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09-08-2009 at 12:33 PM
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Book Instead of Card Wording?

I'm sure this has been posted a million times, but the SEARCH function isn't working.  Do any of you have a cute way to word in the invitation to bring a children's book in lieu of a card?  TIA!

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09-08-2009 at 1:25 PM
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Please instead of a card give me yet 1 more gift because I am greedy and would like everything!

Just sayin'


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09-08-2009 at 1:30 PM
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Oh wow.  This is a pretty common thing where I am from.  Can't remember the last baby shower that didn't have this!  I'm not talking a $10 book!  There is an adorable little poem that usually accompanies the invitation.  I just seem to have misplaced it.  Sorry I offended you.  I thought this was a board to share/accept new ideas.  Guess I was wrong.  I won't be back.  Promise.  :)

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09-08-2009 at 1:38 PM
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It is also a board to share opinions, I shared with you mine. Sorry we don't agree on the tackiness level of this. I have seen it done before, but like money trees, having guests address their own thank you envelopes, etc, it does not mean it is any less tacky.

Now throw on those big girl panties and take it like a woman...

 


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09-08-2009 at 2:02 PM
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I think it's a great idea. Most greeting cards are 3.99 = price of a paperback.  I don't have the exact wording, but i've seen it said like "In lieu of a greeting card, please consider donating a book to help start Baby Smith's library." and they enclosed a book plate with the shower invite.  I've never found it to be tacky and shows that the family values reading.

 


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09-08-2009 at 4:02 PM
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I think it's a really cute idea and would like my shower hostess to use it as well- but don't feel comfortable suggesting it to them (I'll just save it for when I host a shower). 

There's a little poem I've seen on cardstock inside of an invite that goes like this:

I want to be a bright child
As smart as I can be.
That is why I'm hoping
My mom will read to me.

If you plan to bring a card
Please take another look.
I would like to learn my ABC's
From your favorite storybook

Please sign your name
As your personal touch.
Baby (last name) thanks you
Beary, beary much.


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09-08-2009 at 4:17 PM
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Anytime I get a note like that in the invite, I purposely buy a card.


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09-08-2009 at 4:19 PM
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I'm usually one to stick with proper etiquette but the book instead of a card thing I don't see a problem with.  It is not like the guest is forking out any extra money since I don't know of many cards that are less than $1 (at the $ store) and most are much more than that.  You can find a book at the $ store for that amount and sometimes 2 for a dollar. 

I do think it is difficult to "write" a sentiment in the book since the card would be to the mother-to-be not the baby and if you wrote that in a book it would sound weird.  KWIM?

 
09-08-2009 at 8:14 PM
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I can't take credit for any of this... but I've saved a lot of info along that way:

Although cards are nice with their sentiment
and prayer,
They're read once or twice then tucked away
with care.
A book is a treasure, words and pictures unite
Read over and over to teach and delight.
So instead of a card for Baby and
mother,
Please give a child's book with your thoughts in the cover.
Your book will be cherished; God will watch from above,
When it's read they will remember your
kindness and love.

We can't wait to see you at the shower
When (mom-to-be's name) will be the woman of the hour
We have one request we hope isn't too hard
Please sign your name to a book instead of a card
Then mom and dad will be ready when the baby arrives
To read to their darling for the rest of their lives


As (Mother-to-be's name) due date is coming near,
We're inviting friends and family dear.
To choose a favorite story or fairy tale
That you would like Baby ________ to hear.
Instead of a card, please let (mother-to-be's name)look,
At your special choice of a book,
and then to Baby _________ she will read
With all the love a newborn will need.
So with a personal touch, please choose a book
And in it then your name do put.
It need not cost more than a card
Just pick a favorite, it shouldn't be hard.



I want to be a bright child
As smart as I can be.
That is why I'm hoping
My mom will read to me.
If you plan to bring a card
Please take another look,
I would like to learn my ABC's
From your favorite storybook.
Please sign your name
As your personal touch.
Baby ________ thanks you
Beary, beary much.


Just one last request, and we hope it's not hard
Please bring baby a book in place of a card
By signing your book, we will remember and share
Your special gift, even when you're not there!
 


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09-08-2009 at 8:25 PM
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please bring a baby book instead of a card...i have this at my shower and cant wait to see the books!!!

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09-08-2009 at 11:03 PM
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One small request that won't be too hard 
Please bring a book instead of a card 
Whether Cat in the Hat or Winnie the Pooh 
You can sign the inside cover with a note from you 
Baby will become very smart, if my advice you do heed 
If we begin early, he'll soon love to read

 

 

We used this poem for my shower. We printed this out on the back of a label so that everyone could write a little message for the baby and then stick that on the book. People seemed to like this more than getting a card that lets face it, would be thrown out eventually. Not that I was looking, but we did see on the back of many of the books that they cost at most $2.00. Most baby related cards are much more than that.

