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05-01-2012 at 6:25 AM
shanie33
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Telling friends/family?

Just curious when you started telling other people about your pregnancy?  I am itching for people to know since we have been trying for a year!

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05-01-2012 at 6:56 AM
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We told our families last night because we definitely want them to know if something happens. We'll probably tell our friends after my appointment. We personally decided not to wait until the end of 1st tri. 
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05-01-2012 at 6:59 AM
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I'm 7 wks.  We told our families over the weekend and one of my friends knows. 

 
05-01-2012 at 7:00 AM
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We told immediate family almost immediately, extended family after our first u/s, and made it public with friends and Facebook at 14 weeks.

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05-01-2012 at 7:06 AM
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We plan on telling our families on Mother's Day. I will be just over 6 weeks. We told our best friends over the weekend, and everyone else will fall behind some time after Mother's Day weekend.

Last time we told our best friends and our families early, like 8-10 weeks & everyone else waited until after 13 weeks. I'm not doing all that this time.

Really it comes down to who you are okay with sitting down and telling something went wrong if it comes to that. Who would be your support system? Do whatever makes you feel comfortable & enjoy the ride!
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05-01-2012 at 7:34 AM
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We told our parents right away, after going to the first u/s told a couple more family memebers, but not announcing it until 12-14 weeks!
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05-01-2012 at 7:49 AM
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Everyone knew right away. Some people I did not even tell. I believe they got word of me having to go 2 hours away to my High Risk OBGYN every week. DisturbinglyConfused I actually had some unwanted comments about my pregnancy early. had someone say that they figured I would miss carry because of the stress that I was under and my diabetes, but with gods help. I didnt and my little one is healthy Smile. personally I would only tell close family members. The rest I would wait till I was 14 weeks.
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05-01-2012 at 7:56 AM
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Last time we told friends and family right away.  We're only waiting a few weeks this time.  I think it will be a nice Mother's Day surprise.
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05-01-2012 at 8:05 AM
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We shared it with immediate friends and family around 7 weeks, shortly after we found out.  I know a lot of people like to wait, but we figure if something were to happen to the pregnancy, that's more people who can be there for us.  We waited until after our first appointment to announce to others and on FB.  It's mostly a personal choice.  I don't think there's a right or wrong way to handle it.  
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05-01-2012 at 8:11 AM
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Last time we told close friends and family after the first appointment at about 10 weeks.  I told work at 14 weeks, and announced on Facebook at 28 weeks.

I will do the same this time.  I think the only thing I am doing differently is last time I told my BFF about it right away and she was completely awful on spilling the beans to the wrong people at the wrong time.  So this time I am not telling her until I have told everyone else (we are no longer BFFs, not because of this but multiple other reasons.)
 
05-01-2012 at 8:19 AM
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I am planning on telling my mom tonight for an early Mothers Day dinner and DHs mom on Mothers Day.  We bought them each a card for "grandma" from Baby :)

I couldnt hold it in and told my sister yesterday and one of my friends today.  I guess that is why this question came up.  I dont want to jump the gun but I would need their support if something happened. 


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05-01-2012 at 8:23 AM
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Haven't told anyone yet.  Might not be until Father's day when we will see the in-laws
 
05-01-2012 at 10:08 AM
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I told my sister immidiately but the rest of the family will be told after my first OB appt at 9 weeks and friends will be told after 12th week.
 
05-01-2012 at 11:20 AM
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We have only told our parents so far and I have told 1 friend. 

We recently had a loss so we were a little slower to announce this time around.  Previously we had told people very early on.

Whenever you are comfortable telling is up to you. 

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05-01-2012 at 1:24 PM
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We've told people intermittently. Our best friends figured it out at 5w due to a nasty bruise on my arm where the phlebotomist epically failed to find my veins for my first beta draw. We told DH's parents at 6w, our other good friends at 7w, and my parents at nearly 9w (would have told them sooner but it was the first weekend we could get down to my hometown to tell them in person). Last week we started telling slightly more extended friends and I expect we'll tell the world once we hear the heartbeat in two weeks at our 12w appointment.

If it was up to DH alone, we probably still wouldn't have told anybody but I'm just so excited I can't contain myself, especially around my good friends Embarrassed
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05-01-2012 at 4:31 PM
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I'll be 14w tmrw and so far, only our parents and sis-in-law knows, plus DH's uncle/aunt (only because MIL told them despite our strict instructions not to tell).

Extended family and all our friends will NOT be told until at least 16w or 18w. 

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05-01-2012 at 5:01 PM
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Yes I am with you.  My DH wanted to tell people the first day we found out and continues to attempt to "spread the word."  However we have decided to wait until at least June to inform family and then after Father's Day or even July inform friends and work.

