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11-06-2012 at 9:52 AM
PeonyPumps
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How is your H doing in prep for baby?

My H hurt his back this weekend, of course, because we were going to do a ton of baby stuff, like get the car seats cleaned and installed, clean the carpets, carry up bins of clothing and bassinet from our basement to our 2nd floor, etc.  You know, all stuff I can't do by myself.  Thankfully he is feeling a little better today and went to work, so hopefully next weekend we'll be able to get some things done.  

He does, however, seem to have the opinion that we have tons of time left.  I'm mid 32 weeks, and DS came a week early, so I know time is somewhat limited.  I'm feeling just how much we have left do to.  

How are your H's/SO's doing?  Are they feeling the need to get things done or are they feeling like my H and thinking we have a ton of time left? 


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11-06-2012 at 9:59 AM
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DH has been wonderful and we have almost everything ready at this point.  Except for whatever reason, he keeps putting off bringing the bassinet!  It's been at his parent's house for over a month.  He swears it won't fit in the car, but I have made miracles happen so far with fitting furniture in there and I honestly think it will.  Either way, it's getting annoying.  

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11-06-2012 at 10:01 AM
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I made DH a list of things that need to be done around 32 weeks knowing that he will probably start them this weekend, I'll be 36 weeks then.

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11-06-2012 at 10:02 AM
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My DH has his moments haha.  There are times where he gets into the big nesting phase of making sure everything is all done and ready to go in case I go in early or because I am getting closer and closer....then some days he just like "Oh it will get done" It sometimes irritates me, but I know he works hard and long hours so I try to not make it bother me.

hopefully you get things done soon! :D 


 
11-06-2012 at 10:05 AM
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My DH is on a cleaning/organizing/purging rampage. I think his nesting instincts are stronger than mine :) This weekend we donated a ton of stuff from the basement to make way for baby stuff storage and the nursery is well on it's way to looking like a real nursery. I know we have some time left, but I feel like with the holidays coming up time will fly, so it's good to be getting some of this out of the way now...especially on rainy saturday afternoons.
11-06-2012 at 10:07 AM
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I keep telling DH we need to hurry up and finish everything, like the whole house clean he wants to do, but he doesn't seem to be in any rush. But then, he tells me he's fairly certain I'll deliver at about 37 and a half weeks, which is in two weeks! I've got no reason to think this will happen, but seeing as he's so convinced, you'd think he'd be going nuts!
 
11-06-2012 at 10:12 AM
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11-06-2012 at 10:12 AM
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My DH has been amazing.  He has helped me do whatever I've asked him in order to get ready for baby.  I'm almost 38 weeks now and we got the last few things done over the weekend.  Now we can both relax until our little one arrives!

With you being 32 weeks, you still do have time, but I completely understand just wanting things to be done so you don't have to worry about them anymore!


 
11-06-2012 at 10:14 AM
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Honestly DH hasn't really done jack crap to help.  Anything that's gotten done has been done by me (painting, digging boxes out from the basement, laundry, etc).

I've pretty much given up on trying to get him to help.

11-06-2012 at 10:27 AM
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There isn't much for us to do right now, because we are moving mid-December. If I tell DH we need to do something, he does it, but I don't feel like he feels the same urgency that I do. I guess it's good that one of us is calm?  


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11-06-2012 at 10:46 AM
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RockyTopVols:
I rule. 

Lol.  Want to call my H & give him some motivation? 


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11-06-2012 at 10:52 AM
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PeonyPumps:

He does, however, seem to have the opinion that we have tons of time left. 

I'm the one in my relationship who keeps thinking that we still have tons of time. We don't have a ton to do and we have everything we'd need to survive if she showed up tomorrow. DH is the one who keeps reminding me we should sign up for the hospital tour/infant care class. I think because I'm so laid back about it DH is fairly relaxed about her coming too which works well for us.

11-06-2012 at 10:55 AM
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RockyTopVols:
I rule. 

Lol.  Want to call my H & give him some motivation? 

Haha! Not sure what I could say to him to motivate him since he already has a LO! My motivation is the fact that there is now someone who depends on me (well, soon). I can't wait to meet and hold my daughter. I want to provide a life for her that I didn't have (stable household). And I want my wife to enjoy this time, not stress out about it.

Her pregnancy was def not planned. We were on the fence about ever having kids to be honest. We had plans for lavish trips, motorcycles, boats, summer homes, etc. This came to a HUGE surprise to us since we were actively using BC. (Long story short: antibiotics can make BCP less effective according to her OB... Darn tooth infection!).

