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11-05-2012 at 6:17 PM
june1213
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Does The anxiety ever stop?

Hi, finally got my BFP after TTC for 6 years! Its still so unreal to me and totally unexpected we had gone to the fertility clinic and went through a bunch of tests last year and they didn't find anything wrong doctor suggested that sometimes being overweight messes with trying to have a baby (I was 310 pounds). He gave me a prescription for chlomidd but i decided I was not going to use it, I was going to loose the weight first and then if that didn't work then I will try chlomidd.

Long story short I am down 100 pounds and pregnant, the thing is I am finding it very difficult to just relax and enjoy it. I found out i was pregnant while i was on holiday and freaked out cos I was having really bad cramps and spotting so I rushed to ER they did a blood test it came back positive they did an internal ultrasound i actually saw my baby and heard its heart beat at 6 weeks and 3 days it was an awesome feeling.

I am back home now, had more spotting so freaked out again went to see my GP she used the Doppler but couldn't detect a heartbeat but she said that was normal as I was only 8 weeks and sometimes she cant pick a heartbeat with the Doppler until about 12 weeks. she sent me for an internal ultrasound tomorrow to make sure everything is okay, but I am seriously freaking out I went out today and bought 2 test kits and it still shows positive, waiting till tomorrow to know is really killing me but now I wonder even when everything turns out okay tomorrow will i stop worrying?  Will the anxiety ever stop? Am I feeling this way because it took me such a long time to conceive or is there anybody out there feeling the same?


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11-05-2012 at 6:41 PM
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I'm lurking in 1st tri.  First, congrats for losing 100 lbs, that's something to be very proud of.  I just wanted to tell you that when I was pregnant with DD my dr. had a hard time finding her heartbeat the whole time with the doppler.  There was never a problem, she just liked to hide from the doppler, and you're still early enough that it would be especially hard to find it with the doppler.  Either way, good luck tommorw.

And to answer your question:  nope, the anxiety never stops.  I remember saying something similar to one of my friends when I was in my 1st trimester and she told me that her daughter was a year and a half and she still worries all the time about her.  She was totally right.  You'll always worry about the saftey of your baby, no matter how teeny or big.  :-)

11-05-2012 at 7:01 PM
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Wow what an accomplishment to lose 100 lbs congratulations on that first. Second, CONGRATS on being prego! I'm only 1 week behind you so I'm big really sure of how the 1st trimester goes but I will say a prayer for you that all is well :
11-06-2012 at 3:47 AM
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Congratulations! I hope everything went well. Answering your question, I think almost every woman who wants her baby will feel like this. I just realized I am pregnant last week and it was not planned at all, I am 24 and have the perfect job, I am not even married yet and our wedding was supposed to be next year in Sept.

 But still, now I feel the anxiety too, I am 8 weeks and I am dying to get to 12 just to be on the safer side. I feel like if I was trying to get pregnant for years and years and FINALLY I am... however that's absolutely not the situation haha.

 I guess we'll have to cope with the anxiety :) 


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11-06-2012 at 5:46 AM
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Congrats on your weight loss, that's wonderful, and again on your long awaited pregnancy! Truthfully, you I don't think you ever really stop worrying. However, I think my nerves are starting to calm down a little bit as I come up on 10 weeks, and I bet [hopefully] more after 1st tri is over. Try to put the worry to the back of your mind and enjoy every minute of this time that you can. I've heard PgAL girls say, "Today I am pregnant, and I love my baby.". I think this is a beautiful [and wise] outlook to have. It has certainly helped me maintain positivity after having a c/p in July. GL to you, hope you hear great news at your appt!
11-06-2012 at 7:34 AM
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Well, I have to say, your story and my story are  A LOT alike.  My DH and I were married about 5 1/2 years ago.  We decided then that we were ready to start trying.  But it didn't happen.  I, like you, was over weight, and decided that I needed to loose weight before having a baby, and hopefully that would make it easier to get pregnant.   Well, I lost just shy of 100lbs as well!  My DH actually had surgery on his knee after getting hurt at work. While at the surgery center, I picked up some kind of bug (the urgent care station was there as well).  I was sick for 2 weeks, when the dr's finally gave me some antibotics.  That with the fact the dr had switched my b/c as I was having a period for 2 weeks, was all that was needed.  I missed my period on a sunday, so monday, I said to myself "time to get up and get my hopes shattered".  I took a test, and it was positive.  I went and bought more, they were positive.  I still didn't believe it, so I asked the dr to order a blood test.  POSITIVE.  I figure I am about 8-9wks along now.  My first appointment isn't until the day before Thanksgiving, but I tell the hubby all the time, other than a few minor effects, I don't feel pregnant.  I am very tired, breast sore and enlarging (quickly) and pregnancy brain (boy have I had some dosies).  

For the first 2 weeks or more of finding out, I wouldn't sleep, I couldn't do anything without thinking about the baby.  I was freaking out, thinking I would be one of the women that would have a miscarriage for no reason.  I cut myself off of reading those posts quickly!  Instead of worrying about it, I just went to thinking about things like, the baby shower, and what life will be like when the baby is born.  I still feel the anxiety, but it is mostly good now, that I can't wait to hold this little peanut in my hands.  I can now go to sleep decently (actually last night, I went to bed at 8:30, woke up at 12am, stayed up til 1:20, then went back to bed til 8am!) I have told most of my immediate family, so I can have support, and after my first appt, we are planning on telling everyone else.  

So in short, no and yes.  It probably wont go away, but it should defiantly calm down enough that you can deal with it, and make sure you do so in a positive way! 


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11-06-2012 at 7:35 AM
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Unfortunately, I don't think the anxiety ever goes away. Even after the baby is born, there are still plenty of things to worry about.

I know easier said than done, but try to enjoy it. Just saying that makes me a dirty hypocrite, though :)

Hang in there.


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11-06-2012 at 10:55 AM
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.wow.  What a great question!  I'm about midway through the first trimester and I can't stop worrying every second about miscarrying.  I don't have a lot of advice, but what I do have hopefully isn't unwelcome.  I pray a lot...a lot, a lot!  :)  I ask Him to help me to remember that this is His blessing to me and my husband and that it's in His hands.  And also to remember that every single minute of every day that I do have this little one inside me, is truly a blessing!  I will be devastated if a m/c happens, but until that happens, I'm determined to be happy about this blessing.

Also, on a more practical note:  the many frequent times I'm running to the bathroom I remind myself that 'no blood = healthy baby.'  It may be entirely too simplistic, but it helps me to remember that I will know when a m/c happens and until that time -- relax!! 

:)  I hope this helps even a little. Take care!!

 
11-06-2012 at 11:26 AM
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jerseygirl81:

Unfortunately, I don't think the anxiety ever goes away. Even after the baby is born, there are still plenty of things to worry about.

I know easier said than done, but try to enjoy it. Just saying that makes me a dirty hypocrite, though :)

Hang in there.

This.  My kid is two and I still have anxiety.

Your story is awesome, I'm so happy for your BFP and congrats on the weight loss.  That's amazing.

And you learn to manage the worry.  I had a loss before DS so my whole pregnancy with him I was waiting for the other shoe to drop.  It never did and I delivered a healthy 9-lb boy who's now 2 and the love of my life!  I still have to turn off the news sometimes, and even stories I see on TB cause me to start thinking of all the what-ifs that are involved with being pregnant or a parent. 

But you do learn to just be happy that things are going well today and embrace the good moments while hoping that you and your baby/child continue to stay happy, healthy, and safe!

Best wishes to you.

 


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