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07-09-2009 at 4:50 PM
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School me re: daycare at 15+ months (on the longer side.)

DH and I are about 75% sure that we're going to be making a cross-country move next year. In order for me to have earning potential when we get there, I am going to be taking a medical coding course at the local tech college. (I do have part of my psych degree finished, but we don't have time or the money to do that. ::le sigh::) Anywho, in order for me to finish by the time we move, I'm going to have to take the accelerated program which essentially makes it into a little more than a full time school schedule.

In order for us to make all this possible, we are going to have to put DS into daycare (at least part time). Has anyone transitioned their DC into daycare this late in the game? What can I do to make it easier on him?


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07-09-2009 at 4:55 PM
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I'm curious to know also.  We will be starting DS in daycare at 18 months and I am terrified.  I get so upset just thinking about it.  I was okay with it a couple of weeks ago when we went to visit the day care he will go to, but as the time gets closer I hope and pray that something will happen and I will be able to stay home.

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07-09-2009 at 5:41 PM
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No one has any advice? This post has gotten nearly 40 views. I can use anything you give me. Thanks!

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07-09-2009 at 5:49 PM
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Sorry, I peaked in hopes to get some insight too.  I am still toying with the idea of returning to work full time, I know my boss would love me to come back full time instead of the part time I have been doing of late.  I am just a nervous ninny when it comes to putting DS in day care full time...and it is really expensive around here, like everything else around here.  Talk about mood swing, I was considering quitting all together last month.  Thankfully I have these conversations with DH and not anyone else IRL, LOL.
07-09-2009 at 6:25 PM
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I C & P'd my response to someone else who previously asked the same question.  Here's what I wrote

My DS started daycare at 15 months.  Up to that point, he had a nanny.  I won't say it was easy right away- it took a few weeks for ds to let me leave without crying.  But the minute I left, he'd stop crying so I knew it was just to make me feel guilty!  

Despite those few weeks where he cried, it was the best thing I did for him.  He learned how to be much more social, he started eating more and talking more.  He learned SO much that a nanny with one on one time could never give him.  Kids learn more from their peers than from anyone else.  He is great at sharing toys, learned how to make friends, etc.  Kids relating to other kids is very different than relating to a nanny and I immediately saw a good difference in ds.

What advice do I have?  Stick with it.  Don't get frustrated if your dd has a rough beginning.  My daycare was great (in comforting me!).  They constantly told me it was normal and ds would adapt.  I wasn't so sure and really wondered if I did the right thing at first.  But then - poof- one day he went into daycare and ran to his friends without even saying goodbye to me.  End of crying.  Now he runs TO daycare and can't wait to get in the stroller to go in the morning.  He sometimes cries when I try to take him home at night because he likes it so much.  So stick with it.  Your dd will be happy in the end.

Also, don't worry about the one on one time.  Obviously, each daycare is different but I found that even with a 3 to 1 teacher to student ratio, they get a lot of attention.  Sometimes the kids are just needy or sometimes they're teething or whatever.   The teachers know when a kid needs extra attention and they get it. 

The one thing I was not prepared for was illness.  DS was never sick before daycare and in the first few weeks, he had 2 colds and pink eye.  He hasn't gotten sick since those first few weeks and everyone told me it's normal for kids to get sick when they first start daycare because of the additonal germs.  So I'd make sure you have some sick time saved up and are prepared to take days off if your dd gets sick.


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07-09-2009 at 6:42 PM
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You might want to post on the working moms board.  I posted something similar a few weeks ago and only got two responses.  I guess most working moms start day care a lot earlier.  For most, if they made it this long without working, they continue to SAH.

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07-09-2009 at 6:50 PM
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DS just started part time day care yesterday.  He only goes 2 afternoons/week now but will up it to 3 afternoons/week later on.  I am amazed at how well he has done already.  My biggest concern for him was having him nap when the other kids do.  I asked the provider what the schedule was and she told me.  About 3-4wk prior to his start date I worked on his nap schedule.  Honestly, if he doesn't take his morning nap he is more then ready to nap once he gets there.  Outside of that, I didn't have many concerns.



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07-09-2009 at 7:19 PM
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my dd's started at 12 months. It was a non-issue. 
 
07-09-2009 at 8:16 PM
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I'm in the same boat.  I'm pretty sure my boss is going to agree to my request to be laid off and then I'll be home with Ben for the next 9 or 10 months (he's cared for in our home now), but after that, he'll be going to daycare.  He'll probably be 24-25 months then.

I think JillAlly's advice was good.  Also, I was going to see if we could do a 'trial run' where I would stay for part of the day (for a couple/few days) to help ease him into it and not to just leave him in a strange place.  I'm hoping the center we choose will be open to that.  If not, I may look elsewhere.



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