TTC after 35

Where are my 10dpo girls!!

Kat28655 — Fri, 24 May 2013 12:05:19 GMT

Good morning to you all!!

I know Jill867 is spotting this morning (could be implantation, keep your fingers crossed!) How is everyone else? Anyone test?

My temp was down this morning. I feel totally defeated. I also feel silly that something as small as a temperature can alter my whole mood.

Good luck to everyone!!

I am convinced my body hates me

*sparky* — Tue, 21 May 2013 13:32:09 GMT

So I posted last week that I was five days late and getting a BFN. Well AF finally arrived the day I had an all-day field trip with DS's school - that was so fun. And now that my cycle is pushed back a few days it looks like my best days for TTC will hit this month on the three days that (1) DH is out of town and (2) are my three busiest days of work for the entire month. So I may as well scratch this cycle as well...

36 and TTC for the 1st time

jlb1023 — Tue, 21 May 2013 19:59:47 GMT

I'm new here so I thought I would introduce myself and make some friends as I begin this new journey. A little about me...I'm 36 and TTC with my husband for the first time. We have been married for less than a year, although together for over 3 years (1st marriage for both of us and no children). I have been on some form of birth control since I was 17, most recently Nuvaring, and just stopped using it this past Sunday. I'm so excited, but scared at the same time. I so badly want to start a family and hope it doesn't take too long to conceive. Obviously, I already have age going against me and I also had the start of endometriosis in my teen years which is why I went on birth control to begin with. Anyone else in a similar situation? Any words of wisdom or advice about TTC for the first time?

I wish everyone on here best of luck!!!

RE results vent & ?

ally510 — Thu, 23 May 2013 17:43:16 GMT

Given my age (turned 39 2 weeks ago) my OB referred my to a RE after 4 months of trying with no success. I went to the same one 2 1/2 years ago because MH had recently finished chemo (he had lymphoma) and we wanted to make sure his boys were ok before we ttc. Since I was 36, he did a full work-up on both of us. After getting our results, he said to try naturally but never really explained the test results to us. We conceived naturally and when DD was about 10 months, we tried again and conceived again. That pregnancy ended in a D&E at 14 weeks.

This time around, I had an u/s and a saline sono and he saw no abnormalities (I was concerned there may be scar tissue from the D&E as I bled for a really long time). He ran a thyroid panel, which told me I was undermedicated, so we upped my synthroid. Then I had blood work for an FSH, estridol, and an AMH done. He said the HSG was unnecessary as I had one 2 1/2 years ago. I got my FSH results yesterday and it is an 8 and the estridol was normal. I have not gotten the results to the AMH, but from what I understand, that is less likely to have changed a great deal since the first time I had it done than the FSH. Also, during the u/s the doctor told me he could see "a lot of eggs in there" so I'm hopeful it will be ok. I should have the AMH results tomorrow.

Here comes the vent...when the nurse called with my results, I made an appointment to go over them with the doctor, but he can't get us in until the latter half of June! The wait to interpret these results is killing me. If he thinks we're going to need help, I wanted to try in June as I will be away when I O in July and the office will be closed when I O in August (they close for 3 weeks in August). That puts us into September. The baby I lost in November was due 2 days ago. I found out I was pregnant with that baby on Sept 10th (MH's b-day). I guess I'm just frustrated because I feel like I should be snuggling a newborn right now and now I'm feeling like I may not even be KU by a full year after I was KU with that one. I'm just having a poor me moment.

I guess my question is, for those who under a RE's care, what are the requirements for needing help? I know the protocol varies a great deal based on individual test results, but if you're comfortable sharing, what did your RE recommend and why?

TIA!

Nervous (TMI?)

jill867 — Thu, 23 May 2013 18:11:52 GMT

I am 10 DPO today. I feel like I am getting my period. I just went to the ladies room and had an itty bitty pink tint and some mucusy stuff. I am nervous. I am not due until the 28th.

OPK question

SlinkyDog2013 — Thu, 23 May 2013 16:29:29 GMT

So, I'm using the Clearblue Easy OPK kit. So far I've gotten 5 days of the blinking smiley face (high fertility) No solid smiley face.(Peak)The package says that it shows 2 days of high fertility and then 2 days of peak fertilirty. Anyone else have this happen?

10 DPO tomorrow....

jill867 — Wed, 22 May 2013 20:24:18 GMT

I will be 10 DPO tomorrow....Do you think I should test? I am getting so antsy.

