New to The Bump

Newly pregnant and terrified!

TheFutureSchoenfelds — Sun, 19 May 2013 08:10:42 GMT

In a good way I think lol! Just got my BFP today!

Just thinking about having the baby in a hospital gives me anxiety. Would anyone recommend a doula or midwife and an alternative birth spot ( like home) over regular hospital birth? What are the differences?

No option to change Sig

Marettie — Thu, 09 May 2013 19:38:40 GMT

So I get that TB is having issues with sig's saving, but when I go to my bump the entire screen is blank! There is no box even to change with?? Anyone else?

I've resorted to going over to TK to try, but that seems to erase every time as well...

user name?

KrissyWink — Sat, 18 May 2013 05:31:48 GMT

anyone know how i can change my username? i cant figure it out and its driving me crazy!

PLEASE READ this before you create a "test" post

Ambsies — Sat, 18 May 2013 04:10:54 GMT

You DO NOT need to create a new post to "test your siggy".

We all have to learn sometime (and hopefully you find this helpful and not snarky). I'm sure I was guilty of a siggy test or two before someone told me they weren't necessary.

Just go to the left side of the page, scroll down until you see "My Posts":

Click on any post that you have written or responded to in the past (any of them will do) and look at your siggy in that post. That will show you exactly what your siggy currently looks like. For example- if you look at a post from last October you will see your current siggy, not how it looked last October. When I change my siggy I usually open up an old post in a new tab or window, make my siggy changes and then refresh that old post to see how it looks. I can just keep making changes and refreshing that old post until it looks just right.

I hope that helps. Oh ya, and I have a bunch of bump tech help in my bio(siggy, PIP, etc.).

And I know that this post will probably be overlooked and siggy tests will continue to be posted but I thought it might be helpful to someone.

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Also, if you want to test a PIP- just click on the "preview tab" before you hit "post".

If you're brand new and don't have any old posts to look at when you're seeing how your siggy looks- just introduce yourself and there ya go, you have one post under your belt :)

just jumping in

mommy2aaron2012 — Thu, 16 May 2013 14:31:30 GMT

hello, i signed up for this while preggo and hadnt really thought to write til now. just a lonely working mother of a beautiful 1 year (13 mnth) old baby boy. just need to talk to other moms i guess.

testing

brandilc84 — Thu, 16 May 2013 20:11:06 GMT

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to see if my images upload.

ETA: wonder why two of the same pic posted. I only uploaded one.

Does anyone know why? and what is the recommended size for pictures?

Test

mmgavin695 — Sun, 28 Apr 2013 12:42:50 GMT

Test

need help with navigation

koflaherty — Thu, 16 May 2013 21:46:11 GMT

Hello! Maybe I'm just not seeing what I need to see on the website, but if I "watch thread" on the community board is there somewhere that takes me to that direct thread? Or somewhere where is shows JUST the threads I'm watching? All I've done so far is go to "first trimester" then "january 2014 moms" then scroll through all the threads until I find the one that I clicked "watch thread" there's gotta be an easier way right? I'm usually pretty computer savvy but I can't seem to figure it out? Is it too early to blame pregnancy brain? Lol! Thanks for any help!

New member with questions

momonigiri87 — Sun, 12 May 2013 02:16:39 GMT

Hello everyone!

My name is Tanna, and I have been married for 3.5 years. My husband is very supportive when it comes to me finishing school (I just got my master's degree), and in any hobby I choose to pursue.

He is an engineer, and he prides himself in the ability to plan everything. And I mean everything. That being said, he originally had a very specific plan about when we were going to conceive and have a family etc. The trouble is, I am not sure I'm ready to "follow the plan" to a T, and this is causing me great anxiety.

I am turning 26 this year, and I know I should be thrilled to be starting a family (after all, according to my family, that's what marriage is for, right?)

The fact of the matter is, I don't think I'd make a very conventional mother. I see the constant posts that my friends post on FB or other such sites, and it's always about some gushing revelation about how awesome their little angels are (Oh look, he pooped! Let me take a picture! Oh look, she is using a fork to throw food in our faces, how clever!). I feel guilty that I cannot share in my friends' happinesses because I fail to see the point about how all these things are "accomplishments"

In the end, I am just scared about not being the conventional mother: you know the one that looks at their baby and falls in love with them at first site, and is willing to give up everything that makes them an individual person for the sake of their baby. What if I am a lousy mother who doesn't dote on their kids 24/7? What if I don't even like them?

My husband and I have already fought about this, and he says I shouldn't talk to him "about stuff like this" because he is not "one of my girlfriends". And, as my mother passed away when I was 20, I cannot ask her for advice.

Phew, sorry for the lengthy intro, and I hope I did not offend anyone with this post, but I am just trying to be honest in the hopes that other people have gone through similar feelings and experiences.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

hello everyone

desi3374 — Wed, 15 May 2013 19:43:16 GMT

Hello. I am new to the bump. I wanted to introduce myself. I am expecting 14 weeks 4 days. Baby due November 9. I can't wait to meet my LO <3

best early HPT

lovebug1121 — Wed, 15 May 2013 19:33:34 GMT

I'm currently 12 days post ovulation and I was wondering if anyone knew what pregnancy test I should use for an early accurate result. Also if anyone has any tips on the best time to conceive throughout the month That would be greatly appreciated as well. Thank you for all your help

My First Post!