 


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09-10-2009 at 9:40 PM
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In the last several years I've been invited to a number of showers that ask for books instead of cards and I LOVE the idea.  It doesn't cost any extra - or it least it doesn't have to!  I feel like it's a much better and more meaningful use of my money, in fact.  I always feel like I'm wasting money on a card...  And I love visiting the houses and reading to the child when they're a bit bigger and showing them the book that I gave them with my note inside.

I'm disappointed when this ISN'T suggested because then I feel like I have to buy a card.

 
09-11-2009 at 7:21 AM
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The wording that was used was:  

I want to be a bright child,

As smart as I can be. 

That is why I am hoping

My Mom & Dad will read to me.

If you plan to bring a card

Please take another look

I would like to learn my ABCs

From your favorite storybook.

I think its a great idea and who says it has to be a brand new book? You can find new and used ones in good condition at yard sales and flea markets all the time. I thought of it as a wishing well but for a baby shower and I don't mind spending a little more for something sweet and special. I still gave a card too anyway. BTW, I wish there was some other rhyme or poem to ask for a book, without of "insted of a card".  

 
12-31-2010 at 11:41 AM
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That's the most childish thing i've read. A book costs as little as a dollar but will not only teach your child but is great for bonding time with baby. My little one 2.5 not only knows all her letters and numbers but can read 2 and 3 letter words because my guests didn't purposely say screw reading here a card.
 
12-31-2010 at 11:46 AM
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Just saying your rude. Its not a way to get more ,its a way to not only save waste(who keeps all those cards) but teaches your child to love books early. A book costs less then a card and last a lifetime.
 
12-31-2010 at 11:48 AM
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Just saying your rude.

 

 
12-31-2010 at 11:50 AM
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iv baby i get it you have plenty of money to buy books or just buy the grade later

 

 
12-31-2010 at 1:14 PM
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truemom:

iv baby i get it you have plenty of money to buy books or just buy the grade later

 

Ironic--a woman who supports giving books and touts their benefits doesn't seem to have a grasp on the English language.  


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06-05-2011 at 5:35 PM
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I'm so glad you posted this, I wanted to do the same on my invites but couldn't remember any poems either.  Don't listen to those that say this is greedy, I think this is a very common practice these days and that it is showing that you are interested in the education of your child. I hope you get lots of books for your baby :)
 
06-05-2011 at 6:32 PM
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truemom:

iv baby i get it you have plenty of money to buy books or just buy the grade later

 

 

Hi.  What are you talking about?  Have you been drinking or something?


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06-05-2011 at 8:08 PM
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I love the excuse to come up with a good poem:

Roses are red, violets are blue

I'm just not done asking from you

When you're shopping at the store, just pass by the cards

keep spending your money, it's really not hard.

Buy me a cheap book, doesn't matter the type

My mommy is buying into this new fangled hype.

Start thinking creative, start digging real deep

Look beyond stories that'll lull me to sleep

I know you think Dr Seuss is really quite swell

But Cathy and Sally and grandma does as well

So don't waste your money on some silly old card

I'll just sell the 10 identical copies of the books in my yard. 


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07-01-2011 at 10:24 PM
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BallSox:

I love the excuse to come up with a good poem:

Roses are red, violets are blue

I'm just not done asking from you

When you're shopping at the store, just pass by the cards

keep spending your money, it's really not hard.

Buy me a cheap book, doesn't matter the type

My mommy is buying into this new fangled hype.

Start thinking creative, start digging real deep

Look beyond stories that'll lull me to sleep

I know you think Dr Seuss is really quite swell

But Cathy and Sally and grandma does as well

So don't waste your money on some silly old card

I'll just sell the 10 identical copies of the books in my yard. 

 

WOW!! READING THIS MADE ME SICK, THE THOUGHT AT HOW ROTTEN SOME "WOMEN" ARE ON THE BUMP MAKES ME WANT O THROW UP. A CARD COSTS MORE THAN A BOOK YOU JUDGEMENTAL TWATS..SERIOUSLY GET A FREAKING LIFE..WONDER HOW LONG IT TOOK YOU TO COME UP WITH THAT POEM? OBVIOUSLY YOU HAVE NOTHING BETTER TO DO WITH YOUR TIME.

