Parenting after 35

Okay, here's another confession.

stever — Mon, 20 May 2013 22:02:10 GMT

It's not flamable, but I feel awful nonetheless.

DS2 is napping on my lap. I just asked DS1 to curl up and take a nap too. So he gets his lovey and his sleeping bag to come curl up with DS2 and I... and I had to send him back to his room in case DS2 wakes up and starts crawling all over him.

DS1's little face broke my heart as he went back to his room.

I feel guilty and want to cry.

FTR - DS2 should be waking up soon. He'd been napping for a while, woke up and fell asleep again while I was holding him.

We are too quiet on this board; I'm going to spice it up!

CheezeFace — Sun, 19 May 2013 02:39:11 GMT

Here are my confessions:

1.) I usually forget to brush my kid's teeth but I'm obsessed with my own dental health.

2.) As PT is looming for us I'm actively ignoring the 'signals' he's gving me because I really, really, really don't want to do it.

3.) Yesterday, I found him sucking on the top of the Clorox toilet bowl cleaner bottle. I about died. He later ate a mixture of dry and moist dog food.

4.) Unless we are leaving the house for a specific purpose we are usually in our pajamas well past noon.

5.) Everyone warned me how freaking exhausting it is to have a toddler but I kind of judged the harried looking mothers until recently. I am bone-weary in a way that I find hard to describe.

6.) I love being a mommy so much that I have guilt all the time that I didn't start sooner so I could have more!

I'm done...now it's your turn:)

Poll: How many words does/did you 18mo have?

CheezeFace — Tue, 23 Apr 2013 01:30:53 GMT

DS is coming up on the 18 month mark and I've noticed some language differences with him and others around his age...some a bit older, some younger. It seems as if his language skills aren't progressing at all. In fact, we had a playdate today with a friend the exact same age - we haven't seen him in a month - he wasn't speaking before but today he pointed at the pool and said, "Go swim".

He really doesn't say any words other than "no!" and he's mastered that one. He's said "mamamamama" and "dadadadada" forever but, really, not another word. If I ask him what sound a car, cow, puppy, cat, etc...make he'll mimic the sounds but he won't say, "cat" or "dog".

He understands quite a bit: "go upstairs". "Let's take a bath!" "Find your shoes." He follows through with the appropriate actions.

There are some language issues on my H's side - his parents as well as my H tend to struggle with reading/grammar and I recently found out that H was in resource classes when he was in primary school (behind in reading as well as comprehension and I would guess speech issues).

I don't like comparing my kid to another kid but I can't help but be mindful of this potential issue. Oh... And then I, stupidly, Googled what an 18 month old 'should' be saying. Then I came here to talk to real moms :)

So, does this sound like something I should wait out for a bit more before I become concerned? Should I be more proactive considering H's history? Should I be working with him in some way other than just talking and naming things? Did your LO's have a major leap and just wake up one morning and start communicating?

TIA

Just found out on Monday night...

MrsStuartAnderson — Fri, 26 Apr 2013 18:24:44 GMT

Well, here's the nuts and bolts of it. I'm 42. My husband of 6 months (9/17/12 anniversary) is 26. I have an 18 year old daughter. Yes, he's my second husband and yes he's 15.5 years younger than I am. When we got married we thought we'd want to get pregnant ASAP if ever. I told him I'd try until I turned 42 (in March), and then we'd stop. We did a couple rounds of clomid with no pregnancy. Well 42 came and went in March and we decided we wouldn't try as aggressively, but just give it until the end of the year to happen naturally. It seems to have worked. But I'll be honest, I was really OK with the idea of remaining just the 2 of us, especially since my 18 year old daughter is living with us and is a college student (and we're footing the bill). Now that I'm pregnant, I'm terrified. An infant? In this small house with 3 adults? This body having a baby after 19 years? I was 23 the last time, now I'm 42. That's a huge difference. I was honestly more scared than excited when we found out on Monday night. My husband is so excited. He can hardly wait to be a dad. I need to hitch a ride on his excitement, because right now all I can feel is scared.

Favorite music and things from the 80's?

smit5009 — Fri, 10 May 2013 19:10:57 GMT

I recently found a radio station in town that plays a lot of music from the 80's so I have been listening to it a lot this week. Twice this week I have heard them play Electric blue from Icehouse. I haven't heard this song in 2 decades but I always enjoyed it.