ZaydensMomma — Wed, 15 May 2013 19:08:32 GMT

Hello Everyone!! My name is Megan! I'm a first time mom of a wonderful 3, almost 4, month old little boy named Zayden. I joined TB for advice on child care and meeting new moms like me.

help!?

Mrsballesteros22 — Tue, 14 May 2013 18:40:02 GMT

how you guys put the countdown ticker every time you write a message board ? is it like a signature? or do i have to paste it every time i post something on here??

Just seeing if this ticker works...having issues!

JessWeck — Mon, 13 May 2013 23:12:55 GMT

sorry if this is crowding the page ladies. I keep getting stuck with this simple task.

Seriously chilly welcome...

MathairFiona — Wed, 01 May 2013 03:53:40 GMT

I just joined today because I am looking for advice on my toddler throwing food. I then thought I'd ask cloth diapering moms what they'd like to see in a diaper liner as I'm thinking about making some to try and market. I got the rudest response about how I shouldn't be using people as a "free idea service." I then responded by asking that people not reply if they don't like my question. Following this, yet another woman tells me that people would be "willing to be nicer if they had any idea who you are." Seriously?!? You only deserve to be treated nicely if you are well known to others? I am quickly being reminded of why I left the last mommy website I joined.

New Female Here - A Little Nervous and Confused

Suffernie — Thu, 02 May 2013 11:10:28 GMT

Well, from I can deduce, I am 4 weeks pregnant, or at least I am pretty sure I am.... My last period was suppose to start around the 24th. My fiance had expressed some concerns that I was late back on the 20th. At the time I didn't think anything of it because I wasn't due to start until later that week. Last Friday we went out and got a home pregnancy test and it turned out negative. So I waited a few more days and took the second one on Monday, still negative, but I am over a week late.

I am ALWAYS around 28-30 days on my cycle, and I ovulate 10 days after my period starts. And my fiance had unprotected sex around the 6th through the 10th of April, which is my most fertile days. However, we have had unprotected sex around my fertility cycle before with no conception, though, I know that is NOT an indication of anything. I have thought long and hard over the last few days to see if ANYTHING could have happened over the last few months to delay my period or make me skip a month and I can't find an answer. I haven't been under any stress, my eating habits haven't changed, I haven't lost or gained a great deal of weight recently; nothing explains why I am late.

Now, I have been experiencing some mood fluctuations, most notably when I snap at my fiance for no reason, like his flopping around in his sleep keeping me up at night. This is typically a symptom of my period also, but never this severe and I can usually tell when I am a little testy while on my period.

My breasts aren't sore, which they ALWAYS are at least 1 week before my period starts. I am feeling only slightly crampy (like tugging and stretching), which is different because my cramps are ALWAYS more severe a day or two before I start my period. And I am more tired lately than I normally am.

Now, I know that most women won't feel any different, or will only have mild symptoms during week 4, and that most women won't even get a positive pregnancy test until at least week 5 or 6. So I am assuming that the two tests I did take were false negatives. It is for this reason why I am a little nervous and confused.

My discharge is creamy and white when it is usually clear and slippery. My fiance says that my vagina feels much tighter than normal, especially the farther back and deeper he goes. I have been zoning out A LOT this past week and I am much warmer than usual, which is playing hell with my comfort. I will be toasty to the point of sweating at one moment, then freezing cold the next. I have been more gassy as of late, and felt very bloated this past weekend. Lately I have been having to pee about every 1-2 hours, however, my pee hasn't been cloudy at all (my mom said her first indication that she was pregnant was she had VERY cloudy urine and couldn't see the bottom of the bowl. I don't know if that's a normal indicator or not).

My fiance and I are very hopeful that we are pregnant, we have been talking about starting a family for about the past year or so with no such luck until now. I am 25 and he is 27, we haven't set a wedding date yet, mostly due to family illnesses and monetary complications, but our wedding is still set for the near future. At any rate we would just like to know if we are pregnant or not.

So my question is, has anybody encountered a similar situation like ours, or knows someone who went through something similar? I just want to make sure that I am not going crazy with "telling myself that I am pregnant because I really want to be" or that what I feeling, the confusion and nerves, are normal. Any help or opinions are greatly appreciated. I am glad to be here, and if we are pregnant, I am glad I have a plethora of knowledge and first hand experience stories to help guide me through my many questions I will surely have.

Newbie with a TTC question

CowgirlK39 — Mon, 06 May 2013 00:52:46 GMT

Hi everyone. Not sure where this should be posted but I figured this was a good place to start.

My DH and I have been thinking about when to TTC. I would like to be a bit more financially settled, which I am hoping will happen in a year or two. People are telling us "if you wait till you have money, you will never have kids." I have been hearing that for years now, but I can't stand the thought of having a baby and not being totally ready money wise.

