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12-23-2012 at 11:34 AM
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I remember seeing that a baby can be too young to CIO. How old should he be before we can start letting him cry it out?
 
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12-23-2012 at 12:50 PM
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 6 months. But you just don't let them sit and cry. You let them cry, then soothe, cry, soothe until they fall asleep. I would read about the Ferber method.
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12-23-2012 at 1:03 PM
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 6 months. But you just don't let them sit and cry. You let them cry, then soothe, cry, soothe until they fall asleep. I would read about the Ferber method.

I disagree with this age.  Not all experts agree either.  You really have to read your child and figure out what works for them AND the parents.

We started DD when she was 4.5 months and it has been working well for us.

We do go in and check on her.  But she tyically falls asleep within 10-15 minutes.  If she is crying hard beyond 15 minutes then I go in and nurse her and she'll fall asleep after.  But that is party because I have problems with supply and if I nursed her for her before-bed meal, I can never be 100% certain that she was able to get enough.  More often than not, however, she falls asleep.  And she STTN more nights too.
 
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12-23-2012 at 1:09 PM
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I've read between 4-6 months you can start. I personally don't use CIO,, but that's what I read when I did some research on it. We chose to do more the No Tears Method.
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Our pediatrician said we could start sleep training our LO at 4 months.  You should ask your pediatrician.
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I really feel any baby under 6 months is too young to cio. There are better ways to sleep train than letting your baby cry! Some parents are just too lazy to do it.
 
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12-23-2012 at 5:26 PM
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mrslionbear:
I really feel any baby under 6 months is too young to cio. There are better ways to sleep train than letting your baby cry! Some parents are just too lazy to do it.
I'm glad somebody said it!

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SunAndRain:

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&nbsp;6 months. But you just don't let them sit and cry. You let them cry, then soothe, cry, soothe until they fall asleep. I would read about the Ferber method.

I disagree with this age.&nbsp; Not all experts agree either.&nbsp; You really have to read your child and figure out what works for them AND the parents.

We started DD when she was 4.5 months and it has been working well for us.

We do go in and check on her.&nbsp; But she tyically falls asleep within 10-15 minutes.&nbsp; If she is crying hard beyond 15 minutes then I go in and nurse her and she'll fall asleep after.&nbsp; But that is party because I have problems with supply and if I nursed her for her before-bed meal, I can never be 100% certain that she was able to get enough.&nbsp; More often than not, however, she falls asleep.&nbsp; And she STTN more nights too.



How old is your DD now? I only ask because you said you've been doing it since a certain age. I believe the point of CIO and sleep training is that they learn that to sleep without having to be put down asleep. By your post I got the impression that your DD cries for 10 to 15 minutes everytime she is put down. Maybe she is too young to make the connection? CIO isn't just simply to let your kid wear themselves out by crying for an ongoing amount of time. If done when they are old enough to evolve with the process, the crying should gradually decrease. Just trying to get more info to clarify your post.
 
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12-23-2012 at 10:13 PM
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mrslionbear:
I really feel any baby under 6 months is too young to cio. There are better ways to sleep train than letting your baby cry! Some parents are just too lazy to do it.


Better ways according to who? You? Because you are an expert in sleep and early childhood development? Or because the author of the book you chose to read said so despite other authors claiming otherwise?

Calling parents names because their parenting style differs from yours is pointless. One could say that parents who don't do CIO are lazy because they don't want to put in the difficult work that it takes to do what is best for their child's development simply because listening to a child cry is hard! I say this only to illustrate a point; I don't care what other parents do and respect their choices .

Like I said, do what works for your family.
 
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12-24-2012 at 10:36 AM
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SunAndRain:
mrslionbear:
I really feel any baby under 6 months is too young to cio. There are better ways to sleep train than letting your baby cry! Some parents are just too lazy to do it.
Better ways according to who? You? Because you are an expert in sleep and early childhood development? Or because the author of the book you chose to read said so despite other authors claiming otherwise? Calling parents names because their parenting style differs from yours is pointless. One could say that parents who don't do CIO are lazy because they don't want to put in the difficult work that it takes to do what is best for their child's development simply because listening to a child cry is hard! I say this only to illustrate a point; I don't care what other parents do and respect their choices . Like I said, do what works for your family.

Well, the AAP for one. Many, many doctors for 2. Many sleep experts for 3. It is careless to let a 4 month old CIO.

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12-24-2012 at 11:55 AM
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SunAndRain:
mrslionbear:
I really feel any baby under 6 months is too young to cio. There are better ways to sleep train than letting your baby cry! Some parents are just too lazy to do it.
Better ways according to who? You? Because you are an expert in sleep and early childhood development? Or because the author of the book you chose to read said so despite other authors claiming otherwise? Calling parents names because their parenting style differs from yours is pointless. One could say that parents who don't do CIO are lazy because they don't want to put in the difficult work that it takes to do what is best for their child's development simply because listening to a child cry is hard! I say this only to illustrate a point; I don't care what other parents do and respect their choices . Like I said, do what works for your family.

Well, the AAP for one. Many, many doctors for 2. Many sleep experts for 3. It is careless to let a 4 month old CIO.

 

Many sleep experts agree that CIO at 4 months is acceptable. It's so annoying to always hear from the "bump experts" on solids and sleep training. I'm so over it. If my pediatrician agrees, then I value his opinion over a message board persona any day. As far as I'm concerned, most of the people afraid to let their babies CIO or eat solids are helicopter moms that need to ease up a bit. And now I will duck because I'm sure you will all swoop in for a landing.  
 
