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11-06-2012 at 11:17 AM
Km672
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Multiple beta threads updates

Maybe I am the only one feeling this way but seeing multiple posts with betas, ultrasounds, updates and I'm moving onto PAIF posts can be hurtful.
I don't think there are any 'rules' about it, but what do people think about posting this info under their original thread? That way we can easily view and support fellow bumpies progress without the multiple threads.
Again, I hope for nothing but success for all of us and I am truly excited to see most women on this board are successful. However, I am only speaking for myself, but it is also very difficult for me to see Beta 1, 2 3, ultrasound results, Moving onto PAIF, ect.
This is especially hard for me after a failed cycle because I feel like I would be having exciting ultrasounds and moving onto PAIF if my cycle hadn't failed.
Not a big deal to me either way, it's just been on my mind lately and I wasn't sure what others thoughts were.
Good luck ladies!!
Me (31) DOR/ MH (34) azoo/high DFI TTC#1 since 2009 IVF #1 cancelled dt poor response/ IVF #2 & #3: BFFN/ Natural Surprise BFP, early m/c -endometrial bx & methotrexate administered/ IVF#4:nothing to transfer/ DS IUI#1 BFN/ DS IUI#2 BFN/ IVF#5 (1st w/ DS):another BFFN/ Currently planning on DE and DS cycle Summer 2013. This has to be it- 
11-06-2012 at 11:28 AM
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I believe this is the protocol on 3T and a very good one.

http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/69122887.aspx 
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11-06-2012 at 11:34 AM
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I personally don't mind seeing the beta updates. Yes, I do get a little glum at times thinking about how my post was a BFN announcement and I'm still here struggling. But then I remember all the times that the beta posters have struggled and posted their BFNs. Not to mention the worry they have over whether they are doubling etc... We have built relationships here so they are looking to share their excitement as well as still get support over their worries.

I do see your point though. I'm not saying that I think you are wrong, I just don't feel the same way. 

Also, my one question to your proposal: will updating the old thread bump it up to the top as if it is a new thread? Or will I have to scroll back pages and pages to find their first beta post to check for an update? Cause I wouldn't like that at all...  
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Married 07/24/2010
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4/2012 DH DX with Retrograde Ejaculation
5/2012 1st IUI, 100mg Clomid, Only 1 Follie - BFN
6/2012 2nd IUI, 150mg Clomid+Menopur, 18 Follies (yikes,too many!!) and Mild OHSS - Cancelled
8/2012 Begin 1st IVF, Menopur+Bravelle+Ganirelix
8/11/2012 ER, Holy Crap we had 31 eggs!! Developed Severe OHSS - Delayed with 10 Frosties
9/2012 Begin 1st FET, Delestrogen+PIO+Crinone
9/13/2012 1st FET, 2 Beautiful Embies... 9/25/2012 Beta - BFN
10/2012 Begin 2nd FET, Delestrogen+PIO+Crinone
10/26/2012 2nd FET, 2 Beautiful Embies...11/7/2012 Beta - BFP
...1st Beta (11/7): 251...2nd Beta (11/9): 618...3rd Beta (11/15): 5,870
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11-06-2012 at 11:37 AM
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Good question, I have no idea how that would work. Just wanted to have the discussion.
Me (31) DOR/ MH (34) azoo/high DFI TTC#1 since 2009 IVF #1 cancelled dt poor response/ IVF #2 & #3: BFFN/ Natural Surprise BFP, early m/c -endometrial bx & methotrexate administered/ IVF#4:nothing to transfer/ DS IUI#1 BFN/ DS IUI#2 BFN/ IVF#5 (1st w/ DS):another BFFN/ Currently planning on DE and DS cycle Summer 2013. This has to be it- 
11-06-2012 at 11:43 AM
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I'm fairly new here, but lurked for quite a while prior to posting and I understand exactly where you are coming from, but to be honest the beta post(s) give me that hope that nothing else has....we are all very different and handle IF very differently, but personally seeing someone who has a similar diagnosis as ours post that they are pregnant is exactly what I need somedays!  If I'm not in the mood one day to see someones beta I ignore the post.

Cutie- I don't think that the posts are bounced up when updated.
* Me- 32 * DH- 32 * TTC for 4 Years
* *IUIs 1-6 BFN*
*IVF #1= BFP- M/C *FET- * *Beta#1: 69 *Beta#2:482 *Beta#3 1088
*Beta#4 28,318 * Ultrasound- 1 beautiful heartbeat
IT'S A BOY!!! MAX LIAM
 
11-06-2012 at 11:46 AM
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There is a mini-board that's missing and that's the spot between IF and PAIF.

