 at 8:46 AM
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12-25-2012 at 10:12 AM
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rlajambe:

DCWJes:
You should've told your mil that you were hoping to GET pregnant this Christmas and need the bigger bed for some "wrestling". I logged in mobile just for you! Huge hugs.

I second this...Go project ninja sex!!!!

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