I just don't want to jump the gun and would like to enjoy my special moment with my DH for now.  But everyone is different and if you feel comfortable providing your information, then do so; we just choose not to.
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05-01-2012 at 7:17 PM
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We are telling our families on Mother' day also.  I have only let 3 close friends know, and they are there more for support since they all have had children.  I think we will tell everyone else once we are out of the 1st trimester.
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05-02-2012 at 12:16 PM
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Told my parents at about 8 weeks because I've been pretty sick and need help with our 1 1/2 year old.  We are going to tell the rest of the family and friends on or after Memorial Day (be about 13 weeks).  Our daughter has a cute little 'Big Sister' shirt to wear :)
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05-02-2012 at 3:04 PM
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05-05-2012 at 2:01 PM
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I started the day after I found out with my second one. With my first one it was a bit more difficult because I was 19 and being too chicken to tell my mom. I was still under her roof and her rules so even though I was over 18 I felt horrible. But with my second one I was married and out of my parents house so I didn't hold back. Plus holding secrets in causes some major stress. At least for me it does.
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05-06-2012 at 1:46 PM
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both times i shared with family and a few close friends as soon as soon as i found out...i've heard alot of mommies say that they want to wait until their out of the miscarriage time frame, but i figured it that happened i would want/need the support and prayers of my family and friends-so my DH and i literally called everyone right after we found out :)
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05-07-2012 at 5:24 PM
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i told everyone the moment i found out im pregnant..:) im so excited what can i do..hahaha!
 
05-07-2012 at 6:22 PM
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I am very early on (four weeks), but we told our respective best friends and will tell our parents on Mother's Day.  I know it is super early, but we lost a pregnancy two years ago (at 9 weeks) and it was devastating to have to tell our families such sad news.  

Extended circles still won't find out until the 12 week mark. :)



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05-08-2012 at 12:35 PM
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My husband and i are going to wait until after the 1st trimester. With our 1st pregnancy we told EVERYONE the day we took the test and it was positive. Unfortunately i had a miscarriage @ 8 weeks, it was good having the support of those who knew and definitely helped us emotionally. But this time i don't want to get to excited and have everyone else excited then be let down again.

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05-08-2012 at 12:36 PM
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I'm 7 weeks. We told my sister this past weekend, and will tell our parents on Mother's Day weekend.

Our families are wonderful but can be really "involved" if you know what I mean. We decided to just enjoy the news the two of us the first few weeks.

We'll tell close friends (our wedding party!) around 10 weeks, and share it with the world around 13/14 weeks I think.

 
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05-09-2012 at 12:21 AM
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Last time we waited until after our first appointment. However, we didn't see everyone all the time then. Now that our son is so involved in everyone's lives, it's a little harder. We told my parents the day I tested, my husband's mom tonight and we're telling his dad and step-mom tomorrow. As for friends, we'll hold off but people are already chomping at the bit with questions and curious behavior. I've had friends already tell me "Something's different" about me. And going to a wedding and having not one single beer isn't typical of me so my friends will be onto me this weekend. We'll see how it goes.
 
05-09-2012 at 9:56 AM
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We found out right at four weeks, told both our parents at five weeks, told siblings, cousins, and grandparents at six, and yesterday I started bleeding (heavily) and wish we'd only told our parents.  I go in tomorrow morning to have my blood drawn again.  I have no idea what to expect, but I don't want to have to call all the cousins and grandparents, etc....  Find it more than a little ironic that I started bleeding the very morning that we finished telling everyone.  Needless to say, I think I am going to try to wait a little longer next time, but it's just so hard.  How it is my mother-in-law asks me everytime she sees me..which thankfully isn't too super often...
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05-09-2012 at 8:32 PM
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I want to wait until after our 1st appointment at the 8 week mark then reveal a few days later for Father's day. But I'm an ICU RN and I'm afraid I'll have to tell at work before that time. I wish I could just tell family until the 12th week. but I don't see it possible due to my job. Frustrating to me. And if I had to reveal at work it would have to be on the spot and I'm afraid it'll make it out to FB, etc before I could call my family. Some might think I am being silly worrying about it like this, but it's our first pregnancy and I want to just wait before family gets all work up. We've been married for 10 months and we've haven't admitted to TTC and MIL has already made comments that we should wait, etc. (even though she told me on my bday 5 months ago that I'm getting older and so are my baby making years)

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05-10-2012 at 4:19 PM
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Two of my friends knew the day/day after we found out, and my immediate family will know this weekend, I'll be just about 5 weeks.
We're planning on telling some extended family/friend a little later.. probably by 12 weeks.

Facebook/public after 12 weeks.
I personally cannot WAIT and I am bursting at the seams to tell everyone! :) 
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