For some reason listening to this station has made me think of Candie's shoes. I saw that Kohls sells them now but they are just not the same. I also miss my Rag City Blues jeans.

Any 40 and up moms? Are you being induced?

honeyforlunch — Mon, 06 May 2013 03:03:43 GMT

Just writing to see if anyone else has to be induced for being 40 or over. Where I go, they do that to all 40 and over moms...

Is this normal?

I'm a nesting fool!

JilliansMoma — Tue, 14 May 2013 07:02:06 GMT

My master bedroom closet hasn't looked this good since DH and I moved in 8 years ago! It looks like a boutique in there; next up my pantry! No point to this post...hope all of you are well!

Snack Ideas for Travel...HELP!

smit5009 — Tue, 14 May 2013 17:20:58 GMT

We are going to be living out of a hotel for one week as DH and I have to attend a conference for work. t home we always give DS pretty healthy snacks but I am out of ideas of non-perishable snacks we can keep with us on our trip. Right now I have fruit cups and crackers (not necessarily healthy but it works). DS is 19 mos old. I was wondering if you ladies had any good ideas for us on non-perishable items we can bring and get through security. TIA!

So about those teeth...

stever — Wed, 15 May 2013 21:24:21 GMT

They sure make nursing fun

Anyone want another baby but DH doesn't?

shellylovelee — Mon, 13 May 2013 21:37:02 GMT

I turn 40 this year and DH turns 45. We have 2U2 and I don't want to rule out trying for a third. DH is against it for financial reasons mainly and I understand.

Anyone else want more but DH opposes? The clock is ticking, severely, so I don't know what to do/think.

Summer and Fall '12 baby stats

stever — Tue, 14 May 2013 23:20:41 GMT

It just occured to me that a bunch of us used to post stats on here when DS1 was a baby but that we never do.

So here goes - DS2 had had 9 month checkup a few weeks ago and was 17lbs11oz and 27 in. Slightly above average and skinny. Totally different than the behemoth DS1 was as a baby.

So how are all the other baby's doingZ? What about older kiddos?

karenannmark

stever — Tue, 14 May 2013 23:24:48 GMT

How are you? I just had a pang of sadness after I posted that post below.

Would love to hear from you and hear how that new cycle went/is going.

Teeth!

stever — Mon, 13 May 2013 22:11:03 GMT

DS2 has them. A week ago he had none and now he has three - two bottom ones, a painful looking upper one and almost an incisor.

No wonder he's been such a sad little dude.

Intro

vindaloo — Sat, 11 May 2013 15:11:40 GMT

Hi ladies,
39 yo STM here! I'm a SAHM, and have a 2 year old DS and a two week old DD. I usually am on my youngest's BMB but man some of the ladies there sure are young. I have the feeling I may be able to relate a little more here.

I look forward to sharing with and learning from you all!

Essure

tmsgrl — Fri, 03 May 2013 22:50:23 GMT

Anyone have it done? I am thinking about getting it done sometime soon.

What a terrible confluence

stever — Fri, 03 May 2013 22:00:00 GMT

My older son has entered into the 'everything is mine' phase just as the little guy has become aware enough of his stuff to start crying when it's taken away.

My poor ears.

I finally did it! (and another poll)

CheezeFace — Fri, 03 May 2013 00:25:11 GMT

....I felt like an awkward teenager asking a boy if he wanted to go to the junior high dance with me....

I asked this lovely girl at the gym play care center if she babysits outside of work. Seriously, it's taken me weeks to approach her so as not to scare her away or make her feel like I was desperate (which I totally am).

Anyway, I sit in the playcare with my son so he can run around and play but I never get to go workout because he FLIPSTHEEFFOUT if I leave. I've watched her with the kids for weeks (months, really) and she's great!

So, quick question:

How much do you pay your babysitters? I don't really mean nannies or FT care providers, I mean "Ohmigawd Mommy Needs A Martini and Out of This House" Saturday night babysitters...

