meladoriestar:I guess I'm the only one who doesn't mind it. I do find it comforting to an extent, and I like it when people point out things to be optimistic about when I'm down. Plenty of women can't get pregnant and I'm glad to know that I can, even if it didn't last this time.
I don't mind when people say we can try again, but I hate when they say it's just a speedbump on the way to having a baby. Im sad for *this* baby.
This. But, it took me a while to get there. My first pregnancy ended in m/c. My second resulted in DD, third in DS, so I didn't look back. But, since DS, I've had 4 miscarriages, one at 19 weeks. At first, I didn't care to hear that, at least, I could conceive. But eventually it gave me hope that if we could figure out why, I knew I could conceive and implant which is a win. That, as tough as it is to hear, is better than never knowing if you can conceive. We went through ivf and FET and failed both and I was surprised because I'd never had issues conceiving or implanting. But, it was out of my hands. I learned to focus on the positive because even though you are sad and grieving, that one positive thing is the thing you can latch on to to give you the strength to keep trying. For me, it was exactly that I knew I could conceive.