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03-08-2012 at 2:41 PM
Calliopi
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Should we try again?

I'm not sure what board to post on but I'm 40 and have had 3 miscarriages over the last couple years.  I have a 4 yr old dd and wondering if I should count my blessings and be happy.  I feel like it's now or never if we are going to try.  My miscarriages all ended up in d and c's which I don't think I could handle another.  I'm also nervous about my age affecting the chance of having multiples or birth defects.  Would you try again?

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03-08-2012 at 2:53 PM
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that is such a personal question because its definitely different for everyone.  If you are certain you want another child, try again but see a fertility doc.  If you don't think you can handle another m/c then it may be time to count the blessings you already have.  I am sorry this has been such a hard road for you, loss of a child/children is absolutely emotionally scarring. 

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03-08-2012 at 3:02 PM
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Like PP said, only you can answer that, but if you would LIKE another child, GO FOR IT!  Maybe find a doctor that can help figure out if there is a reason the MS are happening.

Wishing you strength and clarity!

 


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03-08-2012 at 3:09 PM
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Its a very personal decision and whatever you decide, I wish you luckSmile

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03-08-2012 at 3:14 PM
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jessandandy09:
that is such a personal question because its definitely different for everyone.  If you are certain you want another child, try again but see a fertility doc.  If you don't think you can handle another m/c then it may be time to count the blessings you already have.  I am sorry this has been such a hard road for you, loss of a child/children is absolutely emotionally scarring. 

This.  I'm so sorry for your losses, I know from personal experience how heartbreaking it is.  I hope you find peace with whatever path you choose.  


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03-08-2012 at 8:14 PM
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I am 43 and will turn 44 3 mos after LO is born. We had 3 m/c (chemical pregnancies and blighted ovums) and had given up. This baby was (still is :-) a surprise. I truly expected another heartbreak and was mad about it. 34 weeks in, I'm still nervous but they tell me LO is healthy. It can happen.  Good luck with whatever you choose.

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03-10-2012 at 10:58 AM
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racampbell1:

jessandandy09:
that is such a personal question because its definitely different for everyone.  If you are certain you want another child, try again but see a fertility doc.  If you don't think you can handle another m/c then it may be time to count the blessings you already have.  I am sorry this has been such a hard road for you, loss of a child/children is absolutely emotionally scarring. 

This.  I'm so sorry for your losses, I know from personal experience how heartbreaking it is.  I hope you find peace with whatever path you choose.  

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