Immediately, none of those things even matter anymore. I could care less if I ever buy the motorcycle I wanted or the boat. I now know 100% that my calling in life is to be a father to my daughter. I have always felt like something was missing and I spent tons of time analyzing my career decisions, buying stupid things to fill a missing void. I now feel like my life has purpose and direction. 

My daughter isn't even here yet and I love her more than life itself.  


 
11-06-2012 at 10:59 AM
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The boys room isn't even painted yet.  My husband is under the impression that he can sleep as much as possible, get the room finished a few days before the boys C-Section and  be well rested for what is to come.  I asked him can I have some of what he is smoking.. it obviously must be good.. I told him the boys can come at anytime after 36 weeks which is next week... he said we will be fine.

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11-06-2012 at 11:00 AM
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DH has told me countless times to let him know what I need him to do and he'll do it, but he hasn't specifically said "we need to make sure and do_________". His main concern is getting the yard ready for winter and wrapping up any other projects he has started but hasn't yet finished (it's like he's afraid that once LO arrives he'll never have time to work in the garage or the yard again). He has been helpful in carrying or moving things for me, and helping me assemble stuff, but with both of us being FTP, he's not sure what exactly needs to be done so he's deferring to me because he knows I have a better grasp on the tasks at hand than he does.

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11-06-2012 at 11:03 AM
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RockyTopVols:
PeonyPumps:

RockyTopVols:
I rule. 

Lol.  Want to call my H & give him some motivation? 

Haha! Not sure what I could say to him to motivate him since he already has a LO! My motivation is the fact that there is now someone who depends on me (well, soon). I can't wait to meet and hold my daughter. I want to provide a life for her that I didn't have (stable household). And I want my wife to enjoy this time, not stress out about it.

Her pregnancy was def not planned. We were on the fence about ever having kids to be honest. We had plans for lavish trips, motorcycles, boats, summer homes, etc. This came to a HUGE surprise to us since we were actively using BC. (Long story short: antibiotics can make BCP less effective according to her OB... Darn tooth infection!).

Immediately, none of those things even matter anymore. I could care less if I ever buy the motorcycle I wanted or the boat. I now know 100% that my calling in life is to be a father to my daughter. I have always felt like something was missing and I spent tons of time analyzing my career decisions, buying stupid things to fill a missing void. I now feel like my life has purpose and direction. 

My daughter isn't even here yet and I love her more than life itself.  

I think that already having another LO is part of why he isn't as pressed to get things done.  He now knows that everything will get done eventually :)

It is a HUGE change to become a parent, and I completely agree with you on that.  There were MANY things I did prior to having children that I now look back on and think were so silly.  I wish I would have spent less, saved more, etc.  Being a parent is the BEST thing I've ever done, and while it is challenging at times, there is nothing better than being with my son.  

I'd have a million kids if we had the money and I wasn't scared my body would fall apart.  :) 


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11-06-2012 at 11:07 AM
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PeonyPumps:

I'd have a million kids if we had the money and I wasn't scared my body would fall apart.  :) 

I would be scared to see what someones body would look like after a million kids!

But I also agree- looking back, the things I stressed over and spent my money on were ridiculous.

I have painted the room, built the crib, built the book shelf, hung some decals, and just ordered some pictures to hang, some wooden letters, etc etc. Time is going by so fast and I am freaking out we won't have everything done in time lol.

I can see by already going through this process he may not be as Gung Ho this time around. Especially since he has experience with it all ha.


 
11-06-2012 at 11:16 AM
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DH had surgery on his foot and has been on crutches for the past 6 weeks.  I've pretty much been on my own since there isn't anything he can really carry either.  Thankfully all of the baby stuff was stored upstairs in our attic alcoves so I could crawl in and get them out.  He did put the crib together the night before his surgery.  He is getting better and should be off crutches this week, but is still in a walking boot cast and still can't do too much.  But I really think we are pretty much set anyways.  This baby just has to GET OUT!!!!!

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11-06-2012 at 11:17 AM
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PeonyPumps:

I'd have a million kids if we had the money and I wasn't scared my body would fall apart.  :) 

I would be scared to see what someones body would look like after a million kids!

But I also agree- looking back, the things I stressed over and spent my money on were ridiculous.

I have painted the room, built the crib, built the book shelf, hung some decals, and just ordered some pictures to hang, some wooden letters, etc etc. Time is going by so fast and I am freaking out we won't have everything done in time lol.

I can see by already going through this process he may not be as Gung Ho this time around. Especially since he has experience with it all ha.

