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<?xml-stylesheet type="text/xsl" href="http://community.thebump.com/cs/utility/FeedStylesheets/rss.xsl" media="screen"?><rss version="2.0" xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:slash="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/slash/" xmlns:wfw="http://wellformedweb.org/CommentAPI/"><channel><title>Postpartum Depression</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/7539450/ShowForum.aspx</link><description>Postpartum Support International has more than 175 Coordinators around the world. To speak with a coordinator, please call 1800-944-4PPD.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;a href="http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/blogs/nest_baby_editors/pages/the-bump-community-rules.aspx" mce_href="http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/blogs/nest_baby_editors/pages/the-bump-community-rules.aspx"&gt;&lt;img src="http://images.thenest.com/blog/af/btn_communityrules.gif" class="image" border="0"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;</description><dc:language>en</dc:language><generator>CommunityServer 2.1 SP1 (Debug Build: 61120.2)</generator><item><title>What are meds like?  I am scared to go on them..but I dont know if I have a choice</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74584110.aspx</link><pubDate>Sat, 08 Jun 2013 23:17:47 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:74584110</guid><dc:creator>LVbaby07</dc:creator><slash:comments>8</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74584110.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=74584110</wfw:commentRss><description>Tell me what you feel like with meds?&amp;nbsp; Are you numb to everything?&amp;nbsp; Happy?&amp;nbsp; Able to deal better?&amp;nbsp; I have very bad anxiety and depression.&amp;nbsp; I feel like I am going to throw up constantly, wishing I didnt have children, hating myself for bringing these innocent kids into my life.&amp;nbsp; I cry all day everyday..I wish I could just stop it, but I cant.&amp;nbsp; DH tells me to suck it up.&amp;nbsp; He is no support at all.&amp;nbsp; I spoke with a doctor who recommended meds, but I am scared.&amp;nbsp; Will I become dependent on them?&amp;nbsp; Will they work?&amp;nbsp; I have to do something though, b/c I cant do this anymore.&amp;nbsp; Thank you.&lt;br&gt;</description></item><item><title>placenta encapusulation? </title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74569249.aspx</link><pubDate>Fri, 07 Jun 2013 22:49:47 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:74569249</guid><dc:creator>SweetCherry77</dc:creator><slash:comments>5</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74569249.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=74569249</wfw:commentRss><description>I just started reading about this &amp;amp; am curious if any Moms here have given it a try? </description></item><item><title>depression is kicking my butt "venting"</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74748619.aspx</link><pubDate>Sun, 16 Jun 2013 16:54:01 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:74748619</guid><dc:creator>aiche  Umm Ayoub</dc:creator><slash:comments>0</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74748619.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=74748619</wfw:commentRss><description>&lt;p&gt;Hi ladies &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I just need to vent and let off some steam I've been having a rough time where to start its long and messy so here's it in a nutshell In May found out from Facebook my aunt passed away yeah that's my family for you they didn't even call me and tell me just posted will miss you pictures on facebook I called my ma and she's like oh I thought your sister told you , on the 11th of this month was the 2 year anniversary of my grandma passing away , the 15th of this month is when my father killed himself ( when I was 15 years old ) and on the 18th will be the 1 year since my best friend passed away &amp;nbsp; , I have talked to my doctor on my last ob appointment and I have also called my mental health provider and talked but it just doesn't seem to help I am sad and crying all the time not sleeping very well bad/weird dreams , my husband tries to help but he just doesn't understand his idea of fixing a problem involves sex like I really want sex not in the mood and to pregnant on bed rest list is long for reasons it's not going to happen also I found out on my last doctors visit that my due date was off by 1 month yeah when it rains i pours seems that everything happens at once also having to figure out the logistics of moving while super pregnant/ around due date&amp;nbsp; ok ok rant and venting over &lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description></item><item><title>OB wants to put me on Zoloft at 36 weeks</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74569531.aspx</link><pubDate>Fri, 07 Jun 2013 23:07:42 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:74569531</guid><dc:creator>kjalejos</dc:creator><slash:comments>3</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74569531.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=74569531</wfw:commentRss><description>&lt;p&gt;Good evening,&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I had my 30 week appointment this week and I was discussing my fear of getting PPD with my OB. I've suffered from anxiety and depression for many, many years (like since the 4th grade). I also have a strong family history of depression esp. with my bipolar father. I have been &amp;nbsp;on Welbutrin XL for the majority of the last 10 years and have found it to be extremely helpful.