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11-01-2012 at 3:43 PM
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Baby Shower Save the Date?

We aren't going to have my shower until Jan 13, but I was thinking about letting everyone know where we're registered at before Black Friday shopping so they could (hopefully) save some money.  How tacky do y'all think it would be to do a sort of Save-the-Date? Or should we just create a Facebook event or text/call people? Or should we just assume that people will buy the gifts when they want to? 
 
11-01-2012 at 3:48 PM
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People probably aren't going to be buying you gifts months in advance. I would just have you hostess put where you are registered in the invite.

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11-01-2012 at 3:55 PM
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I say this truly not trying to sound witchy -  a baby shower is not a wedding so they don't warrant Save the Dates.  People will buy gifts probably right before your shower and (again, no offense), your shower gift will likely not be on their Black Friday shopping lists - except for maybe grandmothers' or close family member's lists, in which case, they would probably ask you what you need and/or if you are registered. I would have your shower host send a paper invitation or Evite (if you prefer the electronic method) about 3-4 weeks before your shower date.

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11-01-2012 at 4:02 PM
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 Your intentions are good (saving people money), but I wouldn't do it.

 A save the date for a shower seems a little over the top.  It's not like a wedding.

 


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11-01-2012 at 4:02 PM
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Please don't send out a save the date or make a FB event. If you have to ask how tacky something is, odds are it shouldn't be done.

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11-01-2012 at 4:03 PM
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A baby shower isn't an event that calls for a save the date so assume that people will buy gifts when they want to. Most probably won't purchase anything until the week of, if not later.

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11-01-2012 at 4:07 PM
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I CP'd my response from your 2nd Tri post: I wouldn't.  Save the dates are for big events, like weddings, not baby showers.  I definitely would think a FB event/text/phone call would be extremely tacky.  

Registries are pretty common and easy to find.  If someone is that concerned about shopping sales for your baby shower, they will know what to do.  Most people don't shop registries anyway.   

Shower invitations should be sent 3-4 weeks in advance, but that's something that your hostess should handle anyway. 

ETA: adding registry info to a save the date or texting/calling/FBing people with your registry information is going to come off as extremely gift grabby, even though you are doing it under the guise of saving them money. 


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11-01-2012 at 4:07 PM
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Thank y'all for your input! I was having a hard time trying to decide what to do so I definitely needed advice.
 
11-01-2012 at 6:26 PM
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A baby shower is NOT a wedding.


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11-01-2012 at 9:15 PM
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Actually I sent Save The Date info via email to the people that would have to travel for my shower in case they wanted to make travel arrangements, etc.  Out of about 80 people I probably sent about 20 (via email).  I would not send or do them just so people could pick up things on Black Friday.  The people that are really close to you (mom, MIL, sister, sister-in-law, etc) will most likely know when your shower is so if they want to look for deals at that time then they can. 
 
11-02-2012 at 9:52 AM
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It is fine to send out a save the date so people know when the shower will be but the majority of people buy things for shower 1-2 days in advance. I don't think anyone will shop for your shower on Black Friday. Honestly - I NEVER EVER EVER shop on black Friday. I don't think the deals are that great and the mobs of people that are out make it completely not worth it.

 


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11-02-2012 at 10:36 AM
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jfresh:
Please don't send out a save the date or make a FB event. If you have to ask how tacky something is, odds are it shouldn't be done.

Absolutely this. 


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11-03-2012 at 11:21 AM
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Your intentions are honorable but delivery is not. 

People know you're pregnant, right?  They probably know you're having a shower.  It's 2012 and I'm sure they know about registries.  If your friends/family care that much about saving money, they'll put the two together and do it on their own. 

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11-05-2012 at 2:19 PM
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BallSox:
Your intentions are honorable but delivery is not. 

People know you're pregnant, right?  They probably know you're having a shower.  It's 2012 and I'm sure they know about registries.  If your friends/family care that much about saving money, they'll put the two together and do it on their own. 

This. 

Also, I second other PPs suggestion of "if you have to ask..." in this situation and in general. 


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