Stay at Home Moms

Allison

Minipenguin — Fri, 24 May 2013 21:16:01 GMT

Everyone's been attacking you lately. I'm not going to do that.

Being a mom is hard. Being a working mom can be really hard. Being a working mom of twins is over-whelming, exhausting, and stressful. I know you do a lot of work to care for your kids. I know you get up with them at night and then still drag yourself out of bed to work. I know you love them and support them emotionally, academically, and financially. It is not easy. They will benefit enormously from watching their mother work hard to support her family and still find time to care for them.

The benefit from this is so enormous that there are very few things that could possibly undermine it. One of them is sexual abuse. Please don't take this as an attack. It's not. But if you have ever thought for one flicker of a moment that your husband might get drunk, feel desperate, have a lapse (alcoholics have these all the time), or for any reason at all even consider doing something to them that you wouldn't do yourself, please leave. It will be incredibly hard, but there are places you can go and people who will help you. This kind of strength and bravery will do wonders for your children. They will always respect you for saving them from a fate that might have been.

It's easy for strangers to judge you. Leaving is so, so, so much easier said than done. But you are strong enough to do it. If you need help finding somewhere to go, you can PM me and I will help you find where you can go and find childcare while you work. There are organizations that help.

My dream...

Hav=Fath — Sat, 25 May 2013 09:54:40 GMT

Ugh, I dreamed all night about you crazy ladies.

Dreamed I was in some kind of convoluted class, it was all underwater and we were hunting with guns. Please note that I'm scared of every single animal, especially ones that live under water... ridiculously so. Nanda was the person in the water telling you what to hunt/shoot and kept saying the F word at me "Just shoot the F'ing gun already!" and we were hunting hairy looking monkeys with lots of arms/legs, among other animals/snakes, SO weird.

Then I got out and said I was quitting and there were 3 or 4 other moms that stopped me and said I couldn't quit, that I'd came too far. It was either CNA or CJ that said "I was afraid of the monkey too but if you shoot him just right before he gets to you he'll die" so I had AG show me how to get the gun to load faster so I could keep shooting!

I woke up as I was getting back into the water with my gun.... :::shudder:::

XP: MIL VENT...help

may10587@hotmail.com — Sat, 25 May 2013 02:21:11 GMT

Just last Sunday my MIL was holding my DS as he started to fuss cause he was getting hungry (i also feed on demand) and at that point I had already told her 3 times that he was getting hungry and it was time to eat, so instead of handing him over, she looks at DS and says "awww, mommy's not feeding you, what a ***!" WTH!!!!!! EXCUSE ME?! Who the hell do you think you are saying those kind of things to my son?! I don't care if he's 4 months or 4 years old- you don't talk like that! Let me just say that before I had DS, I got along w MIL really well and still do but it just seems like I "see" her a lot differently now. (Not in a necessarily good way). And EVERYTIME I see my ILs, they always say something to cut me down or throw a jab at me in conversation and not always to me but always around me so I'm aware of the comment. I don't know what to do about this. They're doing a good job of building a wall between me and them. Any suggestions ladies??

She called me a B****.

Hav, you really thought my screen name...

scatteredtrees — Sat, 25 May 2013 02:11:05 GMT

was scattered dress?

Bahahahahahahahaha

Your screen name

Hav=Fath — Fri, 24 May 2013 18:14:17 GMT

How'd you come up with it?

Do you like it or if you had the option would you change it?

Xp: house hunting help me decide

blushingbride_08 — Sat, 25 May 2013 00:55:28 GMT

We are house hunting and someone out bid us on our dream home. The inventory for the rest of the houses in my desired town is slim. Out of the houses that remain there is one on the intersection of a highway and busy street with lots of traffic ( mini mall across the st), another house is in different city than we desired which has high crime and bad schools but reasonable priced housing, another house is in major need of fixing up ( we would probably need 6 months to fix and I want to move ASAP. Which would you choose?

Cherries jubilee

pastalady — Fri, 24 May 2013 22:14:14 GMT

I'm making cherries jubilee for desert. I'm so ridiculously excited lol! Just sautéed cherries with sugar and cognac, then serving over ice cream with whipped cream too.

Make CJ feel better

Andrewsgal — Fri, 24 May 2013 21:57:23 GMT

Tell me about an injury or accident your child has had on your watch

I need your hugs!!

cjcouple — Fri, 24 May 2013 20:55:54 GMT

I know ther is all this alicia drama but I really need a few hugs.

My little boy was in the ER today. I went to go shopping at Target with my neighbor and her granddaughter. we all got out of my van and I saw DS behind me...I slid the van door shut and all of a shudden his head was between the door and the side of the van. He was so fast and he just stuck his head in there.

He started screaming and I grabbed him into a hug and the blood poured down his head. I mean poured. I freaked!! I picked him up and ran into target to the bathroom. my neighbor had someone call 911 and we went to hospital..

He is such a trooper though - they did a head CT and he was so brave and good. He finally started to cheer up after a few hours and thankfully he just had a laceration on the side of his head by the temple that needed four staples and probably a concussion. I feel like the worst mother on the planet. I can't even believe I did that.

We are going to have to do a very serious family discussion about van and car safety.

I need hugs ladies, I just want to break down and cry. My poor boy

Wisdom teeth

Hav=Fath — Fri, 24 May 2013 19:25:10 GMT

I'm missing our mundane boring talk around here so I'm asking about teeth.

Did you have yours taken out? If not, have they caused you any problems?

let's talk.about the weather.

CnAmom — Fri, 24 May 2013 19:34:39 GMT

What's happening in your neck of the woods?