It is very hard to post confidently on PAIF and I know that many women don't post there until after their first ultrasound or after their 3rd beta. Unfortunately there can be a no-man's land that exists in the most nervewracking time of a pregnancy - it can last a week or many many weeks. There is no good place on the bump to get support during this time.

Since I've experienced this myself, I don't have a strong opinion.

I will say this board has been different lately in having peeps post their first u/s and 3rd beta resulta. It wasn't the case when I first got here.
 
BzeetyD = 37, Mr. BzeetyD = 43 together 12/02 married 9/08
TTC #1 since 1/10
DX: Unexplained/MFI issues

Our lil' lost sparks:
5w3d loss 7/30/10 - EDD March 2011
8w loss 4/15/11 - EDD November 2011
8w3d loss 8/2/12 - EDD March 2012
4w c/p loss 10/29/12 - EDD July 2012

Long story: trying on our own + testing testing testing with 6 rounds of Clomid, more testing, injectables + TI, laparoscopy - one tube blocked, 2 IUIs with Follistim...BFNs.
RPL testing all normal, Karyotyping normal

Moving on to IVF.

IVF #1 April 2012 = BFN, IVF #2 June 2012 = BFP. U/S 7/23 = saw heartbeat but measuring behind. Follow up U/S on 7/30 - no heartbeat. D&C 8/2. Trisomy 12. IVF #3 Oct 2012 = Chemical Pregnancy

Phone consult with CCRM on 12/12/12 - ODWU 1/4/13 - both tubes clear(!) - AFC 24, AMH 3.2, FSH 9.6, LH 5.4, E2 25. DH has high frag rate but improved!
IVF #4 March 2013 CCRM. EP protocol w/ Menopur, Gonal-F & Dexamethasone. ER 3/29 & IMSI, PICSI. 43R 13M 10F 6blasts bio'd. CCS testing reveals 3 normals!!!
FET 5/31/13 of 1 4AA blast - thawed and expanded. 4dp5dt BFP.
Beta 9dp5dt = 181, 11dp5dt = 427




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11-06-2012 at 11:53 AM
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BzeetyD:

There is a mini-board that's missing and that's the spot between IF and PAIF.

It is very hard to post confidently on PAIF and I know that many women don't post there until after their first ultrasound or after their 3rd beta. Unfortunately there can be a no-man's land that exists in the most nervewracking time of a pregnancy - it can last a week or many many weeks. There is no good place on the bump to get support during this time.

Since I've experienced this myself, I don't have a strong opinion.

I will say this board has been different lately in having peeps post their first u/s and 3rd beta resulta. It wasn't the case when I first got here.
 

I totally agree with this, especially the no-mans land comment, it's hard to decide where they should post. I sometimes feel hope when I see that people are able to move on and they had success, but at the same time, this is an IF board and it stings when you're struggling and you see so many others moving on, not saying that I'm not happy for them at all, just saying it stings. I'm kind of in-between on this, not going to be a stickler and zing someone for posting a 2nd or 3rd beta or moving on post (I'll always congratulate them), but it does hurt a bit.
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11-06-2012 at 11:54 AM
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I love seeing the beta updates! Personally, they give me hope that IVF/IUI does work!

Keep posting my positive sistas!
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11-06-2012 at 11:55 AM
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asilwhite:
BzeetyD:

There is a mini-board that's missing and that's the spot between IF and PAIF.

It is very hard to post confidently on PAIF and I know that many women don't post there until after their first ultrasound or after their 3rd beta. Unfortunately there can be a no-man's land that exists in the most nervewracking time of a pregnancy - it can last a week or many many weeks. There is no good place on the bump to get support during this time.

Since I've experienced this myself, I don't have a strong opinion.

I will say this board has been different lately in having peeps post their first u/s and 3rd beta resulta. It wasn't the case when I first got here.
 

I totally agree with this, especially the no-mans land comment, it's hard to decide where they should post. I sometimes feel hope when I see that people are able to move on and they had success, but at the same time, this is an IF board and it stings when you're struggling and you see so many others moving on, not saying that I'm not happy for them at all, just saying it stings. I'm kind of in-between on this, not going to be a stickler and zing someone for posting a 2nd or 3rd beta or moving on post (I'll always congratulate them), but it does hurt a bit.