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12-24-2012 at 2:14 PM
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SunAndRain:
mrslionbear:
I really feel any baby under 6 months is too young to cio. There are better ways to sleep train than letting your baby cry! Some parents are just too lazy to do it.
Better ways according to who? You? Because you are an expert in sleep and early childhood development? Or because the author of the book you chose to read said so despite other authors claiming otherwise? Calling parents names because their parenting style differs from yours is pointless. One could say that parents who don't do CIO are lazy because they don't want to put in the difficult work that it takes to do what is best for their child's development simply because listening to a child cry is hard! I say this only to illustrate a point; I don't care what other parents do and respect their choices . Like I said, do what works for your family.

Well, the AAP for one. Many, many doctors for 2. Many sleep experts for 3. It is careless to let a 4 month old CIO.

 

Many sleep experts agree that CIO at 4 months is acceptable. It's so annoying to always hear from the "bump experts" on solids and sleep training. I'm so over it. If my pediatrician agrees, then I value his opinion over a message board persona any day. As far as I'm concerned, most of the people afraid to let their babies CIO or eat solids are helicopter moms that need to ease up a bit. And now I will duck because I'm sure you will all swoop in for a landing.  

LOL @ you thinking you know anything about my parenting style. I trust the AAP and its most current recommendations, which include not letting your newborn CIO and not starting solids until 6 months. It also includes extended RF'ing in the carseat, laying your baby on its back to sleep, and giving it BM.

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12-25-2012 at 1:15 PM
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SunAndRain:
mrslionbear:
I really feel any baby under 6 months is too young to cio. There are better ways to sleep train than letting your baby cry! Some parents are just too lazy to do it.
Better ways according to who? You? Because you are an expert in sleep and early childhood development? Or because the author of the book you chose to read said so despite other authors claiming otherwise? Calling parents names because their parenting style differs from yours is pointless. One could say that parents who don't do CIO are lazy because they don't want to put in the difficult work that it takes to do what is best for their child's development simply because listening to a child cry is hard! I say this only to illustrate a point; I don't care what other parents do and respect their choices . Like I said, do what works for your family.

Well, the AAP for one. Many, many doctors for 2. Many sleep experts for 3. It is careless to let a 4 month old CIO.

 

Many sleep experts agree that CIO at 4 months is acceptable. It's so annoying to always hear from the "bump experts" on solids and sleep training. I'm so over it. If my pediatrician agrees, then I value his opinion over a message board persona any day. As far as I'm concerned, most of the people afraid to let their babies CIO or eat solids are helicopter moms that need to ease up a bit. And now I will duck because I'm sure you will all swoop in for a landing.  


LOL @ you thinking you know anything about my parenting style. I trust the AAP and its most current recommendations, which include not letting your newborn CIO and not starting solids until 6 months. It also includes extended RF'ing in the carseat, laying your baby on its back to sleep, and giving it BM.

  

The AAP recommendations are meant to be guidelines, not the Holy Grail.  Again, I consider our pediatrician's advice and what my child needs over adhering firmly to AAP rec's.Every child is an individual and they do not fit perfectly into all guidelines set forth by the AAP.

From what I can tell you are the one judging others by saying that CIO at 4 months is "careless".  I don't recall that term being used in the AAP guidelines.
 
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12-26-2012 at 6:32 PM
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mrslionbear:
I really feel any baby under 6 months is too young to cio. There are better ways to sleep train than letting your baby cry! Some parents are just too lazy to do it.

This is such an infuriating comment. You can't possibly know that and it's incredibly close minded to say so. Get off your soap box. Babies cry, that's what they do.
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12-26-2012 at 6:34 PM
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SunAndRain:
mrslionbear:
I really feel any baby under 6 months is too young to cio. There are better ways to sleep train than letting your baby cry! Some parents are just too lazy to do it.
Better ways according to who? You? Because you are an expert in sleep and early childhood development? Or because the author of the book you chose to read said so despite other authors claiming otherwise? Calling parents names because their parenting style differs from yours is pointless. One could say that parents who don't do CIO are lazy because they don't want to put in the difficult work that it takes to do what is best for their child's development simply because listening to a child cry is hard! I say this only to illustrate a point; I don't care what other parents do and respect their choices . Like I said, do what works for your family.

Well, the AAP for one. Many, many doctors for 2. Many sleep experts for 3. It is careless to let a 4 month old CIO.

 

Many sleep experts agree that CIO at 4 months is acceptable. It's so annoying to always hear from the "bump experts" on solids and sleep training. I'm so over it. If my pediatrician agrees, then I value his opinion over a message board persona any day. As far as I'm concerned, most of the people afraid to let their babies CIO or eat solids are helicopter moms that need to ease up a bit. And now I will duck because I'm sure you will all swoop in for a landing.  


LOL @ you thinking you know anything about my parenting style. I trust the AAP and its most current recommendations, which include not letting your newborn CIO and not starting solids until 6 months. It also includes extended RF'ing in the carseat, laying your baby on its back to sleep, and giving it BM.

  

The AAP recommendations are meant to be guidelines, not the Holy Grail.  Again, I consider our pediatrician's advice and what my child needs over adhering firmly to AAP rec's.Every child is an individual and they do not fit perfectly into all guidelines set forth by the AAP.

From what I can tell you are the one judging others by saying that CIO at 4 months is "careless".  I don't recall that term being used in the AAP guidelines.

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