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;When I got pregnant, I went off Welbutrin at my doctor's suggestion and tried Zoloft. It was during my first trimester, obviously, and the Zoloft made me feel even worse, so I didn't continue taking it. And for the most part, I've felt pretty good throughout my pregnancy. &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;So, at the appointment this week, the OB expressed her concern and explained that I'm very high risk for getting PPD. She suggests I go back on Zoloft at 36 weeks so that it's in my system for awhile before I have the baby. &amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I know that I need to research this more and reach out to my GP, but I was wondering if any of you had heard of OB's suggesting this before? Or if perhaps you did or did not go this route?&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Thanks!&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;</description></item><item><title>Please tell me I am not alone...</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74655704.aspx</link><pubDate>Wed, 12 Jun 2013 07:05:00 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:74655704</guid><dc:creator>ExoticDoll</dc:creator><slash:comments>2</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74655704.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=74655704</wfw:commentRss><description>I am new here guys. I have a 15 year old and not a 4 months old. Huge gap. Well anyways I am usually a happy outgoing person but find myself just not myself. I know I have a good life and I should be greatful but I feel things bothering me that usually wouldn't silly stupid things like comments from friends then I can't sleep at night as soon as I lay my head down thoughts are flooding in sometimes thought of bad things happening to my baby. I want to sleep so bad because my baby sleeps 8 hours a night then when I have to take care of him during the day I am so tired. I am desperate for some meds or sleep anything! I go to my essure screening tommorow I hope that I can be treated. Does anyone else feel like this?</description></item><item><title>PPD before baby is born</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74587260.aspx</link><pubDate>Sun, 09 Jun 2013 03:12:18 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:74587260</guid><dc:creator>AshleighW13</dc:creator><slash:comments>5</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74587260.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=74587260</wfw:commentRss><description>&lt;p&gt;Has anyone ever heard of PPD before baby is born. I'm 22 weeks and honestly I'm harboring so much resentment and animosity towards the baby. I feel like my husband and doctors are making me choose this kid over my DS whose 3 and this kids not even born yet&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;</description></item><item><title>Joining you ladies</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74616540.aspx</link><pubDate>Mon, 10 Jun 2013 19:10:21 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:74616540</guid><dc:creator>stewz</dc:creator><slash:comments>1</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74616540.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=74616540</wfw:commentRss><description>&lt;p&gt;Hi there, &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I just got back from my first psychiatrist appt and got a prescription for wellbutrin xl. Anybody else been on it or had any experiences with it? My mom died 13 days after ds was born and i thought i was doing ok but I am just not. Between the grief, 2 kids, work, home, etc I'm just not doing so hot. &amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;</description></item><item><title>Pregnant again with PPD</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74028625.aspx</link><pubDate>Tue, 14 May 2013 17:48:05 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:74028625</guid><dc:creator>Elli143</dc:creator><slash:comments>3</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74028625.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=74028625</wfw:commentRss><description>&lt;p&gt;I've only recently come to terms with the fact that I am going through PPD. My DD was born 7 months ago and it has been the absolute worst 7 months of my life. Breastfeeding was a disaster, so I EP'd for 6 months, which was probably a terrible decision for me in retrospect. I was chained to the pump for over 6 hours a day and utterly miserable the entire time. I decided to put DD in part time daycare a couple of days a week when she was about 4 months old to give me a break, and that resulted in a string of illnesses that made both DD and me sick for 40 days straight. Which doesn't include the bout of flu we all had in January and the hand foot and mouth disease we all got in April, which is when I decided that I had to pull her out of daycare because the illnesses were killing me.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;My mom decided to let me know a month after DD was born that she really doesn't like my DH and got into a huge fight with him that has left me stuck in the middle ever since. I desperately want to go back to work but I've lost count of the number of times my mom has said, "Don't let DH stay home with the kids, he'll want alimony AND child support if you do." I've never once considered divorcing DH, but my mom likes to say this a lot (she's on her third marriage).