Totally agree with all of this. A friend of mine had a fairly difficult pregnancy (nothing wrong with baby, just stubborn baby, never got past morning sickness, lots of swelling, etc). She called me when she went into labour... 11 days ago. And I haven't heard from her since! I have been worried sick that something happened, something went wrong, she's not okay, baby is not okay, etc. My imagination is totally running away with it and I'm terrified to call her house and disturb something. I have no reason to think anything is wrong, except for the fact that I haven't heard anything since, "I'm just bored at the hospital, waiting to dilate more than 1cm, wearing mesh panties and giant pad."
The only thing I can think to keep me grounded is that we spoke a week before and had agreed that neither of us wanted visitors until we were at home and ready for them and how relieving it was to share those feelings, guilt free. We agreed that we wouldn't get in touch until we were 100% ready for a visit. But you can't just call and say you're in labour and not say you had the baby, you're going home, etc. At first I thought maybe she had a c-section and was going to be there for 5-7 days (her labour seemed to be progressing VERY slowly when I talked to her). But then those days passed. And I thought her husband would AT LEAST call me or send me a quick email (H was in charge of notifications) saying all was well. BUT NOTHING!!!! I have even... and I can't believe I'm admitting this, checked the darn obituaries for the worst! How awful is that?
This kind of thing never, EVER would have eaten at my like this before.
Seeing my irrational fear in text has a) made me feel like an absolute moron, and b) inspired me to send a quick email for an update.