Trying to Get Pregnant

Siggy Challenge?

Rocknroll64 — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 21:53:41 GMT

Are we going to have a July siggy challenge? I missed having one in June.

Any ideas?

Intro

ahartrick — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 22:18:14 GMT

Hello-

just wanted to introduce myself! This is our second month trying to conceive. We haven't told anyone we are trying so I figured this would be a good place to talk ha. I am planning on testing next Wednesday so fingers crossed.

Thanks and I hope to hear from some of you!

Treating PCOS?

thatmissamanda — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 22:13:10 GMT

Just wondering for any of you girls also dealing with PCOS if you are taking anything to help it? RX or not? My doctor who diagnosed me really didn't say a whole lot to me except to lose weight would be the only thing that helped it. I also went to a naturpathic doctor who told me to start taking cinnamon and chromium daily to help with the insulin resistance. Though when I went to look up places to buy chromium I found a few sites advising against taking it so I wasn't sure what to do anymore. Anyone with experiences with this or any other PCOS treatment?

Long cycles

katehutsen — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 21:16:19 GMT

I may get flamed for this, but I thought I would ask anyway. Is there anything I can do to try to shorten my cycles?

My cycles are all over the place and the last few cycles have been 46 and 53 days and I am on CD39 and haven't ovulated yet so this cycle will be at least 50 days long as well.

I am overweight but I am on weight watchers hoping that maybe losing a few pounds will help us with the TTGP process. Just wondering if losing weight may help shorten my cycles?

Any advice or thoughts?

WTF happened to "Period or Pregnant"?

CiderWench — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 19:25:55 GMT

Witch (spelling intentional) of you b'tches caused the dirty delete?

:::fingers crossed that it was meeeee!:::

Ugh!

johnsonscharosch — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 17:38:21 GMT

I am going to start this off with a slight warning that I am menstrual and irritable so maybe take this with a grain of salt. Anyway, is anyone else getting tired of the constant slap in the face I call AF? I am at 9 months TTGP and I'm a little burned out today. All of the temping and charting and OPK's... Is anyone else feeling this way or is it just me? And if so, how far into the process are you?

Seeking some advice, A little TTGPR...LONNNG

Donniesgrrl — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 19:56:22 GMT

So Since I have been lurking about in here, I really respect a lot of the opinions and thoughts given here. I am posting from another board I post on, a board for People with family members with Borderline personality disorder. My Mother. The post below will give you some back story, but where it stands now is that I am no Contact with them, we have invited them to events that our Kids are a part of but that is it. I know it is a little cart before the horse because I am not PG yet, but it helps me to quiet the voice so to speak and move through the anxiety with opinions from others.

When we do get pregnant I have no idea how to tell them, or if I even want to. I have a feeling that I will put it out there on Facebook and they can find out that way like everyone else, but then the guilt sneaks in and I feel like I am being as cold and heartless as she is towards me.

With that being said My mom was present at the Births of both Children and that will not be happening again, she was fine in the delivery room, but with where things stand now there is little to no relationship so why would she be there. I guess I am just looking for opinions, thoughts, snark, whatever, is welcome, after what I have been through in the last year I can take it ha ha.

Back Story:

Hi there!

Let me start by saying that although I have been in therapy for about 4 months my Therapist and I just came to the conclusion that my Mother Most likely Suffers from BPD.

I will start at the Beginning:

In October My Husband and I decided to go away for a weekend, up until this point we had never had my parents watch our Children for longer than an overnight but we decided that we needed to try so we dropped the kids off and we were on our way. The first day they had them Everything was fine, However on the Second day when we were to be coming home and getting them there was an issue with my Daughter, Mind you the issue began in the Morning when my Mom felt that DD was being Disrespectful because she would not say Good Morning to my Dad (the night before he yelled at her for running around and apparently she was pretty upset about it) So instead of letting it go, my mother decided to make and issue of it DD is 3.5 her attention span is that of a puppy. Growing up, when my mom decided to make an issue of something it often led to hours upon hours of yelling, discussion, emotional abuse, sometimes physical consequences and food withholding.