&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;A week and a half ago my mom called me and said, "Don't have any more kids with DH until you go through counseling together. Two kids is so much harder than one, and you need to work out your issues with him." For the most part DH and I are great, but when we fight he doesn't speak to me for days, which when I'm home alone with a baby all day is emotionally devastating. But I shrugged my mom's comment off for the most part, since we weren't planning on having more kids for a while anyway.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I found out I was pregnant the very next day. I've cried every day since. One kid has been so effing hard, having two is enough to put me on the verge of panic attacks.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;On Friday I started bleeding heavily, and I was bleeding so much I assumed it had to be a miscarriage, and I felt a huge weight lifting off of my shoulders, like I could finally breathe again. But then the bleeding stopped. Yesterday I saw my doctor and he confirmed that I am still pregnant, but I have a subchorionic hemorrhage which was causing the bleed. So now I'm not only still pregnant, but I'm also high risk.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;DH is thrilled that I am still pregnant. There is not a single shred of me that wants this baby. I've been told that I should be on pelvic rest, and the first thing I want to do is start running up and down the stairs to aggravate it. It's so effed up. I want my old life back so much. I haven't had 8 consecutive hours of sleep since DD was born. I can't go through another newborn stage when my 7 month old still wakes up 3 times a night. I didn't think abortion was an option for me, but I find myself thinking about it a lot now. DH has said if I want an abortion he would support me, but he is so excited about another baby that I don't think he would really forgive me. He doesn't understand why taking care of the baby is so hard for me.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;</description></item><item><title>The Hush-Hush Syndrome: Post-Partum Anxiety/OCD Intrusive thoughts (quite long)</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/63466674.aspx</link><pubDate>Thu, 16 Feb 2012 15:15:32 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:63466674</guid><dc:creator>bhession</dc:creator><slash:comments>20</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/63466674.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=63466674</wfw:commentRss><description>&lt;P&gt;I've been away from this site for quite sometime, but was frequent flyer back in 2010, when I was expecting my first baby. Hannah was born on October 21, 2010, and has been a pure joy since that day. So why am I here? Well...first of all, I thought I might be able to offer some support to those of you who are suffering through depression during a time that should be a joyous one...trust me, I know what it feels like; however, I am also looking for some support/reassurance from others that what I experieneced at Hannah's birth, and what rears it's ugly head now and again, isn't just happening to me.&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P&gt;I should start by telling you all that I have always been an anxious person. I worry about lots of things that are out of my control, which surprises some, because I am a professional, I am generally put together, and appear to be&amp;nbsp;fairly go with the flow. Before I had Hannah it was always about my health and well being. I am a self-proclaimed hypochrondriac, no doubt about it; however, since I've had Hannah, all of my fears of getting sick or something bad happening in my life have shifted to worrying about the well being of my daughter. &lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P&gt;I miscarried shortly before becoming pregnant with Hannah, and thus, was pretty worried throughout my pregnancy. I constantly worried that I was going to miscarry again, that I was going to go into premature labor, that I was going to deliver stillborn...you name it, I worried about it in one way or another. My thoughts always centered around, and still do, keeping Hannah safe, which why it seemed so strange when intrusive thoughts started to invade my mind like an unstoppable enemy force. &lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P&gt;I remember the first time I had a terrible thought. I shudder just thinking about it. I was sitting in my hospital bed, and my mom was rocking Hannah in her arms next to me. I had this horrible vision of&amp;nbsp; mother purposely dropping my baby to the floor. It was like an alarm sounded inside of me, but I was quickly able to shrug it off. When my husband and I brought her home, however, the thoughts started coming back...what if she drowned in the bathtub? What if she flipped to her stomach at night or during a nap and smothered herself. Horrific, unimagineable images that still haunt me. &lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P&gt;The scariest part was that the thoughts of accidentally hurting her transformed into worries of intentionally hurting her. I was afraid to be alone with the baby because I constantly had these "What if" scenarios that would play out in my mind, particularly relating to the bath tub. I knew that what I was feeling wasn't right, so immediately sought help from my OBGYN. I didn't tell him the extent of the anxiety that I was feeling (I should have), but I did tell him that I recognized that I was under anxiety that was leading to depression. He prescribed me a low dose of Zoloft, which was very effective, and I was able to get myself back to reality and relaize how irrational my fears were. &lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P&gt;Because I began feeling so much better, I stupidly and without thinking, stopped my medication on my own when Hannah was about 6 months old. I