Always an aunt, never a Mom......

svega232 — Fri, 17 May 2013 19:48:20 GMT

So yesterday, I got a text from my neigbor telling me that she is pregnant again. While I was very happy for her, I looked at my husband and said "everyone is getting pregnant and having babies except for me!" And yet, another pitty party. He tells me "Don't worry, our time will come". I never thought I would be in this situation. Sometimes I get so mad and sad, I tell myself maybe I'm not meant to have kids. But I don't want to believe that. It's so easy to give up but I'm going to keep on trying until my body says "Stop".

Sorry, just had to vent!

CD 1 here too

hlmlvt — Wed, 22 May 2013 10:12:37 GMT

Have had no cramps nothing. Cycle last month was 28 days post Dnc. Well bingo great way to start my morning. I'm with you fellow CD 1s. Here is to this month!!! Think positive right!!!

latest update - ticker

Lenox1975 — Wed, 22 May 2013 13:42:51 GMT

Hi ladies,

Thanks for the shout out and cheers this week. Another reminder of how much this board rocks!

We had our second u/s this morning and we saw a heartbeat! This was a first for us - we've never made it that far - and it was breathtaking. My husband started crying. We are 6 1/2 weeks, which is what I thought going in.

Jacque - I haven't intro'd anywhere because as you said, I'm laying low. It's just too painful to intro and then say good bye. Just another example of how prior losses really mess with you. I'm not sure when it feels comfortable enough but hopefully it's soon.

As for the "house" - well, it's an apartment so pictures are very unexciting :) Jchow - we are moving to Prospect Heights - so leaving Manhattan for Brooklyn! Maybe we'll join you in the burbs in a few years!

xoxo to all of you!

first IUI yesterday

junglej76 — Wed, 22 May 2013 14:39:12 GMT

I successfully made it through my first IUI procedure yesterday! I was so stressed about getting there on time, and him being able to perform under these circumstances because he was so stressed and anxious... in the end all went well. I had a few inappropriate laughs that he didn't appreciate... getting into the elevator with his paper bag filled with his sample, then again when we couldn't find the drop off location (because someone wasn't listening and just assumed I'd know!)... It's a simple procedure, sure, but it was surprising to me that it's done by a nurse. I'm a nurse and now I'm pretty excited to know that's a career option. How great would it be to possibly help people get pregnant?

Seems strange to know the sperm count, and to know how many million sperm were swimming around in my uterus.

Not stressing yet about "will it work?"... just focused on these gross suppositories! Relieved to have a few weeks off from injections and numerous ultrasounds during my period, and appointments. I'll just go to acupuncture and that's it.

NY Nesties....question for you :)

calibride2005 — Sat, 18 May 2013 21:09:38 GMT

Where is a decent place to stay in NYC? I want to plan a trip out there during Thanksgiving.....any ideas please share!

@#$%&* CD1

hooligans4 — Wed, 22 May 2013 01:06:01 GMT

i hate CD1! just had to get that out.

Owl TICKER WARNING

10-4LilBuddy — Wed, 22 May 2013 20:59:08 GMT

Hope you are doing well. YGPM. :)

CD1 Conversations with God

mindaa — Wed, 22 May 2013 04:10:13 GMT

I was feeling pretty positive and hopeful this month, which made AF even less welcome today. A binge on baked goods was followed by a tearful, frustrated freakout, where I said something along the lines of, “seriously God, if you want me to have a kid, give me a kid, if not, give me closure and let me move on with my life. Because I’m pretty happy with it, except for this part where I turn into a sad, lonely, emotional wreck every month.”

Later in the evening in the middle of my trail run, I found myself at the top of hill at sunset - in other words, the perfect place to let God get a Word in edgewise; “Remember, I’M not the one who steals your joy and destroys your dreams. I bring life, and I am the one who WILL give you this desire that I have placed on your heart.”

So, Amen to peace and release from sadness, to His perfect timing and to telling DH we get to keep trying.

TTC at 38 with baby #2!

meredith1974 — Tue, 21 May 2013 20:46:40 GMT

I am 38 and hubby and I want another baby. We have a healthy happy 2 1/2 year old boy! I have the go ahead from my OBGYN but I am so scared of the baby being downs or worse. Are there any other 38+ trying for a baby?

2WW - I hate it.

jill867 — Tue, 21 May 2013 15:51:33 GMT

Ugh, I hate this 2 WW. We did our IUI one week ago and it is just killing me to know something. What do you all do to keep your mind off of it?

Update to my surgery update....

calibride2005 — Tue, 21 May 2013 01:47:48 GMT

I met with the surgeon today who is going to be removing the cyst from my ovary. He confirmed it is the size of a tennis ball and totally collapsing my ovary, rendering it pretty useless at this point.