I finally received a Phone call at 3PM that this had been going on all day (it started at 7am) and that DD had cried herself to sleep because she was in my moms word "beligerent" and "destructive". now I do not claim my Children to be angels, however I know that behavior of that nature is completely out of character for her so my gaurd went up. I told my mom that she needed to let it go at that point, and that DH and I would talk with her when she got home and deal with the issue. to which I was told " I have to take a stand, if I let this go she will walk all over us" again she is 3.5. I told them we would be home shortly and that they should head back, they were 2 and a half hours away. At 7:30 we had heard nothing from them and our kids were still not home, I called and I was told they would be there when they got there and that DD was the reason they were late because she was being defiant. I said to them Just bring my kids home now. at 9pm they arrived at our house. My Husband and I were very upset at this point. All the memories of my Childhood came flooding back and I was terrified about what my Daughter was going through.

The first thing out of my moms mouth when she walked through our door was "I don't know what is wrong with her, I have never seen a kid act that way, she may have a problem". We calmly replied we would handle it From there and said thanks for watching them and sent them on their way. We got DD and DS to bed and went to bed as well.

The Next Day the crap hit the fan, I began getting angry text messages about how ungrateful we were that they would even watch our kids. My DD has a mental problem because she acts this way, I am a bad person because I did not shower them with Gratitude for watching the kids. We were not there so we have no idea what happened etc. etc. etc. at this point I was fighting with her for 3 days, in which time I also found out that my step dad spanked my 2 year old twice and that DD had been injured the night before and they held her down (my moms words not mine) to put ice on the injury but she was beligerent so they locked her in a room until she would allow them to help her (sounds nuts I know). It finally culminated with me telling her to eff off and that I was done.

After all of this I turned to my dad and Step Mom's Family and asked for Guidance, I began going to therapy and it has helped immensely in dealing with my issues that came about because of this episode. Last night after I spoke to my counselor about the most recent contact with my mother, she began to ask me a series of questions about my mom and about my experiences growing up and we came to the conclusion that it appears she has a form of Borderline personality Disorder.

In the process I have been going through in Therapy I have come to such an immense place of peace and it has helped in my Marriage and in how I parent my own children. However up until last night, we could never really put a finger on why she acts this way and has all but refused to try and move forward in a new way so that we can have some sort of relationship and so that she can also have a relationship with our kids. My mom wants to have a discussion about the allegations I made and the very terrible awful things I have said about them(her and my Step Dad, who we are pretty sure has a narcissism problem), I confronted her about some of the abuse and she basically told me I was remembering wrong .

A discussion with her is always a lecture and a means of her haranguing me and making herself feel better so that SHE can move on meanwhile I feel like garbage afterwards and have yet again put her needs in front of my own and my families and I have flat out refused to do that. I have offered to say the past is the past but she keeps returning to "this is what I need to move on" and so I am sticking to my guns and that may or may not mean we do not have a relationship.

Knowing what I know now makes it much easier to realize that the "Normal" relationship I was hoping for will never be. While it does make that realization easier it does not make it any less difficult to cope with...

SA OOP Cost

CarolinaGirl83 — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 22:03:16 GMT

DH has crappy insurance. He pays out of pocket until he hist $3000. It's terrible & I'm thankful that I have my own! Anyway, we're on cycle 11 & while I'm not rushing to the doctor's office, I need to wrap my mind around the financial part of it. Did any of you pay oop for your DH' s SA?

I had my annual pap/exam last month and my GYN wants to see me back next month for an ultrasound to check for PCOS. She did blood work at my exam. GYN said that I have a few signs & symptoms, so we would do the US & go from there.

I'm taking a guess that, depending on the US, we'll have to do an SA.

Fingers crossed that I'll be able to get a BFP before 7/11/13!

~GETTING HEALTHY Check-In~

CiderWench — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 15:05:03 GMT

What is your goal?

What were your successes/hurdles last week?