Jcath

shyntrue — Sun, 05 May 2013 02:32:56 GMT

Your girls are adorable! :o)

XP: MaterniT21

QuigleyCat1 — Fri, 22 Mar 2013 15:53:08 GMT

After speaking with DH we're 95% sure we'd like this screening. My insurance would cover it except that our deducible hasn't been met so we're responsible for the $235 which we're okay with. From what I understand, the test is over $2000 but the company is only charging $235 in order to sort of "promote" it and to gain more participants. Please correct me if I'm misinformed on that! So basically, I want to be sure that $235 is still the max OOP right now. I would hate to be stuck with a $2000 bill for this. We're interested in results first and foremost, but the low cost is what's appealing to us as well. Thanks in advance for any thoughts, knowledge and/or experience with billing for this screening.

I've ruined my child.... (earworm!)

BrideBuddies — Thu, 02 May 2013 19:56:34 GMT

Am I a bad mommy to let my child rock out to this as we drove to church playgroup? Good thing he doesn't understand what the song is about.. ha!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QYHxGBH6o4M

Oh, and after watching this video, I know I am seriously old because I couldn't help thinking, "With all his riches, why couldn't he fix his teeth?"

bwaahahahahhaha!

Intro

Bigboneded — Sun, 28 Apr 2013 13:31:03 GMT

I am 40, first pregnancy. I had the opportunity to help raise my baby brother 24 years ago. But don't have my own yet. I was lurking a while back and saw a ton of posts about separating the board so they wouldn't need to deal with first time moms.... Is that still the mindset? Or can anyone with big girl panties play here now? I made a comment to a friend recently about Hart to Hart and realized there are a whole slough of adults now that share a generational gap with me! It'd just be nice to find a place where my astounding 80's TV references will be understood ::winks:: so, is this it?

Your thoughts again (re: carseats)

smit5009 — Mon, 15 Apr 2013 17:43:57 GMT

This is kind of XP on my BMB but I am pretty interested in the over 35 crowd's thoughts on this topic. DS just turned 18 mos and his pedi has always been pro RF until DS is 2 yo per the AAP recs. At the appointment today his pedi said that DS was plenty big enough and we can go ahead and turn him FF. Our pedi has been in practice for quite awhile and has 6 kids of his own. Generally speaking, I am not for or against the 2 yo rec per se.

We have been having a hell of a time getting DS in and out of his seat in our smaller vehicles without banging him up so we were considering switching him around soon; within a couple of months. I also realize that some people with 2 kids can't possibly have 2 car seats RF and still be able to drive the car.

What do the 35+ year olds say about this?

ETA: I am kind of interested if there is a difference in opinions between different age groups of the parents.

Jumping In

BootsyLou — Fri, 03 May 2013 19:51:35 GMT

Hi there, I'm 35 and just had my first child last September. DD is 7 months old now. I was lurking around my birth month board and holy cow, that's an active board! This seems like an easier board (AKA slower) board to keep up with which I think is more up my alley. Anyway, hello again!

This is a awesome

prncebride — Thu, 02 May 2013 19:55:04 GMT

I have my cpr card and everything, but, unlike this lo I don't remember how to do it.

http://gma.yahoo.com/blogs/abc-blogs/cute-baby-practices-life-saving-skill-161420125.html?vp=1

Hi Ladies

karenannmark — Thu, 21 Mar 2013 19:13:41 GMT

Just an update on me, well we had our ER today, out of 6 follicles we got 3 eggs so im pretty gutted, Seans cycle we had 7 follicles and got eggs out of all and 3made it to transfer......im like what are the chances for 3....!!! Its so hard to be positive, i know it only takes one, which we are reciting over and over!! Doc called and they done ICSI with 2 as the 3rd was mature, she is leaving it til tomorrow to see if it matures!! Oh ladies may i ask for lots of prayers that even 1 makes it ((hugs))

Ladies hope your all doing great, thinking of you all!!

((hugs))
Karen.

Parenting after 35

Okay, here's another confession.

We are too quiet on this board; I'm going to spice it up!

Poll: How many words does/did you 18mo have?

Just found out on Monday night...

Favorite music and things from the 80's?

Any 40 and up moms? Are you being induced?

I'm a nesting fool!

Snack Ideas for Travel...HELP!

So about those teeth...

Anyone want another baby but DH doesn't?

Summer and Fall '12 baby stats

karenannmark

Teeth!

Intro

Essure

What a terrible confluence

I finally did it! (and another poll)

**Jcath**

XP: MaterniT21

I've ruined my child.... (earworm!)

Intro

Your thoughts again (re: carseats)

Jumping In

This is a awesome

Hi Ladies

Jcath