continued to feel fine for the next few months, and then summer hit. Over fourth of July weekend, we went out to spend the weekend at my parents' house on the Finger Lakes in CNY. I remember being very wary when I when I saw the expanse of the water. Again, it was as if an alarm was sounding in my head. What if I dropped Hannah while walking down the dock and couldn't save her? The danger of the water scared me to no end. Again, out of nowhere, thoughts of accidental harm morphed into, "What If I...?" I tossed and turned at night, I felt like a complete monster, I began comapring myself to Andrea Yates, Casey Anthony, and other&amp;nbsp;women like them...it turned into a total nightmare. While most people experience intrusive thoughts now and again, it was as if mine just wouldn't let go. It was like my worst fears in movie version were playing over and over again in my mind. &lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P&gt;There were two times in these horrendous weeks of fear that will haunt me forever. I was alone with my mom and Hannah, spending an extra night at the lake house. My husband and dad&amp;nbsp;had to return home for work (I am a teacher, so was off for the summer). I had been feeling the anxiety and fear rising within me all day long, but tried to suppress and ignore it. It was bathtime, and I was sitting by the tub watching Hannah happily&amp;nbsp;splash around and play with her bath toys. The thought just popped into my head out of nowhere. She&amp;nbsp;was so small, vulernable, and weak against my adult strength, it would be so easy to just push her under the water. I immediately began to panic, unplugged the drain,&amp;nbsp;yanked Hannah out of the tub and screamed for my mom to help me. It was only&amp;nbsp;then that I told her what I was going through.&amp;nbsp;I have not shared this with anyone accept my close family and doctor, so this is a big moment. &lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P&gt;As I have already said, I am hoping that my story will help give reassurance to others experiencing this that they are not alone.&amp;nbsp;For the reaminder of that week,&amp;nbsp;Hannah and&amp;nbsp;I stayed with my mom, and I searched for support groups to help me get through. When I called the birth center at hospital where Hannah was born, I explained what I was feeling only to be met with&amp;nbsp;the&amp;nbsp;opinion of&amp;nbsp;a misinformed staff member, who told me that I was experiencing post-partum psychosis...a mental illness that is completely separate from post-partum anxiety and ocd. I couldn't believe that this woman was so unaware and so uneducated about the various forms of depression that women face after giving birth. As you can imagine, this only heightened my anxiety and made things worse. I thought, "Geez, maybe I am crazy...Maybe Hannah really is in danger."&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P&gt;The second time that my anxiety reached a peak was during a weekend in the Adirondacks at my in-laws' summer cabin a few weeks later. I had tried everything to ease my anxiety that morning. I went kayaking, swam in the cool and calming lake, took my dogs for a fast paced walk...but nothing worked. I felt like I was on the verge of a panic attack all morning, and there was nothing I could do to stop it. &lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P&gt;It was time to get Hannah dressed, and my husband left the room for no more than 10 seconds to grab a clean diaper. Here was my precious, beautiful baby, crawling toward me with a huge smile. I began to shake again thinking of my sheer physical power over her. She was so dependent and vulnerable," I could never act out on the thought, right?"...is what I was thinking. With a trembling hand, I tested myself. I actually put my hand on my daughter's head to see if I had it in me to push it into the pillows. I know I sound like a monster. It's totally irrational, and of course, I couldn't do it. Feeling&amp;nbsp;like a criminal and absolutely terrified,&amp;nbsp;I immediately told my MIL and husband what had happened and insisted that I needed to go to the emergency room bc my anxiety had just taken over, and I was worried for the safety of my child.&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P&gt;Reluctantly, my husband drove me the nearest hospital. I say reluctantly bc he was worried about what would happen when I told the ER doctors what happened. Would Hannah be taken away? Would I have to be admitted to a mental hospital? Would I lose my job as a teacher? The truth is, I didn't care. All I could focus on was A. Making sure my daughter was safe, and B. Getting the help I needed. If I had to be away from my baby for a bit in order to ensure these things, I was willing. &lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P&gt;Long story short, I was able to speak with a psychiatrist, who assured me that I was not psychotic, I was not going to hurt my child, and that I just had acute anxiety paired with OCD that was making these irrational and horrible intrusive thoughts play over and over again in my head.&amp;nbsp;When you can't fight the thoughts off, they become real to the person experiencing them.