What are your plans this coming week?

GTKY: Fill in the blank below... :)

The Getting Healthy Check-In is an accountability tool for anyone looking to live a healthier lifestyle ~ be it losing/gaining/maintaining weight, establishing an exercise routine, or eating better, etc.
All Are Welcome!

Weird/Fun family traditions?

EmeJay — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 16:52:51 GMT

What are your odd family traditions?

For my 18th birthday, my mom took me and my sister to a thai restaurant where they gifted me a very ugly scary looking wooden frog. Before I left town, I hid the frog in my mom's microwave.

10 years later, we still hide the frog in many weird places: inside gifts, sent through the mail, hidden in the Christmas tree, in the glove compartiment of someone's car ..

I once had a bouquet of flower sent to my sister's with the frog attached to it.

What are yours?

Insurance question/CD3 blood work

krptcmschfmkr128 — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 19:32:55 GMT

No pap on your period right? I should call and reschedule my Monday appointment if the spotting gets heavier?

Also, I'm switching jobs July 8th, so I'll be switching insurance plans. Should I hold off on CD3 blood work until next cycle when I'm on my new policy, or see if I can get my doctor to order it and use what I've got now while I still have it?

If I do use this insurance, will CD4 blood work be OK, if tomorrow turns into CD1 and CD3 falls on Sunday when the lab is closed?

3T?

mmb248 — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 21:01:15 GMT

I just finished my 11th ovulatory cycle since August 2011, and I think it's time I admit that we're having trouble. I was holding off contacting an RE until I got setup with a new OB/GYN (mine moved earlier this year), but my OB/GYN from years ago moved back to town and I immediately called her new office. Thank god, because I was having no luck with referrals from friends - so many Clomid-happy drs out there! I found out that I don't need a referral to an RE, but she did recommend that I see one, so I just made an appointment. Is it normal to cry after you make that first appointment or should I chalk that up to CD1? (Or whatever's going on with me. CD1 with stop and go flow, tons of cramps, and a squinter of a line?)

Should I bring DH to my first appointment? The RE's office said that it was up to us. She said he would most likely order an SA for DH, but that wouldn't be done at the 1st appt so it's not necessary for him to be there.

What should I expect from the first appointment? Is it mainly a consult? I'll be CD15, so I don't think there's much testing they can do then, right?

Blah.... should I go an intro over on 3T and ask them? It's always felt scary to me, but now that I've made the gigantic leap of calling the RE, posting a message on a board full of women in the same boat doesn't seem so daunting.

Reintroducing Myself

MadApple — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 20:59:58 GMT

Hi - I'm Jen.

I'm 31 and TTC #2. We originally starting trying for #2 at the end of December, and I spent a few weeks hanging out on this board. I ended up having a CP our first cycle, and I was pretty upset afterward. We took a few months off TTC, but we're ready to start again.

I'm glad to be back here.

~~waiting to O~~

LaurenAsh23 — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 10:02:23 GMT

Happy hump day ladies!! I'm up early to say bye to dh before I leave for a work trip, so I figured I'd get things going for the day

cycle/month:

cd:

what are you doing this month?

thoughts/questions/chart stalks:

gtky: what gift would you love to receive from your dh/so(and not magic sperm or a baby ?

Insurance or cash?

GoaliesWife123 — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 20:22:46 GMT

Hello all,

I've been MIA, but I have intro'd quite some time ago. DW and I are TTC with a donor. We haven't actively started trying yet, but will be in September.

I am self employed and insurance is ridiculously high priced. Especially maternity. $400-$500 per month and even if I paid that, the annual deductible is $5000. DW and I are going to be paying cash for the services we need throughout the pregnancy (my State does not recognize our marriage, so I can not share her incredible insurance.) If we are lucky enough to actually conceive, LO will be on her insurance when born.

My question to you: Is anyone else paying cash for their TTC journey? If so, would you do it again if you had the choice?

Removing my IUD!!!!