I'm in the same place as you are on this.

BzeetyD = 37, Mr. BzeetyD = 43 together 12/02 married 9/08
TTC #1 since 1/10
DX: Unexplained/MFI issues

Our lil' lost sparks:
5w3d loss 7/30/10 - EDD March 2011
8w loss 4/15/11 - EDD November 2011
8w3d loss 8/2/12 - EDD March 2012
4w c/p loss 10/29/12 - EDD July 2012

Long story: trying on our own + testing testing testing with 6 rounds of Clomid, more testing, injectables + TI, laparoscopy - one tube blocked, 2 IUIs with Follistim...BFNs.
RPL testing all normal, Karyotyping normal

Moving on to IVF.

IVF #1 April 2012 = BFN, IVF #2 June 2012 = BFP. U/S 7/23 = saw heartbeat but measuring behind. Follow up U/S on 7/30 - no heartbeat. D&C 8/2. Trisomy 12. IVF #3 Oct 2012 = Chemical Pregnancy

Phone consult with CCRM on 12/12/12 - ODWU 1/4/13 - both tubes clear(!) - AFC 24, AMH 3.2, FSH 9.6, LH 5.4, E2 25. DH has high frag rate but improved!
IVF #4 March 2013 CCRM. EP protocol w/ Menopur, Gonal-F & Dexamethasone. ER 3/29 & IMSI, PICSI. 43R 13M 10F 6blasts bio'd. CCS testing reveals 3 normals!!!
FET 5/31/13 of 1 4AA blast - thawed and expanded. 4dp5dt BFP.
Beta 9dp5dt = 181, 11dp5dt = 427




"I'm not telling you it's going to be easy, I'm telling you it's going to be worth it."

Everybody is welcome!!!  
11-06-2012 at 11:59 AM
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MamaGigi80:
I love seeing the beta updates! Personally, they give me hope that IVF/IUI does work!

Keep posting my positive sistas!

I'm with you.  I really enjoy seeing people's updates as it does give me hope and I've followed a lot of these people through their whole cycle (or many cycles) so I want to see how they're doing.  I almost wish more people would come back and post their first u/s results as well, especially since we don't have a grad check-in on this board.  I'm always curious how many people see multiples.

I have loved to see how supportive everyone is here on this board with the posts of multiplie beta results and sometimes even u/s results so I hope it keeps up.
Me: 41 DH: 37 - AMA, DOR
BFP 2.12.2012, c/p 2.17.2012
IUIs 1-3 = BFFN :(
IVF #1 - Sept 2012 = BFFN :(
IVF #2 - Dec 2012 = BFP!! EDD 9/4/2013
Beta #1 = 107, Beta #2 = 4,650!! U/S 1/15/2013
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11-06-2012 at 12:03 PM
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Oh god no, personally, I would never call someone out on posting any of this!

It is very true about the in between time, it's the worst and I've been there. It's very important these ladies feel welcome and supported.
Me (31) DOR/ MH (34) azoo/high DFI TTC#1 since 2009 IVF #1 cancelled dt poor response/ IVF #2 & #3: BFFN/ Natural Surprise BFP, early m/c -endometrial bx & methotrexate administered/ IVF#4:nothing to transfer/ DS IUI#1 BFN/ DS IUI#2 BFN/ IVF#5 (1st w/ DS):another BFFN/ Currently planning on DE and DS cycle Summer 2013. This has to be it- 
11-06-2012 at 12:04 PM
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Juicy71:

MamaGigi80:
I love seeing the beta updates! Personally, they give me hope that IVF/IUI does work!

Keep posting my positive sistas!

I'm with you.  I really enjoy seeing people's updates as it does give me hope and I've followed a lot of these people through their whole cycle (or many cycles) so I want to see how they're doing.  I almost wish more people would come back and post their first u/s results as well, especially since we don't have a grad check-in on this board.  I'm always curious how many people see multiples.

I have loved to see how supportive everyone is here on this board with the posts of multiplie beta results and sometimes even u/s results so I hope it keeps up.