&amp;nbsp;They terrorize&amp;nbsp;mothers into believeing that because they have thought, they must want to do these things, when in fact it is just the opposite. He described it as a mother's natural instinct to protect her child gone haywire. He explained that mothers who hurt their children are not frightened by their thoughts, see their children as some kind of inconvenience in their lives, and/or are delusional. I left feeling much better. He got me on the right meds and referred me to a great therapist and psychiatrist, both of whom I still see today. &lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P&gt;I was able to conquer my anxiety with therapy, medicine, and good excercise. I also reached a point where I could fully enjoy my baby, but it really did take time and patience. I wanted to feel better immediately. I wish I had known how common this is among new moms, however. I felt very alone, and truly began to question who I was a person deep down. I've never been violent. I love animals and children, am empathetic, and love my family and friends to no end. I would have never ever imagined that this could happen to me. I learned that the thoughts were not there because I wanted them to happen or even worse, that there were going to happen...but it took time.&lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P&gt;I've been great for many months now, with only the occassional intrusive thought that I can shake off pretty easily. The last few days, though, have been a bit tougher.I've actually noticed recently that my anxiety levels rise a bit when I am about to&amp;nbsp;get my period.&amp;nbsp;I wondered first if anyone can relate to my experiences or can attest to the fact that sometimes the anxiety waxes and wanes? &lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P&gt;This was not an easy story to share, but I know from reading and speaking to people that it is more common than I ever thought...most women just feel too ashamed to talk about it. I thought this might open up a safe discussion forum for women who are experiencing anxiety/OCD to let their feelings out. I remember when I was in the throes of everything, it really helped to hear from other moms who experienced the same things that I was experiencing. It still does, actually :) &lt;/P&gt;
&lt;P&gt;&amp;nbsp;Best wishes to everyone who is experiencing depression of any kind. It can and does get better!&lt;/P&gt;
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&lt;P&gt;PS: I found &lt;A href="http://www.postpartumprogress.org/"&gt;www.postpartumprogress.org&lt;/A&gt; extremely helpful. Also, the book &lt;U&gt;Dropping the Baby and other Scary Thoughts&lt;/U&gt;, by Karen Kleiman is wonderful!&lt;/P&gt;</description></item><item><title>Scared....(Update)</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74562513.aspx</link><pubDate>Fri, 07 Jun 2013 17:58:54 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:74562513</guid><dc:creator>SilentSymphony</dc:creator><slash:comments>3</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74562513.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=74562513</wfw:commentRss><description>&lt;p&gt;I just got accepted into a program that will pay for my apartment for 2 years.... Unfortunately my SO plans on staying at his job site (3 hours away) until September when Fall term starts up again. The original plan was for us to find a place down there and have me and baby move don there so he can be around on a daily basis but he wanted his friend (who is also his co-worker) to move in with us. I wasn't too happy about it not only because i wanted us to be a family alone but also because I can already tell Im going to need his help alot due to my PPD. I'm going to need his support emotionally and mentally.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;But anywho now that I'm staying up here and he wont be here living with us for another 3 months, even though he p&lt;span style="font-size:10pt;"&gt;lans on coming up every weekend; im really scared about doing it by myself. Right now I just shut myself in my room all day....over thinking things, being sad and only leaving to use the bathroom or make food to take to my room.....&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;I'm nervous about being alone and on my own for these 3 months with the baby and my PPD....Any advice? &lt;span style="font-size:10pt;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description></item><item><title>XP from BMB: postpartum anxiety</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74527779.aspx</link><pubDate>Thu, 06 Jun 2013 13:44:45 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:74527779</guid><dc:creator>NotMyself</dc:creator><slash:comments>2</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74527779.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=74527779</wfw:commentRss><description>I had such a long post but my phone ate it.nbsp;I am struggling with anxiety right now. It gets a little worse every day. I have a doctors appt tomorrow.nbsp;It doesn't seem to focus on the baby most of my anxiety is focused on my husband and my older daughter.nbsp;The other night I heard the first aid whistle and I just knew that my husband was in a terrible car accident. Even though I knew he was at work. I start to rewrite the story in my mind where maybe he left work early because he wanted to surprise me.nbsp;Elizabeth is on a class trip today to the beach to study hurricane sandy damage. I know that she's going to drown or the bus is going to be in an accident or she'll be left behind or she'll eat something she's allergic to or fall down the stairs of the light house . I will not be able to relax until I see her at 3 o'clock.nbsp;I don't really know why I'm posting this. I have a doctors appointment tomorrow. I know the way that I'm feeling is normal but also not normal. I haven't talked to anybody my family about it and I guess I just wanted to get it out. I haven't had any thoughts of harming myself or anyone else but I have anxiety about that too. That these thoughts was suddenly start and I won't be able to recognize the place it's coming from and I will be able to stop myself. I know I need to see the doctor.