While the robot is in there, he will remove any endometriosis blood (not sure of the correct term) and will clear my tubes of any debris. I will find out tomorrow what the surgery date will be. He did say he wants me out of work for two weeks! But did say that I can go back to work after a week since I sit most of the time.

Anyone have a laparoscopic surgery? If so, how did it go?

Positive story to give you hope, I hope.

amalloy1 — Tue, 21 May 2013 13:51:02 GMT

I was reluctant to share this news here because I know how frustrating it is when these high tech fertility treatments don't go as expected, but I also know how hearing about pregnant woman over 40 really did give me hope that it was possible. So, I am 6 weeks pregnant today! You can read my ticker for the details, but somehow this happened during the month we had to take a break because I was overstimulated from the Follistim! I doubted that counting to day 14 from the first day of bleeding was going to be accurate for predicting ovulation during this break period because I really felt the fertility meds had ruined my normal pattern, but something got in my head that day & I thought, "what the heck~it's worth a try." So, before my husband got home that night I went to CVS for some Preseed & a bottle of Mirassou cabernet, & the combination of all of those things worked! I will share that I was so doubtful I would become pregnant that I continued to have wine a few times a week & my usual coffee every day until I was (now in hindsight) 5 weeks pregnant & took the home test. I had the ultrasound yesterday & so far everything looks great with a strong heart beat, but we'll be cautious about being too excited until I at least get to week 10. I wish all of you the best, & I would say just keep trying everything until you really feel like you don't want to anymore. You just never know!

New Here

SlinkyDog2013 — Tue, 21 May 2013 14:14:06 GMT

I am new here. I’m not quite 35, but will be in August. This is our first cycle of TTC. Just started using the Clearblue OPK and I got the blinking smiley face yesterday and today. I’m hoping to get the solid smiley face tomorrow. Glad to be joining this board.

*warning miscarriage, well a + became a -

kelley72 — Mon, 20 May 2013 14:59:21 GMT

I tested + the day before Mother's Day, enter symptoms all last week, so happy, so grateful

Saturday am woke up with minor cramping and spotting, turned heavier mid-day

I will go to dr. on Wed, should have been my first prenatal apt, instead it will be to check my blood levels, etc.

Prayers for all who have gone through this, not to much I can say except very sad, my dh is pretty devastated.

thanks for all info, support, etc I have found here!

So frustrated - 4 days late & BFN...

*sparky* — Tue, 14 May 2013 13:04:40 GMT

I am 41 and DH and I started TTC in November. We had a BFP in January and I M/C early, so we started TTC again. Since the M/C I really have not been that into it and have not been charting, temping, etc. like I was before. Truth be told, I am afraid of being excited and let down again.

So last month I don't think we even TTC at the right time (I think we were too early) and I was not expecting to be PG. But now AF is 4 days late so I started getting optimistic. I bought a PG test on my way into work and tested when I got here - BFN. :-(

AF has never, ever been late for me - I am always right on time or even early. So I don't know WTF is going on - just getting old and my system is getting out of whack I guess. This is so frustrating!

Total egg on my face....Sunday afternoon funny for you..

calibride2005 — Mon, 20 May 2013 01:13:00 GMT

As most of you know my husband and I reside in two different states...he in CA and I am in AZ. Well, he wanted some "pictures" and I obliged.....the embarrassment comes in when I look at my phone, I sent one of the pics to my MOMS cellphone!!! OMG!!

Here I am furiously calling my mom to tell her not to open it....but it was too late. Good thing she has a good sense of humor and has seen what I look like. She's like "I was wondering why you were sending this to me"! Obviously she knew it was not for her and a good laugh was had at my expense!

I don't know how the texts got switched since I had just sent him the pics....oh well.

Anyone else have any embarrassing stories? Or am I the only dingaling?

Got a smiley face!!!

dannie2011 — Sun, 19 May 2013 15:11:53 GMT

Sorry I just so dam excited to see that smiley I have to share . This is day 18 of my first Clomid cycle I was starting to think I was never going to O. I jumped my husband last night just for the sake of it, no baby making motivation talk about good timing. Now he will like getting attacked even more the next few nights.

FX this works!

PostIUI bloat? Oy!!

hollyweenOR — Sun, 19 May 2013 00:32:03 GMT

Frak me. I feel like my abdomen is going to float away like the Goodyear blimp. They mentioned "some heaviness" likely in the abdomen postprocedure, but holy schnikes. Any experience w/ this? And will only time help? Been resting most of the day but had to get up and do some things. Not helping, tho not necessarily worse. Blerg.