Is there a reason there isn't a grad check-in? I think this might be a solution for the multiple beta posts if that's the consensus. People can post those results in the grad posts and then people can come back and update on u/s etc. This would also be a warning for those who don't want to see the updates that they don't have to click in that post. Thoughts?? 
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IUIs #1 - #3 (August - October '12) = BFFN
IVF #1.1 (Nov/Dec '12): Cancelled due to 18mm cyst - UGH
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EDD October 14, 2013
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11-06-2012 at 12:05 PM
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I personally love to see the beta updates, but I realize everyone is different. It gives me hope every time I see one of us with those doubling betas! 

Me: 35, DH: 36, ttc: 3+ years, dx: unknown
10/11: after 2 years, saw a RE, FSH 5.4
11/11: BFP! (surprise after thyroid med & normal hsg),
12/11: missed m/c after 7 week u/s,
1/12: D&C,
6/12 IUI #1: clomid, 5 mature follicles, excellent sperm,= BFN,
7/12: IUI #2: clomid, 3 mature follicles, excellent sperm= BFN,
8/12: IUi #3: clomid, 5 follicles, = BFP!, C/P
10/12 IVF #1: FSH 5.4, estradiol AFC: 14, long Lupron 150/bravelle75,5R/5M/4F, all 4 made it to 5dt, 1 blast and 1 8 cell transferred. No frosties. BFN
IVF #2: AFC 21, MD lupron 12/25, 225bravelle/150men, 4R/4M/3F, 5dt of 1 blast BFN
IVF #3: natural start antagon, starting 3/30, ER 4/11, 12R,11M,10F
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11-06-2012 at 12:06 PM
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CutieGirlLissie:

Also, my one question to your proposal: will updating the old thread bump it up to the top as if it is a new thread? Or will I have to scroll back pages and pages to find their first beta post to check for an update? Cause I wouldn't like that at all...  

My viewing preference is set to "Last Post Date" in "Descending" order, so that older posts rise to the top when someone posts in them.

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FSH= 5.4, AFC= 11 Dx: Unexplained w/2% morphology
IUI 1-3: Clomid, Gonal F, Ovidrel + Prometrium = BFN
Acupuncture starting January 2012; IUI 4-5: Gonal F, Ovidrel + Prometrium = BFFN
IVF #1 (Antagonist) w/ICSI & AH: ER 8/7/12--7R/4M/4F; ET 2-8-cells + 1-7-cell embies= BFN
IVF #2 (MDLF)w/ICSI & AH: ER 11/26/12--23R/14M/6F ET 11/29 1 early morula + 2 8-cells; Beta 1 (15dp3dt)= 408; Beta 2 (17dp3dt)= 649 Beta scare :/ ; Beta 3 (19dp3dt)= 1485; 1st u/s 12/28/12= 1 sac with 2 HBs 113bpm EDD= 8/19/13; MIssed MC of identical twin boys D&C @ 8w3d on 1/10/13

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11-06-2012 at 12:16 PM
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asilwhite:
Juicy71:

MamaGigi80:
I love seeing the beta updates! Personally, they give me hope that IVF/IUI does work!

Keep posting my positive sistas!

I'm with you.  I really enjoy seeing people's updates as it does give me hope and I've followed a lot of these people through their whole cycle (or many cycles) so I want to see how they're doing.  I almost wish more people would come back and post their first u/s results as well, especially since we don't have a grad check-in on this board.  I'm always curious how many people see multiples.

I have loved to see how supportive everyone is here on this board with the posts of multiplie beta results and sometimes even u/s results so I hope it keeps up.

Is there a reason there isn't a grad check-in? I think this might be a solution for the multiple beta posts if that's the consensus. People can post those results in the grad posts and then people can come back and update on u/s etc. This would also be a warning for those who don't want to see the updates that they don't have to click in that post. Thoughts?? 

Hmm, now I like that idea a lot! I would love to hear updates and follow many ladies through their pregnany. It will be marked, so if anyone is having a particularly difficult day, you can just skip it. My reference to multiple betas was more the 3+, not 1 and 2.

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11-06-2012 at 12:29 PM
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I completely understand both sides! I think we should def. have a grad check in day, which would help maybe. Personally, I don't mind the Beta posts, as I know so much can happen even after that 1st beta. I would say though that if is is an issue with most, maybe we can do like someone mentioned 3T and list BFP, and then update that. Plus with having grad check in you won't miss anyone. I can see how it could get awkard after a couple of posts.

It sucked more seeing my name in the BFN column, to be honest. I felt like I should have a dunce cap on lol. All kidding aside, I tend to be optimistic so a lot of these ladies I have watched them get dx and to see them get a happy ending is nice. IDK this one is tough.