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Edit: I don't know why this super old sig is showing up. My baby is 6 weeks. I am NOT currently TTC&lt;br /&gt;</description></item><item><title>DH makes me feel like I might have PPD</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74505215.aspx</link><pubDate>Wed, 05 Jun 2013 15:23:49 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:74505215</guid><dc:creator>happy_un-bride</dc:creator><slash:comments>3</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74505215.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=74505215</wfw:commentRss><description>&lt;p&gt;We got in a fight this am because I forgot a wet diaper out and dog ate it; clearly not all what the fight was about. &amp;nbsp;He says I have no respect for the house, I don't finish anything, and I'm miserable to be around. &amp;nbsp;I don't entirely see all this; I agree I leave a lot of things undone, but I feel like I'm trying to do everything and I get distracted, forget, or need to tend to DS. And now I can't stop crying. BUT on any other given day, I feel great. &amp;nbsp;I think I'm happy I love taking care of DS, so I don't suspect ppd. &amp;nbsp;Could I be missing it?&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;</description></item><item><title>Ppd or NICU stress?</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74482074.aspx</link><pubDate>Tue, 04 Jun 2013 17:51:21 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:74482074</guid><dc:creator>Laurendag</dc:creator><slash:comments>2</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74482074.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=74482074</wfw:commentRss><description>I just can't stop crying. I feel like everything is my fault. My fault he came early, my fault hes sick and in the NICU. My fault DH is so stressed and snappy. Today I picked up DS while DH was out of the room and he was fine until right when DH walked in and then his O2 dropped and DH got mad at me asking what I did to him. I just couldn't even handle it anymore. I hurried up and put DS back in his crib and practically ran out of the room. I locked myself in the lactation room and sobbed for at least 30 min. I know DH didn't mean to and he apologized as soon as I came back in but it just made my feel so horrible about myself. Like how dare I hold him because I'm just going to make him sicker. I don't even want to touch him anymore because I feel like he's just going to get worse. I feel like running away because I'll never be a good mother anyways. I couldn't even protect him while he was inside of me.</description></item><item><title>The first two weeks</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74525317.aspx</link><pubDate>Thu, 06 Jun 2013 12:04:04 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:74525317</guid><dc:creator>laxminavkar</dc:creator><slash:comments>1</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74525317.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=74525317</wfw:commentRss><description>My MW and I believe I am suffering from PPD. I am happy that I will soon be getting help but I am so sad that I won't have happy memories of bringing her home and her first few weeks. Even worse when they first handed her to me I felt nothing. I never had an overwhelming joy. I wanted the nurses to take her away so I could get dressed and go pee. I am sad that I won't have a beautiful birth story to tell her. I am trying to write down nice moments I have with her so that when I feel better I can read them and hopefully rewrite our story but I feel so terrible that this is what has happened. </description></item><item><title>anyone ween off of zoloft</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/73982340.aspx</link><pubDate>Sun, 12 May 2013 04:49:32 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:73982340</guid><dc:creator>vlagrl29</dc:creator><slash:comments>7</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/73982340.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=73982340</wfw:commentRss><description>I've been taking the generic form of zoloft since I was pregnant almost 3 years ago. I'm on 50mg and want to ween off of it. &amp;nbsp;I've tried taking one every other day but that did work because after a few days I was feeling not myself. &amp;nbsp;My doctor said it was ok for me to get off of it but didn't really give me much instruction. &amp;nbsp;Has anyone here weened off of it successfully and how did you do it? &amp;nbsp;I just bought a pill cutter and am thinking of just cutting it in half to 25mg and see how that goes</description></item><item><title>Faking it</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/73841763.aspx</link><pubDate>Mon, 06 May 2013 02:02:41 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:73841763</guid><dc:creator>dparisi82</dc:creator><slash:comments>5</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/73841763.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=73841763</wfw:commentRss><description>I'm faking it throughout the day to be happy which is draining and emotionally tiring. I want to be happy so badly but the nervousness and anxiety that I have takes over. I've already posted my story maybe about a month ago but I haven't improved by much even with zoloft and kolonopin. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I'm pregnant I know this is a postpartum board and have a debilitating fear about labor and delivery. I think about it every minute of the day and my only relief is when I'm sleeping, if I'm able to. My friends and family are sick of me talking about the same thing over and over again and I think they really thought it was a 1st trimester hormonal issue but its not. I'm SUFFERING everyday. Can anyone relate? I haven't found one person who has felt like this? </description></item><item><title>sorry...another question</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74460643.aspx</link><pubDate>Mon, 03 Jun 2013 20:42:51 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:74460643</guid><dc:creator>2u2wow</dc:creator><slash:comments>2</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74460643.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=74460643</wfw:commentRss><description>&lt;p&gt;what's the difference between PPD and just depression?&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Postpartum_depression&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;i googled PPD and&amp;nbsp;i don't know if i'm all of those things. i'll have to go talk to my Dr (although i feel like she's a terrible Dr and i don't know if i'm still PPD with a 5 month old...)&lt;/p&gt;</description></item><item><title>how do i know?</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74451788.aspx</link><pubDate>Mon, 03 Jun 2013 15:36:57 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:74451788</guid><dc:creator>2u2wow</dc:creator><slash:comments>2</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74451788.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=74451788</wfw:commentRss><description>&lt;p&gt;i have 2 DS - 1 is 2 and the other almost 5 months.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;i feel sad...&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;i feel like i should be so happy! i have everything i've EVER wanted. i'm a SAHM, i have a loving husband who is an amazing dad, &amp;nbsp;a beautiful home, an education and 2 healthy beautiful sons.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;why do i feel empty? &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;nothing is making me happy other than the smiles on my boys faces! &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;i feel judged all the time about how i raise my kids, although i don't feel like i'm doing anything extraordinary or strange. &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;i never feel confident in how i do things. i'm always waiting to hear the reaction from others or expect to hear i'm doing it wrong&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;i'm just wondering if this is PPD or something else&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;i've never felt like this before and i hate it. i've always been happy and now i just can't get happy. i don't really feel like going out although i take DS1 out to playdates anyway because i know it's best for him. &amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;i have a few close girlfriends although they're from highschool and i feel like we're drifting apart (i'm 30 now)&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;i'll also say that the girlfriends i have always seem to have it together, so it makes me feel like i'm failing sometimes...i also have the VERY busy boy and they all have nice quiet girls. &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;i'm afraid to admit being depressed or having ppd because i also feel like i've failed somehow...anyone else? i feel like if i admit i'm not happy or that i'm not feeling like i can keep up that i'm failing as a mother and a wife. i talked about it with my mom and dh but i'm afraid to talk to my girlfriends about it&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;thanks for listening and i'd love to hear some of your advice or stories &amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;</description></item><item><title>those who go to therapy/counselling</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74460571.aspx</link><pubDate>Mon, 03 Jun 2013 20:40:29 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:74460571</guid><dc:creator>2u2wow</dc:creator><slash:comments>4</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74460571.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=74460571</wfw:commentRss><description>&lt;p&gt;does it help you?&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;how did you go about it? &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;i'm afraid she won't understand what i'm trying to say...i'm also afraid to talk about it at all so i don't know if i'll be able to explain what i'm feeling &amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;</description></item><item><title>LONELY </title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74450348.aspx</link><pubDate>Mon, 03 Jun 2013 14:48:22 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:74450348</guid><dc:creator>mommy2aaron2012</dc:creator><slash:comments>3</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74450348.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=74450348</wfw:commentRss><description>today is just not a good day for me. i feel so isolated and alone, i cant talk to anyone about this. i'm tired of feeling this depression. i'm tired of complaining and i feel like everyone is tired of me. i'm at work struggling to be normal, i kind of feel like i'm dying inside. holding this in isnt helping me. idk what to do anymore. i have a smile plastered on my face and it hurts me. i'm just going through it today...i guess. i'm just waiting for it to pass. its been 3 days. just when i think i'm getting better, i suddenly feel so much worse...i want to cry but i'm tired of crying. i just want someone to understand, no one in my life does right now...&lt;img src="http://community.thebump.com/cs/emoticons/emotion-9.gif" alt="Crying" /&gt;&lt;br&gt;</description></item><item><title>how do you know?