Another issue for us is that I was told by my doctor about three years ago that I probably have PCOS. I have read a lot about it and have seen the posts of Nesties and Bumpies who have struggled for years with it. I do not want to reach the point of being ready to TTC only to find out I have more years of struggle ahead. So my question is.... Should we start TTC soon, even though we aren't ready, since we are pretty sure it won't happen? I know I have read that most gyns say to TTC for a year before seeking treatment, so should I start that "year of trying" now? I guess my fear is waiting till we are ready and then having to wait even longer.

Brand new, and nervous!

JoDoc — Wed, 08 May 2013 20:52:04 GMT

Hi, wasn't sure which threads would really apply to me so I'm starting here, and thought I'd share my story.

My husband and I had tried to get pregnant since we got married, 4 years ago. It wasn't happening and we thought maybe there was something wrong with him. He was tested and was fine, so I was tested. Turns out it was me. My eggs were not viable at all. He has a son from a previous marriage (he has sole physical custody, so he's with us all the time and has become "my" son, I love him like he is. He'll be 15) To make a very long story shorter, we decided to go with an egg donor. Found one and started the process, then found out my hubby is a carrier for Cystic Fibrosis, so last minute we found a sperm donor. We know the complete medical background of both donors, felt comfortable (albeit stressed) with that decision. Anyway, we figured we'd give IVF one shot. There were 2 embryo's that were is 'excellent' condition as the doctor put it, so we had them both implanted to give us a better shot at one of them surviving.

This last weekend I woke up at 2am with excruciating stomach cramps and violent vomiting. Not 'morning sickness' vomiting...this was different. I went to the ER where they ran a bunch of tests then did an ultrasound of my liver, kidneys, spleen, etc. The technician asked if we'd had an ultrasound of the pregnancy yet and I said no, that it's scheduled for the 15th. She said if I wanted she could check that as well, to make sure that everything is ok there. I said "yes please" and she looked. We saw 2 heartbeats!! We are so ecstatic! Of course, a little shell shocked, but too we were a little prepared knowing that they did implant 2 embryo's. We have only told a select few that I'm actually pregnant (bosses and my brother) and only our bosses know right now that it's twins because we have a neat plan to tell everyone that we're pregnant with twins.

Ok, there's my extremely shortened story. Oh, and our 14 yr old son? He's been giggling ever since we told him. He can't wait to meet them!

Just found out...

jessbee21 — Fri, 10 May 2013 11:17:50 GMT

We just found out on Tuesday that I am pregnant and it is VERY early like only 4 weeks. I am so excited and I want to tell everyone, but DH and I decided to wait until after my 2nd appt. on June 5th that seems so far away!!!
So, my question is, I haven't been experiencing morning sickness, but I have been pretty crampy no spotting I keep reading that it's normal, but is it? I don't have my 1st appt. till 5/23 and I feel like I have all of these questions!
Thanks for the help ahead of time!!

Hello!

beedub519 — Sun, 05 May 2013 14:15:35 GMT

I'm new to the bump, I've been reading all kinds of posts and learning lots of new things about the journey that my husband and I are starting on.

I hope everyone is having a great sunday!

HI!

husker79 — Sun, 05 May 2013 15:51:23 GMT

My husband and I have been TTC for over a year without success. I don't want to go to a doc for help...( too stubborn)...but I'm thinking that is what we're going to have to do. I'm going to be 34 in June and I feel we're running out of time. I wish this journey could happen naturally for us, a little one would be such a blessing!

Hello!

Legitsince86 — Thu, 09 May 2013 05:19:55 GMT

I registered an account when we found out the good news but haven't had the time to actively look!

I'm 21 weeks pregnant and this is our first. I've been married about 2 years. We found out a month ago that we're having a girl! I managed through my first trimester morning sickness by not even acknowledging that I was pregnant. I was student teaching and working all day so I didn't even think that the reason I felt nausea was due to pregnancy! Now that I'm done with school (and currently not working) I'm trying to find things to occupy my time because once that baby is here, I won't have any!

How to add a pic?

brandilc84 — Sat, 11 May 2013 21:15:54 GMT

ok- so I have been around for about a year but can't seem to figure out how to add a picture to a post that I want to write. Anyone know how to add a picture to a new post to share with everyone? TIA!

Pregnant before marriage?

Shannymk777 — Wed, 01 May 2013 20:39:31 GMT

My Fianc and I have been together nine years and live together. We are engaged but not yet set a date. We started ttc a few months ago and finally got lucky last month. I am now pregnant but we have not told anyone. My fmil recently mentioned that she would be disappointed and pissed if we got pregnant before getting married. It really caught me off guard because we didnt expect her to all of a sudden become so religious however we 100 expect that from his grandmother! Now the excitement of telling her is now replaced by not wanting to tell her at all. What do we do?

New and TTC!

achapman1222 — Wed, 01 May 2013 15:14:10 GMT

Hello everyone!! My husband and I have been trying to conceive for 3 months now and I just ovulated a couple days ago, so fingers crossed this will be our month!! Any advice is welcome! I am so eager to have a lil one with my amazing husband!