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I can really see where the original poster is coming from.  That said, I don't really think it is my place to comment on what people can or can't post.  If I know something is going to bother or upset me, I just don't open it.

I'm pretty sure that I am now in the midst of a chemical pregnancy from a second donor cycle right now, so not much gives me hope.  For alot of ladies, DE is the "last resort" treatment in the process, and even that can't work for me. I can see how posts of success might for ladies earlier on in the process, however.

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2/12-5/12: 4 IUI cycles = all BFN;
7/12: DE IVF # 1 (with ICSI)- 20R, 16M, 14F, 5DT of 2 blasts (4AB & 3BB); 6 frosties = BFN;
Lupus anticoagulant initially high, then found to be normal on hematology consult;
Follow up testing in September all clear;
Started synthroid for "high normal" TSH;
FET # 1- late October 2012- BFP on FRER; beta # 1- 21(low), beta # 2- 48 (still low), beta # 3- 132, beta # 4- 1,293; beta # 5- 5,606; last beta- over 100,000. First u/s 11/21- heard heartbeat
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11-06-2012 at 1:15 PM
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I completely agree with you, and I've been wanting to say the same thing for a while!!!!  I'm most definitely supportive of those moving onto PAIF, but IMHO the multiple beta posts have gotten a little out of control lately. I remember when I was on 3T, their policy is to have one BFP post and I much prefer that, personally. Maybe even one BFP post and then one beta post even, but four posts about beta progress and ultrasound seems like a little much.

I don't think that someone neccessarily has to stop posting on IF once they get their BFP and aren't ready to move onto PAIF, because I know there are a lot of anxieties that come after the BFP, but I just don't think they need to create multiple posts about their progress.

Maybe we can do a IF board check-in if ladies would like to keep tabs on those who are pregnant, like 3T and IFV does?

TTC #1 since Oct 2009, Dx: Unexplained Infertility
HSG: Right tube all clear, left tube inconclusive
3 failed Clomid Cylces
4/5 lap revealed blocked left tube, but right tube is open
April/May- 50 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI #1= CANCELLED left ovary ovulating
June 1- 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI #1 = BFN
June 28- 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI #2 =BFP!
7/12 Beta #1= 14 Beta #2= >5 Chemical Pregnancy :(
July-Nov long break to recover emotionally and financially
Nov 24- 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI #3= BFN
Jan 22- Gonal-F + Ovidrel + IUI# 4 = CANCELLED no response on right
IVF #1- Start stims 4/7, ER 4/20, 21R, 14F, 6 frosties, ET 4/25, 2 embryos transferred= BFN :(
FET #1- June 2012, Lurpon starts 5/27- CANCELLED
FET #1 take 2- August 2012, delayed until Sept-CANCELLED
FET #1 take 3- ET 10/11, 2 embryos transferred,= BFFN
FET #2- Transfer 12/4--Cancelled, no embies survived thaw :(
Next steps-- IVF #2 with new RE in March
HOLY SURPRISE BFP 2/15/13!!!! Beta 1- 286, Beta 2- 782, U/S shows baby in uterus and healthy heartbeat


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11-06-2012 at 1:19 PM
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Personally I do not feel comfortable moving to the PAIF until I see the heartbeat. Just because betas are rising doesn't mean you will have a successful pregnancy.  I would hate to make an intro and then have something go wrong at the us.   

That being said I had planned on sharing my 2nd beta results and that was it. If there was an issue after that I would come for support but I remember how I felt after my failed cycle and how bad it stung.  I do think that it has gotten a little ridiculous on 3 or more beta posts, and us post, and a goodbye post.  I feel that if people wanted to follow me they could lurk on PAIF. 

After reading this I will not post my 2nd beta results as I do not want to hurt anyone's feelings.  I truly hope that everyone gets their positive beta soon.
TTC#1 since April 2011
IVF#1 July 2012 5R, 3 made it to blast, sET c/p
FET#1 Aug 2012 2 blasts transferred BFN
IVF#2 Oct 2012
16R/6M/6F/2-8 cell grade 1 transfer
Beta 1-237.9, Beta 2-566, Beta 3-8657
US 6w3d shows one baby w/ HB 115
US 7w1d no more heartbeat/ D&C 11/30/12 normal karyotype
IVF#3 Mar 2013
6R/4M/4F 1 compacting and 2-8 cell transfer
ectopic pg MTX given 3 month break from TTC
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11-06-2012 at 1:28 PM
mpetri
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I have been on both side...