</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74497311.aspx</link><pubDate>Wed, 05 Jun 2013 03:24:52 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:74497311</guid><dc:creator>viktoriuh</dc:creator><slash:comments>0</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74497311.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=74497311</wfw:commentRss><description>I'm a mother of 2 sons 7  17months but this is a question about my sister who has just had a baby girl herself 6 weeks  and she's having trouble with other ppl babysitting bub, so is this normal or could it possibly mean more? Confused</description></item><item><title>side effect?</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74466817.aspx</link><pubDate>Tue, 04 Jun 2013 01:21:52 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:74466817</guid><dc:creator>alrdytkn1222</dc:creator><slash:comments>1</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74466817.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=74466817</wfw:commentRss><description>&lt;p&gt;I started taking zoloft, I did 7days with half a pill 25mg and now taking my full pill of 50mg, ive noticed my head already feels clearer but when I lay down for bed I have a slight dull feeling on the right side of my head that distracts me from sleeping. Like im restless. &amp;nbsp;I find I start shaking foot off the side of bed to counter act the feeling in my head?&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;normal? &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I take my pill at 8am &amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;</description></item><item><title>Help needed/ Zoloft/ TTC</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74198065.aspx</link><pubDate>Wed, 22 May 2013 13:15:01 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:74198065</guid><dc:creator>peanut701</dc:creator><slash:comments>5</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74198065.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=74198065</wfw:commentRss><description>I could really use some support from women who have been in my situation. I feel so alone right now. Eighteen months after the birth of my DD, I am still in treatment for PPD. I would like to TTC, so I have been trying to wean off of Zoloft. I was doing really well on 200mg yup, highest possible dose. I weaned to 150mg and I'm an effing mess. Went back to 200mg and was doing great. Tried 150mg and I'm an anxious, weepy disaster.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;What the hell am I going to do??? I am working against the clock here. I want my kids to be close in age. I'm no spring chicken and DH is going to be 37. I feel so much pressure to get off this stuff and yet I can't function without it. My doc is so damn judgmental. She wants me to stay on 200mg and I could tell from the very beginning that she doesn't think I should have more children.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I'm just devastated that after everything I've been through, PPD is potentially robbing me of a second child. And my DH doesn't understand the sacrifice I am making to try and have a healthy pregnancy. </description></item><item><title>Introduction</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74458295.aspx</link><pubDate>Mon, 03 Jun 2013 19:20:33 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:74458295</guid><dc:creator>Kimmycakes10</dc:creator><slash:comments>0</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74458295.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=74458295</wfw:commentRss><description>So I have been lurking on this board for some time so I thought it was about time to introduce myself. I have a 20 month DS and 8 month DD . When my son was born he was the greatest and easiest baby ever and still is . My dd on the other hand has been completely opposite she has reflux and an extremely fussy baby who still will not sleep through the night and screams for hours during the day and for naps. I am at a loss with her. I feel like I cannot enjoy her and that I cannot connect with her the way I do with my son. I know this isn't normal, and I guess I'm just looking for some support. I will add I have an extremely supportive husband but sometimes I feel like he can't relate to how I am feeling . </description></item><item><title>Are you on medication?</title><link>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74089288.aspx</link><pubDate>Thu, 16 May 2013 22:36:58 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="false">b16960c2-08ff-48dc-93ce-1f3c6b289aa0:74089288</guid><dc:creator>ChristyML</dc:creator><slash:comments>8</slash:comments><comments>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/74089288.aspx</comments><wfw:commentRss>http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/commentrss.aspx?SectionID=7539450&amp;PostID=74089288</wfw:commentRss><description>&lt;p&gt;How many of you ladies are actually on medication? &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I'm not, and I don't plan on it. I have been seeing my counselor for about a month now, and things are going okay, and they will get better, but I have a feeling it will take longer than if I was &lt;i&gt;also&lt;/i&gt;&amp;nbsp;on medication, but I'm okay with that. I've been on and off depression medication (usually Zoloft) for the past 12 or so years, and I'm tired of feeling dull constantly.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I'm not saying medication is bad, I'm just wondering if anyone has not been on medication, and has healed greatly from PPD without it.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Thanks!&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;</description></item></channel></rss>