C section moms

QueSyrah — Fri, 24 May 2013 23:10:13 GMT

It's official- this baby is coming by C-section. Now I'm scared out of my mind. Tell me your experience, good or bad. Do do they break your water? What is the anesthesia like? How quickly after we're you able to care for baby on your own? My plan had been for DH to stay with me the first night and then go home to DS. Will I need him at the hospital every night?

Also, I'm GBS+ this time. Yay for me.

Road trip

LalaMama81 — Fri, 24 May 2013 18:33:24 GMT

Well, we left about a half hour ago for a trip to our family's place in upstate New York. And....we are sitting at a dead stop on the turnpike. Accident. And the car charger is being finicky. Luckily we have plenty of food. But I'm going to have to hike up a hill to pee.

AE Purpose

JellyBellyStar — Fri, 24 May 2013 18:30:02 GMT

Most of you know that I have no problem dealing with drama head on....so I have a hard time understanding the purpose of an AE. If you create an AE is it because you are scared people will not like you if you state your real opinions? I just don't get it. I really have the hardest time understanding AEs who pretty much the whole board agrees with. So tell me all you AEs what is the deal?

Holy Moly

LMCB12 — Sat, 25 May 2013 05:11:08 GMT

I have been hanging around first tri and Jan 14 boards for about a week and can't believe all that I missed! Definitely going to have to spend time catching up tomorrow.

One last thing: I'm sorry

TobeMrs.Shavers — Fri, 24 May 2013 21:36:09 GMT

I'm sorry I didn't allow y'all's input the first time I went looking for a Co-Mod. I went to the other Mods on The Bump and asked for interest there. In my mind it made since to temporarily bring someone on while I took a break that was already an established Mod who knew the ins/outs of the community (less likely to go on a power trip and/or upset our board culture).

No one but YOU knows this board as well as I do. I'm sorry.

Should I ever feel the need for a Co-Mod or if The Bump asks me to have one, I promise I will let you all nominate and vote on that person.

Unless The Bump Gods just assign me someone.

So what's up?

KateMW — Fri, 24 May 2013 21:49:09 GMT

Anything interesting happen today?

LOL

Seriously though, what's for dinner?

Intro

aander6 — Sat, 25 May 2013 00:28:44 GMT

Hi ladies! I am a SAHM of my beautiful DD. I have signed on every once and I while since DD was born but since we have recently been relocated for DH job to a city where I know NO ONE I have been bumping far more often during naps and would love to start chatting with you ladies! I post some on my BMB and I am hoping to find another place to ask questions and interact with other moms!! So, Hello!

Vents!

CnAmom — Fri, 24 May 2013 16:56:05 GMT

Have something you need to get off your chest? Post 'em here!

Hav...

KateMW — Fri, 24 May 2013 15:48:22 GMT

I want to know why you think I was that AE or any AE for that matter actually. When have I ever not shared my opinion on...well everything. Especially who Gaylack is.

Needing Advice-Newbie

JoDoc — Fri, 24 May 2013 15:31:32 GMT

Hi All! I am new to this particular board and am looking for advice. I am currently working full-time, as does my husband. I am pregnant with twins (yay!) and we are due in December. I like my job, honestly. However, here's the "problem" that I need advice for.

If I were to go back to work after having the babies, I'd be bringing home a whopping $100 per week after paying for daycare for 2 infants. (yes I know, my hubby should share in the expense, that's not the point I'm trying to make) I am at a point where if I work full-time and am bringing home a substantial wage after paying for daycare then it would be ok. But for me to work 40 hours and drop my kids off for someone else to "raise", just so I can bring home $100, well it's not worth it to me. My hubby is on board with my thoughts, so there are no issues or disagreements between us. My mom was a SAHM, and I remember so many good things about it, and am grateful for her being there for me.

Here's my question. Do you choose to work outside of the house for a few hours in the evenings or on the weekends when your hubby is home to watch the kids, or do you just stay at home with them? (I don't mean for that to sound condescending, being a stay-at-home-mom is in itself a full-time job) I'm just trying to think of a way to bring in a little extra money while not shipping my kids off to someone else.

Does what I am saying make sense? I'm struggling to decide what to do. I have plenty of time, but keep going back and forth. Needing some advice.

this board seems fun.

newyoungmama — Sat, 25 May 2013 03:36:32 GMT

can I stay?

I don't know what else to do with myself when nanny has DD at the park.

Describe your perfect man - physically

Hav=Fath — Sat, 25 May 2013 01:31:16 GMT

Describe your perfect man - physically.

Super skinny men turn me off big time, also don't want some body building huge macho man. Muscles are important as long as he still looks normal.

LOVE bald men (on purpose bald, not balding).

Love taller men but not freakishly tall.

Also like a strong jaw line.

Overall I guess I just like average looking men.

PLEASE READ Ban warnings inside

TobeMrs.Shavers — Fri, 24 May 2013 01:39:54 GMT

Anyone violating the Terms of Use (including the post I just locked and deleted) will be banned. Period.

Regardless of your involvement or your opinion on any matters discussed on this board, I don't tolerate violations of anyone's rights here. It might be wise to step away for an hour (or a day) to gain some perspective on all of this.

Consider yourself warned.

Memorial day plans?

Hav=Fath — Fri, 24 May 2013 23:14:54 GMT

Anyone having any big cookouts or parties?

We're having everyone over tomorrow, probably about 25 or so people. By the end of the summer we get more adventurous with food but for now just classic hamburgers, hot dogs and polish sausages sound delicious! What sucks is I'll be doing most of the cooking (making slutty brownies!) and I don't get to eat any of it.

What's on the menu?