 
07-17-2011 at 9:30 PM
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Wow is right. Ballsox and krissyh, you're both b*tches plain and simple--since we're all being honest here and giving our opinions. Giving a book instead of a card is a fantastic idea. I hate throwing my money away on a $5 card when I can get a book for the same price. Yes, you can get new books for under $5. If you've ever bought books in your life, you know this is true. I bought a hardback book at Babies-R-Us for $4.99 for a baby shower. And no, it wasn't a flimsy, crappy book, it was "First 100 Words" with hard cardboard as pages.

Oh my goodness and guess what? If you don't like buying a card instead of a book, then don't do it! It's a request, NOT a demand. I can't believe how whiny and insulting people get over this measly $5! Are you really that cheap?

 
07-18-2011 at 2:08 AM
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It has nothing to do with how much money a card costs versus a book. It's not the amount of money you spend on a gift, it's the thought that goes into the gift that counts.

What makes this new trend tacky is that you are specifying what kind of gift your guests should buy which is in very poor taste. Your guests are grown women and are smart enough to purchase their own thoughtful gifts without your help.

And before you say "If they don't want to do it, they don't have to," no, they don't. But most will because they don't want to be the only one not to follow along. Just because women do it doesn't make it any less tacky.

If the idea of building your child's library is important to you, then register for books or even let a friend throw you a Baby's Library Shower. Or if friends/family ask what you need, tell them you want to build up the baby's library.

However, the guests at your shower should be the ones to decide what kind of gift they bring. You may not tell them or even politely ask them to bring you something specific. Because then, it really isn't a gift anymore.


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If the idea of building your child's library is important to you, then register for books or even let a friend throw you a Baby's Library Shower. Or if friends/family ask what you need, tell them you want to build up the baby's library.


Or buy your own damn books.  It's not your friends and family's responsibility to provide everything you want for your child.

Loling at the AEs.  If you don't have the balls to say what you're saying under your real ID, then I give what you have to say absolutely zero weight.


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07-18-2011 at 1:31 PM
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MelleTX:

If the idea of building your child's library is important to you, then register for books or even let a friend throw you a Baby's Library Shower. Or if friends/family ask what you need, tell them you want to build up the baby's library.


Or buy your own damn books.  It's not your friends and family's responsibility to provide everything you want for your child.

Loling at the AEs.  If you don't have the balls to say what you're saying under your real ID, then I give what you have to say absolutely zero weight.

I'm just waiting for someone to start asking if it's ok to registery for school supplies or a service that supplies bag lunches for when their kids start school. 


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I'm just waiting for someone to start asking if it's ok to registery for school supplies or a service that supplies bag lunches for when their kids start school. 

 Or maybe something where you can prepay for little Johnny's school lunch for X days! Or his soccer uniform!  I envision a honeymoon-registry type deal, lol.


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07-19-2011 at 1:18 AM
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MelleTX:

If the idea of building your child's library is important to you, then register for books or even let a friend throw you a Baby's Library Shower. Or if friends/family ask what you need, tell them you want to build up the baby's library.


Or buy your own damn books.  It's not your friends and family's responsibility to provide everything you want for your child.

Loling at the AEs.  If you don't have the balls to say what you're saying under your real ID, then I give what you have to say absolutely zero weight.

Oh damn. Did I waste my weekly logical post on AEs? I should know better than that.


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07-19-2011 at 9:26 AM
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danilynn17:
MelleTX:

If the idea of building your child's library is important to you, then register for books or even let a friend throw you a Baby's Library Shower. Or if friends/family ask what you need, tell them you want to build up the baby's library.


Or buy your own damn books.  It's not your friends and family's responsibility to provide everything you want for your child.

Loling at the AEs.  If you don't have the balls to say what you're saying under your real ID, then I give what you have to say absolutely zero weight.

Oh damn. Did I waste my weekly logical post on AEs? I should know better than that.

Logic tends to be wasted a lot here, don't feel bad.


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People saying it is tacky and rude to ask for a book instead of a card is ridiculous. The whole concept of a shower should be considered greedy then. Think about it, it's called a shower because you are throwing a party for people to "shower" you with presents.

 Everyone gets excited to "shower" you with gifts because they WANT to help out and get you what you want and need for the baby. Who ever thinks it's tacky or not right to ask for a book are the real greed mongers because they are too stingy and selfish to spend $4.99 on a book for their friend's/family member's child.

 I think everyone is missing the point of the shower.... I think it's a great idea, especially since it is obviously NOT mandatory. For my shower, we added a raffle drawing for everyone who did bring a book and the person who won the raffle got a prize. It made another shower game out of it all.

 
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