1st IVF ending in a Chemical Pregnancy

2nd IVF ending in a positive (currently).

IMO I enjoy seeing the 1st and 2nd Beeta numbers being posted....Dealing with Infertility for over 3 years I love being able to support people when they get Negative ands Postivies.  We are suppose to support each other through ALL parts of this VERY difficult journey.  I have learned SOOOOO much over the last 3 years from each and every one of you Ladies! 

Main problem I have with some Positve posts are the drive bys....
<center>Me: 31, DH: 37, TTC #1 since 06/09, dx: Endometriosis diagnosed by Dr during ER
02/10-low progesterone on 21 day bloodwork (5.2); on hold due to cyst
04/2010-9/2010 6 failed Clomid cycles with TI (unmonitored)=BFN 4/10 SA= perfect
8/10-HSG all clear
9/10-started seeing RE
10/10-Femara + TI= BFN
11/2010 through 2/2011 IUI #1-3 Femara + Ovidrel=BFN
03/2011 through 8/2011 BREAK CYCLES (had 8 babyshower to go to, house remodel, 30th b-day and College Graduation)
9/2011-Started back to RE, waiting on cycle due to it being late, and work travel had to hold off IUI #4 till 10/2011
10/2011- IUI #4 on hold due to cyst, 2 weeks BCP
11/2011- IUI #4 (11-21-2011?) Femara + Follistim + Ovidrel=Converted over to T.I. (NO Trigger) due to too many follicles=BFN
3 cysts due to follistim cycle
January 2012=IVF #1 cancelled and converted to IUI #4 due to dominant follicles=BFNN
IVF 1.2=??? on hold due to cysts, on hold w/o B.C. till they resolve
br> Aug 2012 IVF 1.2, cyst aspiration 8/7, ER8/16, Dr found Endometriosis in Left tube during ER ER:7, Fert 5, 5DT scheduled 8/21/2012, transfered 2 Blasts, hpt + 8/28/2012, beta 8/31/2012-BFP -21(chemical pregnancy
IVF #2 October 2012
ER 10/13/2012, 6R,5M,3F
10/15/12 ET:3dt 2 embies
+HPT 6dp 3dt.
1st beta 10/29/12 Positive 13dp 3dt=654
2nd Beta: 10/31/2012: 1,836
3rd beta 11/5/2012 (20dp 3dt:13,655
1st u/s 11/12/12 TWINS!!! 2nd u/s 11/26/12
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11-06-2012 at 1:36 PM
BzeetyD
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BellaLux:
asilwhite:
Juicy71:

MamaGigi80:
I love seeing the beta updates! Personally, they give me hope that IVF/IUI does work!

Keep posting my positive sistas!

I'm with you.  I really enjoy seeing people's updates as it does give me hope and I've followed a lot of these people through their whole cycle (or many cycles) so I want to see how they're doing.  I almost wish more people would come back and post their first u/s results as well, especially since we don't have a grad check-in on this board.  I'm always curious how many people see multiples.

I have loved to see how supportive everyone is here on this board with the posts of multiplie beta results and sometimes even u/s results so I hope it keeps up.

Is there a reason there isn't a grad check-in? I think this might be a solution for the multiple beta posts if that's the consensus. People can post those results in the grad posts and then people can come back and update on u/s etc. This would also be a warning for those who don't want to see the updates that they don't have to click in that post. Thoughts?? 

Hmm, now I like that idea a lot! I would love to hear updates and follow many ladies through their pregnany. It will be marked, so if anyone is having a particularly difficult day, you can just skip it. My reference to multiple betas was more the 3+, not 1 and 2.

BIG thumbs up to a grad check in!!!!

This would give the ladies in limbo a spot to feel they can post, those who have moved on to still show support and I think give those who want to find hope in other's stories.

GREAT IDEA!!!

Is someone willing to head this up? Maybe a recent well-known grad?

BzeetyD = 37, Mr. BzeetyD = 43 together 12/02 married 9/08
TTC #1 since 1/10
DX: Unexplained/MFI issues

Our lil' lost sparks:
5w3d loss 7/30/10 - EDD March 2011
8w loss 4/15/11 - EDD November 2011
8w3d loss 8/2/12 - EDD March 2012
4w c/p loss 10/29/12 - EDD July 2012

Long story: trying on our own + testing testing testing with 6 rounds of Clomid, more testing, injectables + TI, laparoscopy - one tube blocked, 2 IUIs with Follistim...BFNs.
RPL testing all normal, Karyotyping normal

Moving on to IVF.