GavinIsMyBabyBear — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 20:10:46 GMT

I have decided to remove my paraguard. I have had horrible periods (19 days, very heavy and crampy). I've seen my gyno about it and all he suggested was trying a depo shot to lessen the length. It didn't work so I'm making an appointment to remove it in July.

Then I'm going to give my body time to regulate out before really trying. I'm thinking condoms for a cycle or 2 and then the fun begins

im so excited to start trying again. I love being a mommy to my little boy and can't wait to give him a brother or sister.

So I'm jumping on the boards to get to know people and share experiences. I look forward to talking with you all. Baby dust!!!!!

Speaking of age and grey hairs...

mcatmay — Tue, 18 Jun 2013 19:44:32 GMT

How old are ya'll?

~TFAS Check In~

bornmommy — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 15:27:27 GMT

Good Morning! Happy Hump Day!

Age of LO(s):

What are LO(s) up to these days:

Rants/Raves/Chart Stalks:

GTKY: What is one baby gear item you did not get the first time around that you will absolutely get next time?

sun

darjeeling — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 14:11:20 GMT

Y G P M =)

Waiting to do Something

novelblessings — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 15:44:05 GMT

Hello Ladies!!! Happy Wednesday!! Running a little late this morning because I had a couple job interviews.

For any newbies out there: the Waiting to do Something thread is posted once a week on Wednesdays. It's open to those of us who experience long, extended cycles. Some of us are going through medicated cycles, some of us are going through testing and some of us are just waiting...to do something!

1. Cycle/month:

2. CD:

3. Medicated?

4. What are you doing this cycle?

5. What is pissing your off?!?!

6. QOTW: What's for lunch/dinner?

The wait is the hardest part

Hdanner7 — Tue, 18 Jun 2013 19:46:41 GMT

This is our first month trying, and I think we planned everything pretty well, but I am only basing it off of my LMP. Not checking temp or anything yet. I get some weird crampish like feelings every now and then, which is unusual because I never get any cramps this early before my period. I have taken two tests that were both BFN, but I am staying hopeful that its just too early to detect. It is taking everything in my will power to NOT test again until I miss my period, and also to not obsess over it. Here's to hoping I see a BFP next week!!

2WW Hump Day

this1life — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 10:47:36 GMT

Cycle/Month:

CD/DPO:

Timing:

Testing Plans:

Thoughts/Vents/Phantom Symptoms:

GTKY: What is your least favorite aspect of being a lady?

Early symptoms??

Toster21 — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 15:59:40 GMT

I know I'm too early to test but I was wondering about some symptoms you all may have experienced.
I'm about 4dpo an I've been getting mild period cramps and backache for a day or so.
I've ready cramping in pregnancy is normal but who knows if I'm even pregnant yet.
So far I'm not having any other tell tale symptoms.
Could my uterus be getting ready for implantation?
I'm new at TTC. I've read up on all I can but would love your opinion.
I did have a Chem last march. I got the cramping and backache along with bleeding and clots. This is similar to that but no bleeding.

Any insight? I will wait further to test around 12dpo.

WTF Wednesdays

beckynsean11 — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 14:37:00 GMT

Let's hear it ladies!

For those of you wondering

RemmieRis — Tue, 18 Jun 2013 23:07:57 GMT

I've been keeping up with the 2ww thread, and I posted this morning with my testing plans. A few wished me luck, and I'm here to tell those who are interested that I just got my BFP. I haven't been here as long as others, but I did my best to contribute to the group, and I learned a lot.
What we did: OPKs, tracked CM, drank green tea, and we had sex all 3 days leading up to O.
Symptoms: very light cramping the past few days, around 8dpo and still now. One teeny tiny spec of blood on 9dpo when wiping. Yesterday and today, which was 10 and 11dpo, slight nausea in the late afternoons til I went to bed. So slight that I can kind of ignore it.
Tested: Morning of 10dpo, BFN. Evening of 11dpo, BFP. Hoping for a sticky baby.

I want to wish everyone continued luck with TTC and thanks again for being a resource for me, and entertainment during the long antsy days!