Yes, he is wonderful but he keeps reminding me that we won't even use bottles for a few months until I go back to work, that we won't use the nursery for several months either, etc.  So, he knows all the real timelines now ;) 


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11-06-2012 at 12:06 PM
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DH and I have both been on nesting hold until after our shower this weekend. I'm hoping once we know what items we received and what we still need we can get into full getting ready for baby mode.

However, DH has been a little more helpful than usual when it comes to chores, etc around the house. He doesn't always indicate the action but if I ask him to do something, he will and won't complain. 

11-06-2012 at 12:19 PM
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He is spending all our money on things the baby doesn't really need and then complaining when I make him clean. He did hire MIL to help me with baby things and cleaning though. So that is always a plus. I want to be ready by 37 weeks. DH keeps saying we have X amount of weeks, we have plenty of time. We really don't. Men.

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11-06-2012 at 1:47 PM
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My husband is amazing. He is cleaning the house in prep for people to come visit when the babies get here, putting all the furniture together, painting, organizing, washing all the clothes/blankets/sheets. He installed the car seats last week into both cars and on top of that has been making amazing meals to freeze so when we get home and are sleep deprived and busy with babies we can still have good food and not just takeout all the time (although I'm sure that will happen frequently too). He has also helped me pack my hospital bag. He recommended packing things I wouldn't have thought of but realized I should probably have.

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11-06-2012 at 2:34 PM
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My H does whatever I say, I'm totally in charge of our household. I'm very lucky Smile

 
11-06-2012 at 2:53 PM
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Mine goes on organizing sprees so I don't bother him too much.  He actually gets more done and faster, than I do!  The garage (I know, nothing to do w/ a baby coming but still was needed) is clean and very organized after this past weekend. He then reorganized our kitchen cupboards yesterday...weird.  I feel that I will not be much help after a couple weeks due to increased swelling so I hope we can get all the little projects done soon!  

We need to paint the nursery armoire, fix the electricity in the nursery (breaker keeps going...so that's a scary hazard!)  and still put away our patio furniture/summer junk still left out there!  


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11-06-2012 at 3:23 PM
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PeonyPumps:

My H hurt his back this weekend, of course, because we were going to do a ton of baby stuff, like get the car seats cleaned and installed, clean the carpets, carry up bins of clothing and bassinet from our basement to our 2nd floor, etc.  You know, all stuff I can't do by myself.  Thankfully he is feeling a little better today and went to work, so hopefully next weekend we'll be able to get some things done.  

He does, however, seem to have the opinion that we have tons of time left.  I'm mid 32 weeks, and DS came a week early, so I know time is somewhat limited.  I'm feeling just how much we have left do to.  

How are your H's/SO's doing?  Are they feeling the need to get things done or are they feeling like my H and thinking we have a ton of time left? 

We are the opposite, I am still in denial that we only have 3-4 weeks left and DH is like, um we still have tons to do, including pick names.  I said, we have a car seat, a cradle, clothes, diapers, wipes, my boobs (even bottles for backup).  That's all we need for now, I can clean, organize, etc. after the baby gets here and I am on maternity leave.  He just sighs, he wants everything "ready" now and tells me if I don't pack the bag, he will. 

 

 
11-06-2012 at 7:24 PM
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11-06-2012 at 8:18 PM
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DH put the crib together last weekend.  Plan to do car seat, stroller and swing this weekend.  I washed all baby's clothes and put away in her dresser.  I guess we are halfway there.  Not overly worried.
 
11-06-2012 at 10:47 PM
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Most of what I ask him to do is met with an eye roll, so I've done most things myself. MIL and I were in the middle of constructing a pack n play when he came home one day last week, we were a bit confused, and she asked him to come take a look. "I don't know anything about that stuff", he said and sat down in front of the tv. I said to her, "you think just because he has a penis, he knows more than we do? He doesn't know anything!"
If she really does come to "help" after baby comes, she is really going to see how useless he is. I blame her, for coddling him.

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My husband is doing pretty well as long as I keep reminding him of the things that need to be done.  We spent this morning working on his honey-do list and there is really only one more thing that I absolutely need him to do (aside from carrying things around, but this was putting together shelves and putting up curtains).  

He knows there are things left to be done, but relies on me to tell him when we should/need to do them, which is pretty typical of him anyways.  He does them when the time comes without complaint, but I usually have to say, "hey, let's get this or that done this weekend, ok?" before it gets done.

At this point, I am starting to go through clothes, and there are a few more things to buy, but we are really just about done.  There are other NBR things I would like to get done before she gets here, but if they don't, that's okay too. 



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