IVF #1 April 2012 = BFN, IVF #2 June 2012 = BFP. U/S 7/23 = saw heartbeat but measuring behind. Follow up U/S on 7/30 - no heartbeat. D&C 8/2. Trisomy 12. IVF #3 Oct 2012 = Chemical Pregnancy

Phone consult with CCRM on 12/12/12 - ODWU 1/4/13 - both tubes clear(!) - AFC 24, AMH 3.2, FSH 9.6, LH 5.4, E2 25. DH has high frag rate but improved!
IVF #4 March 2013 CCRM. EP protocol w/ Menopur, Gonal-F & Dexamethasone. ER 3/29 & IMSI, PICSI. 43R 13M 10F 6blasts bio'd. CCS testing reveals 3 normals!!!
FET 5/31/13 of 1 4AA blast - thawed and expanded. 4dp5dt BFP.
Beta 9dp5dt = 181, 11dp5dt = 427




"I'm not telling you it's going to be easy, I'm telling you it's going to be worth it."

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11-06-2012 at 2:14 PM
MrsGlitter...
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I know this is just an open discussion but my opinions seem to be a little different than what was shared above. So I thought I would share.

I feel like the more rules we have the more unwelcoming this board will be and if we're going to lend support it should be for the whole journey. Just because someone is able to achieve the ultimate goal of a BFP doesn't mean they should feel like they are going to get the boot asap. 

I get that some days are sh!ttier than others, and some days you just can't bear to hear about others successes. The majority of us are not sharing such preliminary information like BFPs and U/S in real life so where would we be able to share it?

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11-06-2012 at 2:27 PM
Km672
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Good point, don't want this board to be unwelcoming or unsupportive in any way.

Do others feel that updates on an original thread takes away from the excitement/celebration in all of it? I ask because I felt it might be a place to keep posting how things are progressing and allow fellow bumpies to continue to offer support.
Again, whatever is ultimately decided is totally fine with me and should be what is agreed upon to be best for the members of this board.
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11-06-2012 at 6:49 PM
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MrsGlitteryHooks:

I know this is just an open discussion but my opinions seem to be a little different than what was shared above. So I thought I would share.

I feel like the more rules we have the more unwelcoming this board will be and if we're going to lend support it should be for the whole journey. Just because someone is able to achieve the ultimate goal of a BFP doesn't mean they should feel like they are going to get the boot asap. 

I get that some days are sh!ttier than others, and some days you just can't bear to hear about others successes. The majority of us are not sharing such preliminary information like BFPs and U/S in real life so where would we be able to share it?

I totally agree and couldn't have worded it better. This board has literally been a life saver for me over the last 6 months. I can't even put into words how I feel about each and every one of you ladies and I don't know what I would have done if I didn't have you all to talk to.

I know nothing has been decided but I'm already feeling like the rules are piling up and it's overwhelming to be honest. My beta is tomorrow. Is it ok for me to post if it's a BFN because that won't be hurtful for anyone? But if it's a BFP am I to just cold turkey leave you guys, literally my only IF family,  and move over to PAIF? There's been a lot of talk today about people feeling out of place and not knowing where they belong and I get that. But I think by putting so many restrictions on what people can and can't post it is only creating more people who feel displaced. Just my humble opinion... 
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5/2012 1st IUI, 100mg Clomid, Only 1 Follie - BFN
6/2012 2nd IUI, 150mg Clomid+Menopur, 18 Follies (yikes,too many!!) and Mild OHSS - Cancelled
8/2012 Begin 1st IVF, Menopur+Bravelle+Ganirelix
8/11/2012 ER, Holy Crap we had 31 eggs!! Developed Severe OHSS - Delayed with 10 Frosties
9/2012 Begin 1st FET, Delestrogen+PIO+Crinone
9/13/2012 1st FET, 2 Beautiful Embies... 9/25/2012 Beta - BFN
10/2012 Begin 2nd FET, Delestrogen+PIO+Crinone
10/26/2012 2nd FET, 2 Beautiful Embies...11/7/2012 Beta - BFP
...1st Beta (11/7): 251...2nd Beta (11/9): 618...3rd Beta (11/15): 5,870
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